Is it normal female coworker is touching me

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I can't believe I am posting something so personal as I am a very private person, but this is so upsetting to me I don't think I can discuss this verbally with anyone without bursting into tears. I am 5ft10 foot tall and being well endowed well built and curvy always on high heels makes me HUGE! The other day I was in a mall with my daughter and this little boy pointed at me and said something like: "Gush mom, look at her, she is giant!!!".I am a 42year old 5ft10 tall heterosexual curvy hourgllass shaped attractive brunette.I I like dressing well, and looking presentable. I don't dress slutty at all. My boobs are 32 f bra size though and I do have a big butt. My hourglass shape is unique and i am tall, and I appreciate that.If you are curvy, tall and busty, many clothes tend to look sexier on you than on a thin person. So things that fit properly that are relatively conservative can be suddenly too revealing and sexy when you put it on. This happens to me a lot.I wear almost always my satin and silk blouses fully buttoned to the top combined with a satin skirt or satin pants. I prefer wearing satin pants and a little shorter satin skirts, always above knees, sometimes even quite much, but not any miniskirts anyway. I am always on high heels and full make up on.I am always in tight form fitting satin and silk clothes. I am a stylish person.I usually stay away from anything too revealing.I am describing myself because i want you to know the complexity of the situation.On september 1st this year this 55year old short like 5ft2 skinny freckled face creepy green eyes thin lips red haired masculine woman started working at my workplace.She started touching me on her third day.She said that she likes to caress satin fabric and that silk and satin is so smooth to the touch when rubbing.She said that she just can't resist touching and stroking satin fabric.She always touches me, hugs me, holds my hand, places her arm around my waist. She gives me random hugs all the time pressing her face on my breasts.This woman is constantly rubbing my back, touching my hair. I wouldn't be as grossed out if she did it to everybody else but she's always doing it to me! I wouldn't say I'm that close to her and she's hard to avoid since her office is next to mine.She puts her arms around me when we're standing side-by-side and talking and she randomly comes by at my office and gives me shoulder and back massages.But all the touching has been getting creepy.She is extremely touchy and feely with me.Now she knows I am heterosexual woman but that doesn't seem to deter her from rubbing on my back or arms, pressing herself into me and generally being borderline innapropriate at times.She seems harmless to me because I am physically stronger than her i am 5ft10 tall well built well endowed and curvy.She is like 5ft2 tall skinny.I am always on high heels she is always in flat shoes.Standing next to me she looks like a midget.I have no desire to do anything sexual with a women.I am 100% straight.Even the thought of eating out a vagina makes me gag.I've never had any desire to do anything sexual with a female. In all honest just thinking about possibly kissing a female makes me cringe.

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    Just need to tell her, I don't like it, please stop, or I will go to HR. Very good friend of mine ran her own office, by herself, and was a tall, gorgeous, German blonde. Tall enough in flats, but when she wore heels, that did show off her amazing legs and body curves, and wore even business attire that was tight, she was sexy as hell. We were friends, so my hugging her hello and goodbye, and the occasional, end of day shoulder rub when she asked, but..She hired part-time office help during a busy time.

    Very similar..A younger female with a background in hair styling and working in salons. This girl, while herself hot, had a thing for touching and feeling my friend's long, blonde hair (which really was beautiful), always commenting on her clothing, and telling her she had beautiful hands and to let her/the office help, do her nails after work. I'd go for lunch with my friend, and she'd tell me all this, along with things like.."She's great and all, but..Always has her hands on me and looks at me like..I don't know..She wants me or something..I really don't like it".

    My friend decided to try tolerating it, since she also knew the girl would likely be gone after the busy season. I found it strange, too, knowing she really wasn't a touchy-feeling, hands-on woman. Men would touch her arms or low back at functions we'd go to, and she'd give me a look, intoning "Let's move away from these guys" or "Get me out of this". Few guys did the sneaky, sly, hand on her low back and quick-slide to her ass, which did irritate her.

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    • silvana1975
      6 years ago

      Okay, I feel guilty.Yesterday this touchy feely woman my coworker asked if she could touch my breasts . I was like, No! Then I said, alright. Then I get a hand extended so I'm like okay here it goes... and she was not shy about just full palm feeling all around and getting a real grab!I think she was a little shy to ask and was suprised when I agreed.LOL! It was no big deal for me.She seems harmless to me.She is creepy and ugly but she is tiny,short and skinny mature woman.Standing next to me she looks like a midget. I was walking out of her office and she groped my butt, kinda fondled it, then slapped it hard.I know what she did was wrong.I really need her at work.She is practically doing all my work.She is working harder than everyone else.Also she is probably my best friend in the office.

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    • silvana1975
      6 years ago

      This woman my coworker is a squeeze hugger that lasts too long in a vice grip.She is important to me as a coworker,so I'm willing to sit/stand out the awkward touching and hugging and just think of something else while it's happening.

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      • Justmehere
        6 years ago

        My friend ran an employment service, and guys were in her office all the time. Most hit on her, but she handled it well, but a few were a bit too friendly with the tight, too-long hugging. I remember seeing one guy come in for paperwork, thank her for the assignment, and more or less block her path to a file cabinet to give her a tight hug that definitely made her uncomfortable. She told him you're welcome after he thanked her for the work, and when he left, she said "Should have said you're welcome for feeling me up". Even when I hugged her, I didn't do it super-tight or linger that long. Guys were just always trying to get her. Then the female office helper started in.

