Is it a bad thing if i cuddle my partner if i'm scared?

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Usually when I am really scared I go cuddling her and she tells me everything will be OK.

Like I know as a guy I shouldn't be too scared but is this normal?

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Based on 17 votes (13 yes)
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  • charli.m
    3 years ago | pl

    It's normal to look for comfort from someone you love and trust, regardless of gender. Ignore the edgelord troll wannabe.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Hi there,

      Its just I really thought this was a dumb question when I wrote this. I know some will agree and disagree of all things.

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      • charli.m
        3 years ago

        It's not a dumb question. There's lots of arseholes out there who make it their business to treat men like shit for totally normal and healthy emotions, so it's not surprising that you and other men may feel pressured into that unhealthy mindset.

        I wasn't saying YOU were the edgelord troll wannabe. Sorry if it seemed that way, I didn't mean it to :/

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Of what are you scared, OP?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Hello there RoseIsabella,

      The things I'm really scared of is when she introduces me to her friends ( I know this sounds stupid ), scared if I feel threatened by something and the list goes on I know that sounds weird too but I thought I'd might tell you.

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        Hmm... are you afraid her friends will judge you harshly?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          3 years ago

          Its because I never even met them and I get very scared easily.

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          • charli.m
            3 years ago

            Sounds like social/generalised anxiety. Increasingly common. If it's significantly impacting your life, could you see a therapist about learning coping techniques?

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    If a guy ever tried to do that with me, he would be straight out the door. You’re a man and you’re going crying to your girlfriend for protection? The more you do this, the more she will lose respect for you and soon she won’t even see you as a man at all.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Both you and I are different, I think differently my_life_my_way. Plus she doesn't lose respect she has plenty of respect for me. She does see me as a man in an overall perspective. I doubt she would send me out of the door.

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  • megadriver
    3 years ago

    I get that anxiety from meeting new people can be a bitch, (Sometimes I feel weird before meeting new people) but in my mind a man has to be tough and take the role of a protector and caregiver and comfort his girlfriend whenever she needs it. Not the other way 'round.

    I also understand us men aren't made of stone, we got emotions and very traumatic events can leave us absolutely shattered (death of a family member/ loved one/ friend, losing a job) and it's totally normal to seek shelter for your broken soul.

    But in general, do not show fear, or weakness as people can often use it against you. False friends, jerks at work, potential enemies...

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