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I am terrified of dying! Just the thought scares the heck outa me! How am i gonna die, when am i gonna die, is it gonna hurt, what will it feel like? Im constantly wondering if im going to go to hell and sometimes i do wonder if there is a heaven or hell or where the heck im gonna go after i die. Is this normal? I believe in god but someimtes ijust wonder...
everybody goes through times when they think about death. It is a very scary thing to think about mostly because we don't know what happens when we die. The fear of the unknown is one of the scariest fears that exists. but sweetie, let me ask you this, if you are spending a lot of your time thinking about death and the future, what are you missing today? if I learned anything, it is this. The past and the present are ok to think about, but you have to concentrate more on the now because that is whats most important. if you spend all your time thinking about death, then you missing all the little great things about life. Like cherishing the time we have with the people that we love. instead of thinking about death every day, think "what can I do today that can make me happy and make my life the best life I can possibly live."
When I was 21
yo old I used t
o think of death and it would scare me. How
would I die, when, will I be painful?. I spent many nights worrying about it, then at the age of 24 some friends and I went on a camping trip in mountains of eastern oregon. I was in one car with a friend, while the other group followed behind. Now this is shortly before winter started but in the higher elevations on oregon it snow all the time, being from cali I never knew any of this. So anyway 5 miles from our campsite we hit a patch of black ice, went off road and hit a tree. After that everything went black and the most peaceful feeling came over me. Words alone can not began to express what it felt
like. I felt no fear or pain or sadness, just pe
ace. Anyway I work up two weeks later in a portland oregon hospital with broken bones
and missing one leg. I later learned that I was pretty much dead when we reached the ER. I know what I feels like to be scared of death, but that day changed me. Don't fear it, it will happen to us all and worrying about it won't add a another day to your life. Shit, I had to die in order to live!
the fantasy of hell is just something the church created to draw fear in peoples hearts so they could keep control.you should never b afraid to die because when you die u r aware of nothing and feel nothing.also death covers over all sins. if you really believe in god then you need to believe that if hes supposed to be so merciful why would he condemn you in torture for an eternity. its ridiculous and pointless
I disagree with you about Hell being a fantasy to scare people. It is mentioned in the bible several times of the existence of Hell & Jesus died on the cross to forgive us all and all you have to believe is that Jesus DID die for us all. But I think it is quite normal to be afraid of dying. Not too many people can honestly say that they arent afraid.
Death is inevitable and you must accept this because someday it WILL happen. But now is not the time to dwell on it.
You are only given one life to live so spending it in fear of death is a waste. You have no control of when your death will be so live your live to the fullest.
Atheist here so sorry but I don't believe in heaven nor hell so I can't help you there. But I would not worry about that at all.
Thanatophobia, or fear of death, is a relatively complicated phobia. Many, if not most, people are afraid of dying. Some people fear being dead, while others are afraid of the actual act of dying. However, if the fear is so prevalent as to affect your daily life, then you might have a full-blown phobia. Many people’s fear of death is tied into their religious beliefs, particularly if they happen to be going through a period of questioning. Some people think that they know what will happen after death, but worry that they may be wrong. Some believe that the path to salvation is very straight and narrow, and fear that any deviations or mistakes may cause them to be eternally condemned.Religious beliefs are highly personalized, and even a therapist of the same general faith may not fully understand a client’s beliefs. If the fear of death is religiously based, it is often helpful to seek supplemental counseling from one’s own religious leader. However, this should never be used to replace traditional mental health counseling. Thanatophobia may also have roots in fears of the unknown. It is part of the human condition to want to know and understand the world around us. What happens after death, however, cannot be unequivocally proven while we are still alive. People who are highly intelligent and inquisitive are often at greater risk for this type of thanatophobia, as are those who are questioning their own philosophical or religious beliefs.
It's not important that you die. Lots of people have done it, and no one gets out of this life alive.
