Is it normal we are dating and he sent me nudes
Im dating a longterm friend and he wanted to exchange nudes. I told him no. Ive never had sex, but he doesnt know that. He likely assumes I have since i've had a relationship before.
He claimed nudes can be sweet between couples and then sent me one to "prove" it. I told him that its still not my thing and he said he gets it and wouldnt ever demand that I send him anything.
I told him I am demisexual and he asked me if I feel strong enough for him to "make love to each other", then said he identifies with demisexuality too. He has in the past mentioned that so it checks out. He's always been very unfiltered about all topics but I was grossed out by the sex talk, which he has stopped and said it's something couples need to discuss but we'll take the rest "in bed" when its time when I feel ready. I'm still shaken by having witnessed his genitals and havent talked to him much since. I have a difficult relationship to sexuality which seems to be related to shame, even though ive never been taught that its shameful. I know its related to shame because part of me was curious when he sent the image but I felt so shameful I just scrolled past it quickly and went to bed with lots of anxiety and contradicting emotions.
He's only had long distance relationships so he's used to nudes and it wouldnt surprise me if his most recent gf was a camwhore. She did play him, leading him on. He always falls for toxic women and each time he says he's learned his lesson. He's socially awkward and probably easy to lead on and i'm tired of it. He deserves better.
I feel unsure of him now because nudes to me is something nasty, cold insulting so I struggle to see how loving couples could send each other those and not just be using each other for sex. Is that something couples do, exchange nudes? We have a distance between us too, does that mean we have to send each other nudes inbetween seeing each other?