Is it normal cuddling with this woman my employee ?

It is all my fault. I've tried explaining to this woman my cuddle buddy that I don't like it when she grabs my breasts and ass, and when it's possible, I move away from her. I don't want to be too harsh with her, but I'd like her to understand that there are some limits on my body. She likes to massage and hold my breasts and she does this a lot. She does this randomly throughout the day at work, for short bursts in front of other women my employees or long extended breast-fests while we are cuddling in my office. She does this at work. She does this in public. She gets extremely upset when I remove her hand to the point of literally "fighting" my hand away with her own. She cries. She yells. Sometimes, I'm just standing there, and she'll walk by me and take a swipe at my butt.

When I bend down within ten yards of her, she's right there, smacking my butt. She will usually grab my ass randomly in front of other women my employees or in public, it's embarrassing. I am staring to think that this is a way for her to humiliate me in front of my employees and gain power over me . Other women my employees find this bizarre, but because i am their boss, they don't question it. But I don't even feel angry at this woman my cuddle buddy employee for what she is doing to me, which I don't understand. We are so compatible at work. She frequently invites me to have lunch or join her for feminist workshop . She texts me at random times to ask if she can drop by to say hello. But sometimes I feel very creeped out and fearful that something strange will happen. I am aware that she is taking advantage of me, and i am afraid that she will just go even further. I need to find a way to make her truly understand that this needs to stop.

I still cuddle with this woman my cuddle buddy at work but about a month ago she became obsessed with groping my breasts and ass. She is CONSTANTLY wanting to touch my breasts, feel them, while we're cuddling on the sofa in my office or wherever. If I just laid there, she would stay there for a long time just feeling them and squishing them or whatever. I cannot sit in my office chair without her seeing the opportunity to come up and cop a feel. She just wants to feel them, and it is annoying and uncomfortable to say the least.

I have explained that it makes me feel uncomfortable when she tries to touch them without my permission. I ask her nicely not to touch them, and I've gotten to the point where I'm just so frustrated that I have to actually get upset with her and even then she just laughs or gets mad about it. And when we're cuddling or hugging throughout the day she always wants to grab my breasts. She wants to touch and hold my breasts. It's driving me crazy. I try to gently move her hands away and redirect but she gets really upset. Also over the past month this woman my cuddle buddy employee constantly touches my boobs and ass in front of other women my employees and drives me nuts! Sometimes in the hallway she comes and she holds me from behind and grabs my boobs in front of my employees. She can't resist either grabbing my breasts or butt or rubbing up behind me...it's irritating at the best of times. I've almost punched this woman my cuddle buddy employee more than once for coming up behind me in the supermarket (i often stop there on my way home from work) and touching my butt because I thought it was a stranger. This woman my cuddle buddy grabs my butt, and slaps it A LOT at work. But I get lots of cuddles and hugs from her that are just pure affection and nothing sexual so there's a balance. Also this woman my employee cuddle buddy seems harmless to me because I am physically stronger than her i am 5ft10 tall well built well endowed and curvy.She is like 5ft3 tall skinny.I am always on high heels she is always in flat shoes.Standing next to me she looks like a midget. Now I don't want her to feel badly - but I want this groping behaviour to stop.What can I say to her, or what can I do so this'll stop?How do I tell her off without causing tension at work ?How can I discourage this woman my cuddle buddy employee from groping me in a way that makes me uncomfortable without offending her? Also my cyddle buddy employee borrowed money( 1,000 thousand dollars)from me two weeks ago. I offered the loan, by the way.She also became very sarcastic with me.This woman my cuddle buddy is hard to read because she has this bizarre sense of humor.She is some kind of local feminist activist. I'm 100% percent straight. I've never really had sexual thoughts about women. I'm confident that I'm straight and have always been attracted to men. My husband and I we finally attended counseling three days ago and it's definitely helped our relationship even though it's a work in progress. Me and him were both so nervous! Our first session went pretty good. We didn't leave mad and we talked. I think it will be easier to open up the more we go.I'm nervous something will be revealed that he secretly can't stand about me. And I'm just very nervous about it over all.