What's important is what you do with the little bit of time you have left.
I'm a christian, and supposed to not be scared of death, and excited about meeting God or whatever, but i'm REALLY scared about it! I keep worrying, what if my whole religion is wrong, and even though there really is a heaven and hell i go to hell instead of heaven? or what if re incarnation is real, and i turn into something like an ugly person or an animal or something? or what if after i die i just lay there, awake and aware, but can't move? it'd suck!! i'm not supposed to think like that, since i'm a christian and "have no reason to be afraid" but what if my pastor's...wrong? because, there'd have to be a whole lot of other wrong religions for mine to be right, who's to say mine really is the right one?
There's no avoiding it. Don't worry about it. Just live life to the fullest every day. I believe in Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. I believe in God and heaven. You should go to a local church and get involved. Once you have found your faith, you won't fear it anymore. You won't look forward to it but you won't be afraid.
You should be more scared of what nice things you going to miss in life while thinking of death!Better stop thinking right now because it wont get you anywhere!
If you're afraid, it shows that you need to figure out a solution to overcome the fear.
Stop being afraid, and focus on living a great life because you have been given one.
With my seizures, I don't fall over and froth at the mouth - instead, my sense of self disappears as I watch; usually in horror. I think I can safely say that I have died hundreds and hundreds of times. Imagine the most insane paradox being played right before your eyes, and then imagine being sucked into it. Since you will only die once, I think you'll probably find death to be a pretty fascinating experience...not a scary one. As far as the afterlife is concerned, my opinion is that "you" probably won't be the one experiencing it, so don't worry! ^^
I'm scared shitless of death, and I feel bad for every death really, and I do know that at least a hundred people have died while I type this message, and I'm a fast typer so...
Well I don't believe in god or heaven or hell, and if I did I think I wouldn't be so scared of death, because what is there to fear? I don't think I would have much respect for life though either if I knew that those that were good go to heaven and those that were bad go to hell, where they deserve.
Do you remember being born? Probably not, right? Well, I don't think dying will be that dramatic for you either. So many people think 'death' is going to be like this significant phase in their lives, like marriage, or losing one's virginity, going away to college, etc. The truth is: you could just be going to get some potatoes one day and a motorcycle will slam into you - you'll be flipped four times, land on the cement, crack your skull and exhale your last right there, just like that. Big deal!
Many levels here:
1) the supernatural and an afterlife in heaven or hell ... personally beyond the mystery of what lies ahead, if anything, that's a stretch for me. But if it is a matter of faith for you, as it is for many, then you probably want to do what you need to to get to heaven.
2) the existential ... people can deny their anxiety about death as much as they like, but it is here, in the present, as much a reality of the moment as is life, and often defining life. So if you can make anxiety about death a determination to live well, as others have suggested, then good. Just don't paint a stupid happy face over it and deny that it is an issue.
3) corporeal reality ... since it is inevitable, fear of how we will die and pain is pretty realistic & one of the biggest fears. Anyone with life experience knows it can be a pretty awful experience, despite medical advances & braggadocio about "pain management." Assisted suicide? Hemlock Society? There's real merit in wanting to control when & how you die and not just leaving it to nature and other people imposing their fucked up values on your last moments.
i too am afraid to die, because i am afraid i might die while i am not on the Path of monotheism - worshipping only the Creator - and the prescribed way of living that all the prophets of God have called to. check out the website ShareIslam - hopefully it will give you the perspective you're looking for, before it's too late.
jesus, the nutcase who thought he could "save" the world, died.
dont believe in ridiculous child stories.
the bible has so many contradictions, they even have 2 floods.
and of course, god, all knowing, all wise, knew of only 3 continents--as notated in the bible.
its a fraud. use common sense, read a science book.
