Is it normal for a 19 year old male to date a 30 year old woman

Ok so I’ve been dating this woman on discord for almost a month and we really love each other. We first met on a sub/dom server 😂 she first came to me to ask me to be her sub and I of course said sure. So down the road she got another sub that was 40 and was female and we started to date. And my mistress for jealous when me and her sub started dating. At the time she decided to date someone else and tell them her feelings about me apparently when I was dating the other sub. Long story short we broke up since we were working and where to busy. I told my mistress about it and she felt upset and she decided to release me. I asked her why and she told me her feelings about me. I will admit she did flirt with me before but I thought it was a mistress thing ya know? Anyways long story short I told her that I loved her before I dated her other sub because I thought she was not interested in me since she was dating another guy. But anyways her bf my mistress he left her In the dust and she felt upset. Long story short we both told our feelings and we took it to the next step instead of sub and mistress. We did agree that when we do sex she would be the dom and I agreed. BUT our relationship is not just sex we VC/video chat watch movies (screen sharing of course) we laugh and have a good time. She is Mexican and is really attractive. We have 0 arguments and she kept joking about her coming to see me and visit in the future. At first I thought it was a joke but it got to the point where it was mentioned a lot. I told her once I move out of my parents house sure she can come see me. But usually it’s the other way around the male comes see them but in this case she wants to see me. Anyways back to the question is this normal for a 19 year old male to date a 30 year old woman... if we did meet irl I don’t know how my parents would feel. How would you guys feel if you where my parents and you found out I was dating this woman and we met online ?

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Based on 13 votes (5 yes)
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  • charli.m

    Not normal at all.

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  • COVID-19

    Dating on discord? Lmao.

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  • SkullsNRoses

    Look up the signs of abusive relationships, educate yourself on techniques manipulative people use and keep your eyes wide open.

    Mentally stable 30 year-olds do not date 19 year-olds. People date people much younger than them because young people will put up with more nonsense and their lack of life experience makes them easier to control.

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  • jethro

    Think of it this way, 19 goes into 30 more times than 30 goes into 19.

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  • Somenormie

    That is pedo behavior.

    If that happened that woman would be arrested.

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    • Jons3017

      I’m legally an adult 😂

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    • Jons3017

      I’m 19 it’s not illegal 😂

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  • RoseIsabella

    Doesn't sound healthy at all.

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  • magic7

    My wife and I divorced when I was 38 and I decided to be single for about 12 years. In that time I actually enjoyed life sailing in channel Islands and learning how to ride horses doing things I could never do if I was married. Like yourself I got into BDSM with my ex-wife when I was only 30 and I had several girlfriends after a divorce they were also in the female domination. My massage therapist was seven years older than I was and she became my dominatrix making sure that I stayed in line with her whip. We actually had fun together had a lot of laughs and I helped her with her massage business. I got a hold of an ex-girlfriend and told her about what I was into and her ears perked up when I told her I was looking for another dominant woman. We experimented for a couple years with BDSM and I became Her house slave Doing all the chores cooking cleaning scrubbing floors washing clothes just like the books about BDSM. She never wanted to fuck you because I learned she switched to a closet lesbian enjoying pussy more than cock she just used me for money and I ended up splitting up. My therapist told me to find somebody straight and I’ve been married for almost 18 years to a good lady that treats me well.

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  • leggs91200

    I do not see it as a problem. I would not have been born otherwise.
    My mom was 31 and my dad was 19 when they met.

    Plus, due to society's double standards - older woman with a younger man is okay. Older man with younger woman is still taboo.

    If my son were still 19 and dating a 30 year old, I wouldn't have any problems.

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  • olderdude-xx

    It may be normal - and it may not be. A lot depends on where the two of you are in life and mental development. If you truly have joint dreams and goals (other than good sex and partying); then it may be normal.

    If not, then its likely that you are being used.

    I wish you the best with this,

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  • Tommythecaty

    Normalish....but ultimately will amount to nothing in the end

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  • farkelu

    Normal? No. Common? Probably more so with older men and younger women. But I'd say still pretty common. Cougers!

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

    I lost my virginity to a 32 year old when i was 17. I lived with her for a bit. It did not feel normal tho, it didnt feel right.

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    • Jons3017

      But we have like video sex chat over the internet and we love it...

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      • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

        Sex is one thing, that to me felt normal. But the whole living with eachother thing didnt seem right for me.

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        • YE

          I kinda agree with you, sex is like a bait... sort of. If you're the kind of man who's overly emotional then you'll oftenly make the wrong choices about who you actually want to live with. And living with another person in most cases is baggage, you have to be willing to compromise your freedom.

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