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I like my boyfriend to slap, hit, choke me, alot. to the point of it hurting and/or making me cry. I like the idea of him bruising me and making me beg for him to stop. ive always been kinky but is this taking it to far?
Is it bad to be into all sorts of kinky shit? No, but you have to be careful. Especially with the choking - there could be a bad, bad accident if you catch my drift.
Also, as long as your relationship isn't abusive, all is fine. Just stay safe!
i don't care if it's normal it's incredibly hot
i wish it was more normal
What's kinky for one is normal for another. As long as you're both happy....
I would NEVER go to a counsellor to 'cure' me, I have way too much fun as a submissive. Let me clarify, I'm strictly bedroom only for the using and abusing of, and would never tolerate it in my real life. I would suggest that you might need to exercise caution and don't play these games with just anyone. I only play with people I trust and who take the responsibilities of being a Dom seriously. As long as your bf is playing by the rules (safe words, trust, respect etc)...Game on!
I have never had any sort of abuse, however I totally relate. I like to be bit till im bleeding, hit in the face, choked... anything goes.. bloody nose and all. I dont really think there is anything wrong with it, different things get different people off. I think your normal :)
It's normal to have kinks like that, but just be careful, okay?
Like Grymlocke said: safe word.
Your acting out something from a time earlier in your life. It's one thing to want to get spanked. Another to be bloodied up like a south Dallas ass whoopin.
Um, no comment. I have always been annoyed by girls like you. Your type wants a "bad" man and then bitch and moan when you get one.
u say "girls like me" when u dont know s**t about me besides that i like this. u have no knowledge about the rest of my personality. so dont go and classify someone u know next to nothing about.
Ahh but she didn't say Anything about wanting a "bad Man" - I doubt she Does want a bad man, no woman does.
As far as an abusing partner goes.
But rather, she likes to be abused (to one extent or another) In The Bedroom! (so to speak)
I have...issues...like this myself, and love a guy who can treat me like a princess 98%% of the time, but who can also, at times, treat me like an absolute whore in the privacy of our bedroom.
Maybe not as extreme as poster, everyone has their own personal limits, but along the same general lines.
To Poster:
Being treated (or mistreated as the case may be) can be wonderful, but I would advise to steer clear of guys who treat you like dirt and slap you around just for the hell of it.
Just my 2c
Tobra
It is perfectly normal for a masochist.
And as long as you have a safe partner you trust providing for your needs, the only thing you are going to have problems with is busy bodies telling you that you MUST have him arrested and shit like that.
They probably mean well, but they will be a pain in the ass.
And not the GOOD kind lol
I said no because it seems like he goes too far.... that he even doesn't care about you
slaps and this thing "oh oh stop it", wild rough sex is hot, though
Not normal, but it's getting there! You see this more and more in the mainstream media lately, especially in the US. I don't think the entire world will someday become some kind of sexual torture pit or anything, it's just that this is closer to normal than, say, clothing for chickens. Have a nice day :)
No its ok as long as you both agree. Be very careful with the choking cause in the heat of the moment it could go to far. There is a name for the chiking. Its called asphixa sex. Please be careful.
normal. my boyfriend and I are exactly like that.. as long as it IS consentual and you have a safe word. You don't get to choose what turns you on so just accept and enjoy what ever that may be.
just have a 'safe word' that you both agree to use when you want to stop and everything should be A-Okay!
definatly im the same way omg there is seriously nothing that could turn me on more :) now all i gotta do is learn how to get him to do it :)
---chels
Yea i the same way id really love for a guy to pull my hair and call me a slut ☺ and im bein serious but I dont know how to go about it with out looking like im wierd or have issues lol
Your just into S&M. If you like it go for it. Just have a safty word incase things go to far.
I say yes because it doesn't sound entirely safe. Kinky - fine. Just think you have to have rules.
I've been with a few girls that are into this, at first I was a little hesitant, but once you reach a mutual understanding that it's bedroom play only, turns out it can be pretty fun! Everyone likes something different, and on different levels, just be careful...
I have just begun to love being dominated by my wife to be. Its gone on now for about 3 months, after I asked her to spank me for hurting her from a past offense that bothered both of us.
Well I asked her to spank me and she was thinking about the same thing only I spoke up first,
After a good 1 hour spanking I felt so much relief and so did she.
Point being it works well for us and has repaired , or helped repair our relationship better than I could really have imagined.
My spankings are helpful, we still play spank, but when I need it good she is very willing and dishes it out when ever she thinks I need a straining out
If you enjoy punishment mabey you also could channel it to help with flaws ( that you want help in) you decide and Talk to your mate.
He must be trustworthy, and you MUST know he loves you.
Many people are into this type of "kinkiness", however it's a sign of something negative. Maybe you were abused as a child, or maybe you feel like what you're doing is wrong for some reason and feel a need to be punished. Do you feel guilty about enjoying sex? If you do...why? Who made you feel guilty about it? Was there ever a time when you did NOT want to enjoy sex, but you did anyway? If this is bothering you, it means you aren't comfortable with it and it's making you feel bad. It might be best to talk to a counselor and work out the underlying issues. Good luck and best wishes. Oh one more thing, people have died doing things like this. Men get too aggressive and don't know if you're playing the game or if you're really choking. It's scary.
WTF? This is not at all normal! You like abuse? That is just wrong on so many levels.