Dude, back when God made the earth, there probably was only 3 continents... duh. Our earth is ever changing. Plate tectonics, continents collide and then break apart. There used to be one continent called Pangaea too. Science proves God's existence. God knows all about this. And you just made the best point possible. What is 80 some years on earth compared to an eternity in heaven? This life is just the blink of an eye. This is our chance to love God with all our hearts and join Him in heaven. He doesn't want us all to die, He wants us to live! That's why the bible exists. If God hated us He would never have provided a savior to take the blame for us. He would have left us wondering how we got here and what the heck we're supposed to do. But He didn't, He saved us. All you have to do is confess with your mouth that Jesus is your savior, that He died on the cross and God raised Him from the dead, and that He took your punishment upon Himself so you could be free and not worry about death. Believe that truthfully in your heart and man death sounds stinkin awesome now! To fall asleep with Christ in your heart is the ultimate goal! And It is by His grace that we are saved.
I figure if u are scared rather or not if your gonna go to hell, then do something to fix that problem....go get saved repent your sins. The main thing is you do believe in a god. Sometimes I wonder myself do u just die and that's it or do u continue to live on in Heaven. I am scared cause I haven't done everything I wanted to do yet.
read up on darwinism. i will summarize:
1) more creatures are born than can possibly survive due to limited resources, etc.
2) characteristics of some creatures enhance likelihood for reproduction.
3) those that can reproduce are evolutionary successes. those that cannot, their line dies forever with them.
in sum, there are no rules to life. no guarantees. what you are born with, you have. forever and ever.
in short, you will die. i will die.
who cares?
religion is a fraud--science has so disproven religion, its not even discussed.
if you are looking for the meaning of life, etc., you should open a science book--read up on evolution (darwins dangerous idea).
that is a good place to start.
who cares if you are afraid to die? you will only die once anyways. and then you are gone forever.
and when you die, you are only remembered via the memories of others. and then when they die, you die.
i dont thank dyeing is scary i thank it would be fun to be a ghost and haunt the freak out of ppl
I'm afraid of dying because of my boys. Just the thought of not being with them everyday scares me!! . I lost my mom in 2003 and I don't think i fully coped with it.
I know this is an old topic, but i read all the comments and i would like to write my experience as well.
On my 17s till my 20s i used to think a lot about ''religion,the meaning of life,where we will go when we die?'' stuff like that, so i was checking in internet about solutions,answers etc. etc. i started getting really scared i couldn't even sleep for weeks,i was getting drunk in order to avoid it,after i mixed all these ''answers'' i found myself in deepshit,i stopped worrying about my life,my body,whether i die or not, it was like my brain was switched off the real world and i was just a ''living body''
After that, in my thoughts i wanted so much with all my might to find the meaning of life and death so one day it was when i started observing plants,insects every living being, i was observing nature,every living being which from my younger age i was respecting life no matter what it is, because i found that life is really precious,i saw in nature a link to everything,so i started thinking what if we all are the same person but we dont know it,what if we(nature) are coming from the same thing,what if we are the god?you know life doesn't exist only in this planet, there are trillions of planets with life. so start thinking from this day,that whatever will happen when you die, know this, life continues, it's just as you see the leaves falling from the tree on Autumn and reborn at Spring.
Look everybody, I had this out of body experience when I was having an anxiety attack. This was more then real. I'm telling you hell is worse then you think. Its as if your having an anxiety attack with major depression and failure an despair and you think your dying. However, you can't even kill yourself; its nothing physical at all its just spirit. Eternal; and instead of praying you know you may have to beg to God to take you; although you have a feeling that won't even work. You will have to beg to your evil spirit who controls your soul. You can't kill yourself its eternal kinda slave like. you have to completely submit. Its all eternal forever forever forever.
