Is he lying to me?

so i got this “burn after writing” book for my bf and i. there was this question asking who was your first love. we weren’t showing each other our answers bc the book kinda says not too. but later i asked “who’d you say for first love? me?” (because he always has said i am his first love) & he said “yeah babe” for some reason after that he went to the end of the counter and was writing stuff idk why bc at first we were sitting next to each other.

i had a weird feeling about the question idk why. later we got high and he was in the bathroom and i wanted to see what he wrote for it and there was nothing there. all the questions were filled like 15 of them and “first love” was like 10 or 11. he didn’t write my name it wasn’t filled out. i tried to let it go but it was rly bothering me, i was literally shaking and then i came clean and told him i looked in the book.

his excuse was “i was just doing it at a random order and i forgot to answer that one” and then he went on to write it right in front of me. but the thing is i asked him did you write my name and he said yes. he went on to say that he just must of forgot and realized and wanted to write it later. does this make sense? it made me rly sad because to me it’s either i wasn’t his first love and he just didn’t want to write the girls name down, or because he feels he hasn’t had one yet or maybe doesn’t know? idk he keeps saying i was his first and he got pretty upset and bummed on himself and now he’s just kinda mad bc i’m still sad about it.

i just wanna know your perspective

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  • ellnell

    I've never heard of such a book. What does it matter anyway? Yeah he shouldn't lie but what does it matter if he loved someone before you? It really shouldn't matter.

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    • it’s the fact that he said i was his first, he said he wrote my name down and he did not

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  • RoseIsabella

    That's what you get for looking in his book! Honestly, I've never heard of a burn after writing book, is it a type of journal that they sell at Barnes & Noble?

    I've had someone read my diary/journal without my permission when I you a young woman, and so I honestly think you kinda got what you deserved for going snooping even if you bought him the journal in question.

    Love is more than a feeling, it's an action, or in this case love would be a choice to not take an action. Reading another person's journal is a selfish, and unloving action.

    I rather suspect that you got these journals for the purpose of snooping in the first place in hope of fulfilling some sappy, romantic fantasy that you would both choose each other as your so called first loves. Life is not like a romantic comedy movie, or a romance novel, and the sooner you learn that the better.

    I'm certainly no fan of lying, or liars, but I can't sympathize with you on this one, because it just seems like so much of a set up on your part. So what if you weren't his first love? He had a life before he met you, and will continue to have a life when you two have parted. I'm not trying to get you all booty hurt, I'm just giving you a dose of reality.

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    • i didn’t get the book in hopes to snoop. i got high and had a gut feeling because he was acting suspicious. do you think he was telling me the truth with his explanation?

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      • RoseIsabella

        He was probably lying.

        When you say he was acting suspicious are you concerned that he is cheating on you, or is it that you're concerned over being afraid that he might not consider you his first live?

        You can't control whether, or not you're his first love. You can't change another person's past.

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        • i really don’t care if i was or wasn’t his first love. it doesn’t matter. the thing i care about is the fact that he said i was his first, said he wrote my name down and he did not.
          if he did lie, what do you think the point of it would be?

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          • RoseIsabella

            Probably lied out of guilt, but then again, maybe he didn't lie? Not much good comes out of reading another person's journal.

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  • bigbudchonga

    Nah, I think probably not. I'm a guy; we do this kind of shit. I'm very unperceptive, and I think guys and girls just have a different way of doing shit. I can see him being this disorganized.

    What jumps to mind is he looked through the questions and probably hit the ones that he found more interesting then forgot to fill in the other ones or just lost interest.

    If he was going to lie to you then he would have written your name anyway and you'd never know. Think about it; the only purpose of lying would be that he didn't want to lie to the book, lol, and if he was the type of person to lie to his girl friend over something like that then he wouldn't give a damn what some inanimate book had written in it. It's kind of hard to express in writing, but from a certain type of guy's perspective I can really see how he was just probably being a bit dopey here and didn't lie about you being his first love.

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  • MouldyClit

    LMAOOO some people here are so toxic :P

    No I don’t think he was lying to you, I’ve been in a similar situation before where I forget to write the answer down despite knowing it in the first place. We do this because the answer is obvious, and leave it for last as not to waste time.

    And even if he was lying to you, it shouldn’t matter. What matters is that you two are together now, and it’s understandable if he’s had a first love that wasn’t you (although he shouldn’t be lying to you).

    Don’t stress it, bro. You’re definitely just assuming things and if you really need to, have a talk with him about it. Addressing the issue before it can grow is always the best way to go.

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