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        • silvana1975
          6 years ago

          For the past two weeks this woman my coworker is always touching and grabbing my breasts, and i let her get by with it. She'll just grab them or lift them up when she's trying to be funny.We just have a weird bond like that.I am used to touching,hugging and groping by this woman coworker.She is always saying that i am tall,big and soft.She is calling me her giantess friend.Okay, I know it's not a normal.She always jiggles my boobs its just the way she is.She is constantly all over me. If my boobs happened to enter the room she is in, she wants to touch them. Also she is CONSTANTLY slapping and rubbing my ass! I cannot bend over in front of this short skinny colleague without her slapping or grinding on my ass.It does get a bit annoying when she wants to do this in front of other women coworkers, which I don"t allow.I really need her as a coworker subordinate.If there's a problem, she has the solution; if there's a question, she has the answer.

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          • Justmehere
            6 years ago

            Even if she's good, she's not worth what she's getting away with with you. Find another employee to do the work she does, even if it takes two. To use the example of my friend who ran the temp service and functions we'd go to, there was more than one time that she'd either sit and just talk to people (with me) and not make the rounds, due to men's hands being all over her. Had her ass groped a bunch of times, boobs squeezed from behind as guys would "excuse me" slide behind her, and the too-comfy ones who'd take it upon themselves to kiss her goodbye.

            Forget if the event had a photographer (which most did). Any guy close to her would cozy up for the photo, wrap their hands around her waist, tight, and try to get in a grab of her ass or boobs. I did what I could to protect her, and normally did a pretty good job, but couldn't always keep the hands off of her.

            I also remember one guy literally putting both of his hands on her waist, from behind, and trying to pull her in. That night, as we left, she said to me "These things are meat markets..Not networking..I'm so done..Thanks for being my shield". And she meant it. We never did another function like that again.

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        • silvana1975
          6 years ago

          This morning i was sitting in my office chair and my touchy feely coworker offered me a massage and I didn't refuse.My back is consequently suffering due to extensive time spent on the computer.She worked on my shoulders and arms for like 10 minutes but then she moved towards my breasts and I had to ask her what she was doing. She replied she was throwing in a breast massage but I felt a bit awkward wondering if it even exists.Next thing I know she was fully massaging my boobs. Obviously I should have spoken up. I was pretty uncomfortable.She was pointlessly 'massaging' my breasts for like 10 minutes.I feel stupid and that I should have said something.I probably should have said something and spoken up or even left if I felt comfortable... but anyway, I just want to know if this seems right to you or if I am over-reacting.Later in the hallway she smacked and grabbed my ass both hands and all.I am physically stronger than her i am 5ft10 tall well built well endowed and curvy.She is like 5ft2 tall skinny.I am always on high heels she is always in flat shoes.Standing next to me she looks like a midget.But I feel like I can't say no to her.I work very closely with this woman on almost all my projects so it's hard to avoid her.She is practically doing all my work.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Go speak to someone in human resources. I don't care if this bitch is a talking Chihuahua it's still sexual harassment at worst and just plain creepy at best. You have a right to not be touched inappropriately!

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    • silvana1975
      6 years ago

      She finds any excuse to touch me.Yesterday she hugged me from behind when I was sitting down and stroked my collar bones before moving to my shoulders.She leans over me when I show her something on the computer screen.She is not very aware of personal space, she tends to stand very close and walk so close that she can trip me, she also always puts her face very close to my breasts.She always links arms with me and walks leaning into me.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        Well, if you don't feel comfortable talking to your supervisor or going to human resources maybe you could eat more beans.

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        • silvana1975
          6 years ago

          I don't want to offend her.Even though I'm the permanent employee with college degree and certifications, she does have a little "power" over me. She can muck things up for my clients & I, walk away scott-free, and make me clean-up the "mess." I don't know her very well (she's not my direct employee) and don't want to push any sensitive buttons. She gets along with other female employees like the bookkeeper, sales managers, and owner(it is all female workplace). She could say that I created a hostile a hostile environment and doesn't feel like coming into work. There will be a big HR interview (involving the main office) and an investigation. Then the women will still look at me like I'm the one with the problem! I've seen it happen before. I've got to be careful and handle this gracefully.Also she doesn't look threatening.She is creepy and ugly but she is tiny,short and skinny mature woman.Standing next to me she looks like a midget.She is always hugging me around my waist.Sometimes several hugs in a row.She also always place her hand on my hip at the side when i stand beside her.

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          • RoseIsabella
            6 years ago

            Oh God, that sounds awful.

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            • silvana1975
              6 years ago

              This woman is being unnecessarily touchy-feely.She is always constantly patting my lower back and touching my hair.She tends to stand really close – it’s like she doesn’t seem to respect my personal space. It is getting very uncomfortable. How do I tell her off without causing tension at work?The other day she needed to ask me a question. My client and I were so engrossed on our project that neither of us noticed her walk in. She put her both hands around my waist to get my attention. Then she kept her hands there until I finished my answer to her. I felt awkward about it, but didn't want to say or do anything in front of the client. A half-hour later I felt it was too weird to bring it up, so I just let it go. She would touch me a lot on my hands, shoulders and back when discussing work-related topics.One time at her office we were working on something. I started to rise from the chair while she was still sitting, and she then reached over and squeezed my butt about four or five times quickly. I pulled away, but it took me by such surprise I didn't know what to do, and I actually laughed, even though that was the last thing I felt like doing.Also she is constantly 'accidentally' brushing her face against my breasts while walking by me or when we are engaged in a task.

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            • ChiggerDaMan
              6 years ago

              At least this does not involve a man. It's always the man's fault. Since it is only two women it is all trivial drama. Hardly worth considering. The OP can always punch her in the face. *yawn*

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            • silvana1975
              6 years ago

              She isn't a horrible woman she is really very pleasant but something about her and her need to hug or touch me makes me very uncomfortable.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    feel better now

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