I haven't had sex with my husband for two years. That's right . My husband has always been cold. He's capable of being close and affectionate, but his general nature is not 'warm'. He's not a hand holder or a cuddler or anything even close to that. I do crave affection, closeness and even sex. The thing is that he's gotten progressively worse over the last four years(after my affair). We used to have sex regularly but it started dwindling to once a month or less. Then it went to once or twice every two months. The last time he touched me was almost 2 years ago (april 2016). I'm dying inside and beyond angry and hurt and lonely. And I'm so angry, resentful and starved for affection that I just hate him now...I won't even sit in the same room as him...which I'm sure doesn't help my cause. And what do you think of a man who 'punishes' his wife by withholding affection? Isn't that symptomatic of a disorder? To me, from what I've experienced, it goes far far beyond a control issue or him punishing me for my affair...it's more he deliberately withholds affection and is perfectly content living like this.
When my friends talk about there sex lives I do get very jealous and think why can't that be us! I feel like I am trapped !
My Husband and I are constantly arguing.
We bicker about stupid things and he constantly frustrates me. Although he seems like the perfect Husband from an outsiders point of view..as he helps around the house, doesn't go out drinking or gamble and works hard.....I am really bored by him. We argue most, about the fact that he just doesn't listen to me, and this then turns me into a nag !

We went shopping yesterday, and we had a conversation in the car on the way into town...which by the time we had got home, he had completely forgotten what I had said ! This happens on a daily basis...and he doesn't understand how frustrating this is, for me.

I still cuddle with this woman my cuddle buddy at work but about a month ago she became obsessed with groping my breasts and ass. She is CONSTANTLY wanting to touch my breasts, feel them, while we're cuddling on the sofa in my office or wherever. If I just laid there, she would stay there for a long time just feeling them and squishing them or whatever. I cannot sit in my office chair without her seeing the opportunity to come up and cop a feel. She just wants to feel them, and it is annoying and uncomfortable to say the least.

I have explained that it makes me feel uncomfortable when she tries to touch them without my permission. I ask her nicely not to touch them, and I've gotten to the point where I'm just so frustrated that I have to actually get upset with her and even then she just laughs or gets mad about it. And when we're cuddling or hugging throughout the day she always wants to grab my breasts. She wants to touch and hold my breasts. It's driving me crazy. I try to gently move her hands away and redirect but she gets really upset. Also over the past month this woman my cuddle buddy employee constantly touches my boobs and ass in front of other women my employees and drives me nuts! Sometimes in the hallway she comes and she holds me from behind and grabs my boobs in front of my employees. She can't resist either grabbing my breasts or butt or rubbing up behind me...it's irritating at the best of times. I've almost punched this woman my cuddle buddy employee more than once for coming up behind me in the supermarket (i often stop there on my way home from work) and touching my butt because I thought it was a stranger. This woman my cuddle buddy grabs my butt, and slaps it A LOT at work. But I get lots of cuddles and hugs from her that are just pure affection and nothing sexual so there's a balance. Also this woman my employee cuddle buddy seems harmless to me because I am physically stronger than her i am 5ft10 tall well built well endowed and curvy.She is like 5ft3 tall skinny.I am always on high heels she is always in flat shoes.Standing next to me she looks like a midget. Now I don't want her to feel badly - but I want this groping behaviour to stop.What can I say to her, or what can I do so this'll stop?How do I tell her off without causing tension at work ?How can I discourage this woman my cuddle buddy employee from groping me in a way that makes me uncomfortable without offending her? Also my cyddle buddy employee borrowed money( 1,000 thousand dollars)from me two weeks ago. I offered the loan, by the way.She also became very sarcastic with me.This woman my cuddle buddy is hard to read because she has this bizarre sense of humor.She is some kind of local feminist activist. I'm 100% percent straight. I've never really had sexual thoughts about women. I'm confident that I'm straight and have always been attracted to men. My husband and I we finally attended counseling three days ago and it's definitely helped our relationship even though it's a work in progress. Me and him were both so nervous! Our first session went pretty good. We didn't leave mad and we talked. I think it will be easier to open up the more we go.I'm nervous something will be revealed that he secretly can't stand about me. And I'm just very nervous about it over all.

