Is it immature to delete a friend on social media & am i overreacting?

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I feel excluded by my only non-internet friend.
The reason is I always have to intiate contact which he texted me a month ago apologizing for out of the blue but I didnt respond because i'm sick of that excuse. He often talks of how lonely or depressed he is, I offer to talk which he declines. I started opening up to him about my anxiety since he's so open but he's always too busy..
Tbf he's been a sweet friend but i'm sick of the onesidedness.

He's started hanging out with old friends of mine from school. I never had friends all my school years due to severe anxiety but I briefly managed to make friends after 10 years bullying before withdrawing when I started to feel excluded due to them inviting me to things less and less since I open up so slowly.
In the last year these old friends have reached out to me again for reasons I dont know, but my friend didnt seem to like it. He said he doesnt know them well but they party hard just like him and that he knows I dont like those scenes. He's gotten good friend with them via mutual friends they have and I am forced to watch them on social media constantly. Again I feel excluded but worse now it's by a close friend.

I'm sick of seeing him in my notifications since he INSISTS on liking everything I post which I dont see the point of when he won't make any ACTUAL effort ?
Is it immature to do this and I am overreacting? I dont see the point in talking to him about it when he knows how I feel. And HE has the guts to complain to ME about feeling that way when he's always surronded by friends who wants him around... I guess one can feel lonely even if they have friends, fine, but if he really does (and isnt fishing attention which he's admitted he craves btw) he knows what it feels like and should act better. I know I do, that's why i've chosen to do my best to support him when i've struggled with problems of my own and never had the kind of support system of friends he has.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    2 years ago

    Basically you want to delete him because you’re jealous of his expanded social circle and partying lifestyle even though you don’t want to go to parties?

    I think the underlying issue here is you see him as your best friend but he sees you as a friend he speaks to every once in a while, hence you get offended when he doesn’t treat you as a priority.

    Instead of deleting him I recommend you unfollow him so your timeline won’t be filled with pictures of him and you take a break from social media in general for a week. You say you are “forced” to look at him but you’re not, you’re choosing to. Also readjust your expectations bearing in mind that he does not see you as his best friend, it hurts when people don’t like us as much as we want them to but all we can do in these situations is accept them for what they are and focus more on other friendships.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      I'm never had a problem with his many friends but now it's my old friends and he made me feel excluded when they wanted me around.But its true what he said I wouldnt like to hang out like they do but that doesnt mean one doesnt want to feel welcome. I wouldnt even treat people I only talk to sometimes like this. I have a person in my life I only talk to rarely and who recently had a gloomy online status, I sent a text right away and asked if everything is OK etc...

      I guess he sees me as an occasional friend. Thats why I never wanted someone like him for a friend but I gave him a chance. Ive been proven right in my suspicion how people with lots of friends act. Making more friends than you can look after is careless.

      Im an introvert but I like to have 1 or 2 friends close to me to hang out with. I preferred when I had no friend nearby though because then no one could make me feel this.

      I want to thank you though for pointing out the obvious that i'm not a close friend to him.
      I judged it that way from how he acts when we talk or hang out but it makes sense now that im not.

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  • S0UNDS_WEIRD
    2 years ago

    Overreacting. There's no grounds to delete here. Try to work it out.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      How can I work it out with him?
      He already knows i'm the only one making effort so why doesn't he correct the problem? What's the point of an empty apology?
      I dont really want to be reminded of him in my notifications right now, or see him with my old friends but it would be nice if we could work it out I just dont know how.

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  • Somenormie
    2 years ago

    I don't perceive it to be immature, it's normal if you don't like him liking everything you post.

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