I had this OBE experience as well,to tell you the truth i thought that i was being attacked by a ghost when i was sleeping,
the feeling was really horrifying, i was sleeping and somehow in my dream a very very loud deformed-woman-voice call it whatever you like it was Screaming in my ears,at the same second something really big and heavy fell on my chest(at first i thought the floor fell on me and i died), the screaming voice was continuing in my ears, i woke up(my eyes were open i mean) i couldn't move but only my head could turn left and right,i turned somehow to the left and my eyes as well, i saw a little girl(around 7yrs i would say) with white or red dress idk exactly i dont remember the colour, but it had black long hair, i tried to see her face but it was blurry, so i couldn't see her face clearly,i believe it was torturing me for real, i got shitted myself so i stopped moving ,stopped thinking,stopped breathing normally,i waited 3 hours like that until morning came, i believed i was being attacked by a ghost for real but meh it was just OBE which later i mean i found answers about it, it was a lot like what i felt.
Yes I think it is normal to be afraid of dying. If we weren't then people would be walking in busy traffic, jumping off a building or committing suicide. It gives us a reason to respect and value our lives for as long as we can.
i don't know how old u are, but i was terrified of death when i was young..it's part of growing up it will pass try not to think about it..i know it's hard..to be honest no one really knows how they will die..you just have to remember that god is looking over you and he will be there for you when your time comes...you have a long time to go b4 you have to worry about this..go live your life and be happy it's not worth thinking about right now....
Not really normal in my opinion. But then again...most of the world isn't normal. Personally i'm not afraid of dying. Just about the fact how im going to die. E.g. quickly, slowly, painfully.
life's a garden. dig it.
OK, that was gay. I'm scared to die too. It's only natural. But the more you think about it, the less you should be afraid, really.
I consider myself an Atheist. But one DEFINITIVE conclusion that I have come to about death is this: NOBODY knows.
Whatever you imagine it will be like, is what it will be like. There are places in my head that remind me of it,, like deja vu,,, like I've been there before.
just live today and dont think about dying then. :) you shouldnt be afraid of it anyway, its going to happen to everyone. just enjoy your life, you only get one.
I really wish that all the ideas that you all have were at least true, but it only scares me and causes pain to my heart that none of you is even near to the truth. Reality is different then the dreams that you all have is ETERNITY of suffering or enjoyment. Is time to wake up people and not be so blind, if all of us had maybe the opportunity to die for a minute and come back to life just to see what happens after death maybe we wouln't be talking stupidity or making up lies just to make someone feel better or to keep our own fears away.
There is no god, there is no heaven or hell. The sooner you learn that, the less time you'll waste.
It's so sad that some people are so sure that THERE IS NO heaven or hell, that when we die is over finito! But the truth is another one THERE IS HELL AND HEAVEN and i'm not talking about right now on earth but after death there is another life, one which you have the option to choose at this moment while you're still b reathing. Hopefully you will all come out of the lies in which satan has you trapped. No Hell or Heaven, Reincarnation! who came up with that stuff? Oh yeah the lying devil which wants to confuse evryone so he doesn't go to hell by itself. Look for "A DIVINE REVELATION OF HELL" But you will all probably think it's just fiction anyways, it's up to you to choose what you're destiny will be after death.
I don't mean to trivialize life, but I guess I could say the old adage: 'death is a part of life,' just like gravity or light or air is...it's bound to happen just like digesting your lunch or having dreams at night. It's just another law of the world we live in. It's just as real as rocks or dirt or plants...you get the picture
Every man dies, few really live.
I no more worry about death than I worrie about being born.
(google the above paraphased quotes for sources)
If you don't die, then you live forever-- so see everyone you love die? The fear of death can be a fear of all ending, in which cse you won't notice. A fear of going to Hell, so do good. A fear of losing relationships? Relationships change.
If you keep thinking about death and how terrified of it you are, then your life is going to suck and you will be on your deathbed wondering what the hell you did with your life.
You live in America. I've noticed that here in America this is common; so is fear of nudity. IDK y though; we have the some of the lowest morals.......
I feel the same way. I went through a very bad time when death was all I though about. It;s taste to say that I most likely have anxiety and or depression. If you find yourself thinking about it constantly, please seek some help. If you think about death too much , you're already dead inside.