My husband refuses to touch me, hug me, kiss me or anything! We barely even talk these days! I feel angry and rejected, and every night I wait for him to make a move to further prove my point that he won't. It's a horrible cycle. Yet I still have faith. Despite everything, I believe in the rare moments when we are totally happy and enjoying each other without the daily stress of work and life, we want to touch each other and be intimate. I often feel like I have given up and it's not even worth trying. Now I watch gorgeous men on TV and fantasize. I have my little electronic friend who satisfies me weekly. Every time I have an electronically induced orgasm I tell myself I need to find a new lover. I can't go through my life not having sex. I get hit on by guys a lot. I'm not trying to sound conceited. There's always guys flirting or asking me for my number.The main thing is, I've noticed in "real life" the guys who are the MOST flirty are married. When i go out in public guys start talking to me and subtlety try to ask me out. I mention i have a husband but some of them wont go away. I have trouble being mean so i cant get them to leave me alone. I end up getting stressed by it. Should I tell my husband when stuff like this happens? I don't want to tell him because I know it wouldn't make him happy, but at the same time I don't want to hide it from him, I feel like I am hiding something from him and it makes me feel bad. I will be honest I miss sex, other than masturbation, I have had nothing for two years. I now find myself looking at men and feelings rise.

I do not want to take this route, it was just so destructive in the past. But I do not know how much longer I can hold out. Last year I made friends with an attractive man who is my client. We have not had any physical contact, but he is easy to talk with and it is on the strict understanding that we would not have an affair.

I am now letting that friendship wither on the vine as I find myself in a position where I would much prefer my husband. So that friendship is ending. The problem is that we(me and my husband) have no intimacy at all. He has never been terribly demonstrative physically, but now we never touch, never hold hands, never cuddle.

Occasionally, I have tried, but it is very obvious that he doesn’t want me near him – he becomes stiff and awkward until I let go. At the moment, every conversation we have turns into an argument and, at times, it seems better not to talk at all. Hence the idea of even starting to become close again is not something I feel I want to do. Is it weird that my cuddle buddy employee and I like to cuddle and hold hands? I am a 100% heterosexual woman and this woman my cuddle buddy says she is asexual. Most of the time though, it's her holding me, and not the other way around. This short skinny woman my cuddle buddy gives me long prolonged tight full hugs around my waist, from the front, side, or back. If sitting side-by-side at my desk working she is leaning against me. Sometimes she hugs me from the back and her hands will subtly go to cup my breasts a little. Also often she slaps my butt as a way of saying hi. Also she is spooning me or she is laying on top of me with her head on my breasts on the sofa in my office. I'm okay with that. Here's the kicker. I DO LOVE THAT SHE IS SO AFFECTIONATE WITH ME. But, I WANT TO HATE IT!!!! As comforting as it is, it makes me feel vulnerable too. I want to hate it but I love, love, love all the affection I get from this woman my cuddle buddy , and I look forward to it constantly. It is amazing how physical safety can go hand in hand with vulnerability! But not the scary kind...the kind that makes you remember you're alive, and why it's so beautiful. Also this woman doesn't look threatening. She is masculine even a bit creepy and uglyish, but she is just a short skinny 55year old woman.

This woman my cuddle buddy says she is asexual. I just needed someone so I could put my head on their lap, and relax. I think most people would just take a pill or something, but just half an hour spent in the comfort of this woman my cuddle buddy makes me feel much better. The only other available person would be my mother, but she’d find it weird and think something had happened to me . So.. in the end, I’ve never had the experience. This woman my cuddle buddy touches my breasts incidentally when hugging/cuddling - but no intentional fondling. Also because she is really short and i am tall always when we hug standing she is pressing her face on my breasts and she is accidentally coping a feel of my butt. She is spooning me on the sofa in my office without at least grazing my boob. This woman my cuddle buddy likes to rest her head on my breasts. Whenever we hug standing, her face lands right smack into my breasts. When this woman places her head on my breasts while embracing me, I melt inside!! What is does is create a warmth sense of security and closeness.

