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Forgive them and forget or they will eat you alive.. but how? Forgiveness in my sense means, not letting the thoughts of the ordeal that caused the pain intrude into your mind or they will eat you alive.
Yes, forgiveness isn't about the other person. It about you not letting those negative feelings effect you.
I never forgive people who are assholes to me. I used to be very forgiving until my trust was taken advantage of and I was repeatedly betrayed and backstabbed so now I pretty much hate 99.9999% of the human population. You can thank the people who have bullied me for that.
If you have to ask then you're not up to it. Start by forgiving yourself.
Yes, it's normal to forgive in the sense of not allowing your anger towards them to have a hold over you. This doesn't mean you have to want them in your life or think what they did was okay, it just means that you're not holding a grudge that is poisoning your soul. I like to refer to the people I feel this way about as "dead to me". It is like they no longer exist in my mind, because I refuse to give them the time of day, nor to rent the space in my head to them.
Just understand that people aren't perfect. People make mistakes or are just plain assholes but either way it doesn't have anything to do with you. I just try to see life from the people who wronged me's perspective and most of the time they're sad people who's not had it easy. That doesn't give them any right to be assholes but it humanizes them and makes it easier to forgive and forget them.
Forgive them maybe but dont forget or they will do the same thing again.