Is it normal after 1 year i still miss my ex

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I dated this girl back in 2020 and after 3 months of relationship she said she was cheating on me for 1 month straight, my confidence and selflove was shuttered then and there. I even moved away in her city just so we could be together but I guess you cant make a wife out of a hoe. Anyways I think about her almost all the time and I though I was going crazy cuz all the shit she put me through and still Im the one suffering from it. I've moved away again cuz that city always reminder me of her but I just cant seem to move on. Someone please give me some advice how can I move on with my life.

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  • harkosv
    2 years ago

    I think you're oversimplifying things. It doesn't sound like you necessarily miss your ex, it sounds like she caused you some degree of trauma (I hate overusing that word, but I think it fits here). She was someone that you were close to, maybe even the closest relationship you had. You trusted her, and even though she eventually admitted to you that she was betraying your trust, she went a full month continuing to betray your trust before bringing it up to you, so even though she did eventually respect you enough to tell you, she went much longer disrespecting both you as a person and your relationship

    Personally, I don't think your thinking of her means that you miss her, it almost seems more like you're trying to process what she did to you and reconcile putting your faith in and caring for someone that you thought you knew well

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    • RobY
      2 years ago

      You sir explained it so well, but its like it still hurta me on some level even tho I know it might never happen again, I just cant trust another girl like I did her. Its like I went all in with her and it hit me in the face when it ended..

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      • harkosv
        2 years ago

        That's where it gets hard on deciding how to move forward. I had a fiancee who not only broke off the engagement but did so by ghosting me. It took me a long time to trust someone enough to enter into a relationship with them. Personally, I think it was worth it, but I can't speak for you

        There's some merit to walling other people off because it ensures you'll be protected from that kind of betrayal again, but the tradeoff is that it almost guarantees some degree of loneliness that can only be alleviated through being in a healthy, trusting relationship

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        • RobY
          2 years ago

          Aw man I feel sorry for you, but I get you sometimes you need something bad to happend to you so you can know who to trust and who is here only to betray you.
          Thank you my friend, your words helped me more than you know and it made me realize that every bad situation is only bad as long as you see it like that.

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  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet
    2 years ago

    I never understood missing your ex after a breakup, the very second I think you don't love me it's as of all the good times never happened. It's not even replaced with hate just complete indifference.
    The only one I kind of miss is my fourth one and that's because we never broke up, we lost touch after she got arrested.

    And as for the cheating part I may be A-sexual but if anyone ever cheated on me I would have fucked their friends & sent them the videos because I'm very petty.

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    • RobY
      2 years ago

      Bro I was the same, my friend had a gril and after 2 years he still speaks about her and I told him to get his shit together and just moves on. She cheated on him too so she brough some trauma in his life and then its just hard to move on

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    Look for books that discuss how to get over an ex, and whatever you do never ever call, or text her when you're drunk, and depressed.

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    • RobY
      2 years ago

      Calling might help in a way that we have that last standoff, or it might lead to goodbye sex whitch is also good

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      • RoseIsabella
        2 years ago

        You're your own worst enemy.

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