For all God does for us, it's really nothing just to trust him. Then we get to be in heaven and be happy forever! Also, if I'm right about God (and I know I am), I win, and those who don't believe lose--big time. If I'm wrong, whatever; doesn't matter either way. I was still a good person. So I'm not afraid of death. It's the process of dying I'm a little nervous about.
if you spend your life afraid of death you wont have the opprotunity to live your life to the fullest!
dont worry about it, death can be anything, the longer you dwell on it the more your of your life your wasting if its bad your worrying wont change it, if its good, your worrying wont change it, whatever it is your worrying wont change it. i think its the same as a dream, if im in a good mood i have good dreams etc. same with death, if you think its gonna be bad it will be. i believe your conciousness lives on and it creates whatever afterdeath you expect
I also wonder, sometimes, however I know I am going to heaven and I know it is there. There is something worse than death and that is wasted life. We will all die one day but for now just get on with life
Living forever is much more horrifying then dying. All of our times come, worrying about it won't make it go away. We can't do anything but attempt to enjoy the time we have left and hope that we die without regrets.
I'm terrified of death! It scares me so, so much.
Just try what I'm doing and 'live for the moment' sort of thing. It's working for me.
I really try to believe in god, but they have practically proved that there is no god. But I know what you mean! where are we going to go? to a whole new universe and star our lives over and over again everytime we die? I am so scared of what might happen. Well, I guess we are just going to have to live our lives and then see.
the courage to die gives you the courage to live. death is natural. being scared of it won't help any. if it's your time, it's your time, nothing can be done about it. just accept it and move on. if there's one thing we should fear, it's the fear of not dying.
i can say that i have to religion.
Im always questioning if im wrong like or if im right if when i die theres gonna be nothing or if im wrong when i die im gonna goto hell but i just wanna live my life without it being wasted away praying and not living to the full with all this purity crap. if i do wrong and my immortal soul will be punished so be it as long as i life a good fun life.
if you spend all ur time worrying about dying then you will miss your chance to live
If you want to be less afraid, LSD and MDMA work well. If you want to be more afraid of dying (more thankful that you're alive), try a ton of pure thc or a high dose of one of the deliriants. One use generally doesn't do that much damage but can change your view on life for a long time, positively or negatively.
As for religion they want you to believe in their beliefs so you keep coming back to check in and 'be good' and go to 'their heaven'. Earth is heaven, you are living ON it right now so enjoy it. There is no hell - hell is just a metaphor for 'a place you'd rather not be'. Read Gibran's The Prophet and know YOU are that a little piece of god unto yourself. The story/history of Jesus and all the dietys of all religions are metaphors for you relate to and remind you that you are very important - to you and those who love you -so love them back!
one more thing--you yourself are not important.
neither am i.
you will long be forgotten within a few yrs after you go.
the earth is what? 5 billion yrs old? the universe--15-20 billion years old?
the avg life span during the 1800s? 35-40 yrs?
who cares if you go?
well xoxoxo1234, we probably won't care if we never see a comment posted by you anymore, but for the other people we will care. certaintly we shouldn't care about you. lmao!
You and your stupid science you are probably already nuts! one who believes that humans evolutioned from monkeys. hell no I didn't come from no monkeys maybe you did, since you believe so much in your stupid science.
Maybe all the people that you strongly believe in now are probably whishing they would have never openned their stinking mouths! And you might also regret it one day.
Just think about it. What if one day you find out that what you strongly believed in is all wrong and you were so wrong! I feel sorry for you! And yeah I know you didn't mention monkeys but it's probably one of the ideas you believe in.
The only nutcase here is you xoxoxo1234.
i'm an athiest and i get suicidal all the time i'm not afraid of death i like it
but during this life i try to make the best of it and when i die leave a positive legacy for the people i care about