It is odd because this blabber mouth is crazy as fuck 😂

Admittedly, I was initially not "comfortable" being touched, hugged and held by this woman my employee cuddle buddy, but I guess somewhere in my brain, I WANTED to be comfortable being hugged and held and somehow recognized that she could get me through this. I knew a hug SHOULD be comforting, I guess. It's not something we've ever actually discussed in depth, but it has gradually become a huge part of my work with her.

I have lived my whole life putting extra space between me and everyone else, both physically and emotionally, and all the sudden it just dawned on me how wonderful it is to be hugged, when it's coming from a safe place. I think that touch often communicates things in a way that is much more powerful than words. Especially because I dissociate a lot and words seem far away. I think for me, it has made me realize that touch is important in my life (and I don't get enough of it currently). And I think it has also made me feel that I am loveable as a person. I googled hugging and found oxytocin. They used to say kids needed 10 hugs a day for optimal growth. I went from feeling pretty awkward about it to feeling like I know this woman my employee and she knows me. My cuddle buddy rubs my back all the time. Also we hold hands while walking. Part of the reason it works for me is because my cuddle buddy employee is a short skinny 55year old female. There is a ton of maternal transference in there, for sure. She is harmless. She is tiny short skinny 55year old woman. Standing next to her i look like a giant.I often hold hands with her, whether I'm with her outside on the parking lot talking and we're just standing there holding hands or whether we're walking. Linked fingers, sometimes. I don't find it such a big deal. She always links arms with me and walks leaning into me.

Other women don't like me. I don't mean all women are rude, but I have to say that the majority of women I encounter are. It's more to do with body language and the tone of voice than anything else, these women haven't actually said anything nasty to my face, but probably are thinking it. They include retail assistants, receptionists, bank tellers and the like, as well as women I've met at parties (not that I go to many).I've come to the realisation that women are some of the worst misogynists. I certainly don't hate women, but I get the feeling that they hate me or at least disapprove of me. All my employees are women in their 40s and 50s. I have a policy of hiring only women over 40. Most of these women at work think I am arrogant or a snob. Although I'd prefer that they think I'm arrogant to thinking that I'm afraid. I've been asked soooo many times 'why are you so serious' when I'm not feeling serious at that moment. I unintentionally tend to give off an unfriendly aura which has led people to ask if I dislike them. When I feel nervous I try to compensate by being really confident. I guess other people take that as me being arrogant. I've been told I come across as stuck up/snobby full of myself, narcissistic, stuck up etc., and also very unwelcoming to new people. Technically the second part is true as new people terrify me, but the first bit is very untrue.And the truth is, i just can't talk to everyone... not that i don't want to. I just need time to open myself to people. To relax and open up. I feel much better when I dress up and present myself as the best I can be.Dressing up makes me feel good because it makes me feel like i can do anything.I love my height and my curvy stature. I love satin and silk clothes and dressing up too. I am always in high heels with hair and makeup done. That's just who I am.I love dressing up, I've tried dressing down, but I always end up changing.
my clothes are there to be worn! I'm confident that I look good in my clothes my style is "sexy but classy" I don't believe I have ever offended or embarrased myself or anyone with my wardrobe.I am a very classy woman and i would never dress in a cheap trashy way. I don't wear anything vulgar but because of my body type everything i wear looks tight on me.I am 5ft10 foot tall and being well endowed well built and curvy always on high heels makes me HUGE!
The other day I was in a mall with my daughter and this little boy pointed at me and said something like: "Gush mom, look at her, she is giant!!!"
If I am in a crowded room, I am a head above 95% of the people. I have been told that i look stuck up and arrogant.I have had the experience of women being jealous of me.I like satin and silk clothes and I wear them well.I should not have to suffer for what I like because other women have low self esteem and don’t see the gifts they have within themselves.I have a more stylish sense of fashion. I never wear anything trashy, I keep myself well covered and strive for professionalism and class. I always like to dress on my best, because I also feel great when I’m dressed pretty. Once, i’d been to the hairdressers and was off to do a little shopping afterwards and the girl at the salon asked where i was going looking so glamorous – i said i was going shopping and she was like “really? You look so glammed up to be going shopping!” I don’t mind though, i’d rather be wearing something i feel good in than look like i just rolled out of bed.I wear high heels every day too.All the time. I like dressing well, and looking presentable.