Is it normal for a boyfriend to tell other girls they are attractive?

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My boyfriend wants to be able to see a girl at a party or whatever and tell her she looks good or that she's pretty without me getting mad. He says he wants to do this because most girls are insecure with the way they look and he wants to make them feel better about themselves. Is it normal for a boyfriend to tell another girl she's pretty or hot or that she looks good?

Telling a girl she's pretty makes a girl feel special. And I feel as though boyfriends shouldn't want to make another girl feel special.. they should only want to make their girlfriend feel special. I think it's fine to think it but that he should just keep it to himself. I also feel like if he wants to make other girls feel special by telling them they're attractive that he shouldn't be in a relationship. What do you think??

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    He's already sleeping with them

    OMG WTF GTFO.

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  • Paradiddle
    11 years ago

    This is a tough subject but I think its normal to think this. The truth is, one that I'm sure you'll already know, being in relationship won't change the fact that other girls will be attractive. Eventually, the whole "If you really love her then you wouldn't think about anyone else" is highly unrealistic. If a girl looks good, she looks good, that won't change whether you're single or not. The difference is knowing how to control those thoughts and keep your attention to who you're with. Personally, I wouldn't go around telling other girls they are attractive and if I had to, certainly not around my girl. I also don't buy the part about him complimenting other girls to make them feel special since he is supposed to make his girlfriend only feel that way once taken, he speaks as if he is single.

    I guess to wrap it up, its normal for him to find other girls attractive but if he straight walks up to another girl and says she is cute or something without her asking, especially around you and it bothers you, feel free to let him know.

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  • Gumball
    11 years ago

    Turn the tables, if he's being sincere then he should have no problem with it. Hey, you're just making other good looking guys day by saying they're attractive. Give back to the other gender. Let's see how he likes it.

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    • smallcock
      8 years ago

      Brilliant idea.

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  • crazy_asiknowit
    11 years ago

    tell your boyfriend if he wants to do community service then just don't be in a relationship!!!

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    Everyone likes compliments, don't be a jealous girlfriend. That really isn't very attractive.

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  • DannyKanes
    11 years ago

    I think you need to bury your insecurities.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I read the title, and my eyes instantly when flat. I was like -.- nooo.

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  • ibreathelectric
    11 years ago

    Keeping score and evening the playing field isn't going to solve anything- it's going to make it worse. Believe me, I've been there and tried getting even like that and it failed miserably. He doesn't sound like boyfriend material... he needs to get a grip on reality and realize that he is DATING someone and that those comments simply aren't allowed or appropo. GEEZ. I say dump him one million percent and find someone who actually cares about you and your feelings. Sheesh. Guys these days.

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  • ToxicCrayons
    11 years ago

    Tell him it's inappropriate.

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  • deathnote_fan
    11 years ago

    I think it's okay to tell a girl she's pretty,But hot is inappropriate.And if he is doing it all the time,like 3 or 4 times everytime you go to a party then yeah that's over the top as well,especially if he approaches the girl first just to tell her she's pretty,that's considered flirting.

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  • ChemGirl
    11 years ago

    I think it depends on how he says it. Saying, "you look nice today," is a lot different from saying, "Damn...you're smokin' hot!"

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  • robbieforgotpw
    11 years ago

    He's laying ground work with her while being with you.

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  • NeonLighterz
    11 years ago

    Oh girl you don't even know.
    I'd cry if something like that happened to me.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    My ex would compliment other girls all the time... I don't see what the big deal is. Just because you're with someone doesn't mean you can't be nice to anyone else too.

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  • twistedsoul
    11 years ago

    My boyfriend did that. But he only did that to my friends. Telling them that they looked beautiful. And i agree, my friends are fucking gorgeous!
    It freaked out my friends, and then i explained it to them how it was just an appreciation of beauty. Iwas cool with it, and it didnt bother me.

    But its normal. If you dont like it, tell him how you feel about it. Dont get all spiteful an pissy about it, because it wont help you in any case. If he cares about you, then hell only do it when youre not around ;)
    No but seriously, have a chat with the old man.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I've done it before. I guess it was mildly insensitive of me, but I don't think their was much objectively wrong with what I did. Although I might be offended if she acted that way towards other men, so maybe I'm just being a hypocrite.

    Bleh.

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    • dom180
      11 years ago

      *there

      Bleh.

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  • solytis
    11 years ago

    I agree with you, why would he say to a girl that she looks beautiful or hot, would he like you to say it to guys whom you find attractive just to make them feel secure?

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  • Ghost-of-the-Marlboro-Man
    11 years ago

    Only if they are smoking.

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