Is it normal for a therapist to mock people?

He sounds like a twat. That's a horrible thing to do to someone.

Also, what does it take to be a therapist? An online course. A piece of paper. There's a difference between a person with a certificate and a person who actually sees clients, but your man wasn't going to admit it.

People follow courses for all kinds of reasons. Maybe even to understand how people's minds work so that they can manipulate them more easily...

There are lots of different kinds of therapist. He could have been stretching the truth very, very far.

I think he was lying, though. People who are so narcissistic that they see every conversation as a competition to get others' admiration and prove that they are 'better' than everyone else, often lie if they think they will 'lose'. Their morality works on a different level from most people's - they don't care that they lied. They just feel that they absolutely have to have the world's admiration. I'm wondering if he sensed that you didn't agree with what he'd done and said he was a therapist to try and make you trust him.

I certainly hope it's not normal, though I did have one tell me I was "being really bitchy" and asked me if I was on my period when I was sharing with her that I had begun having suicidal thoughts (this was when I was on SSRIs, which caused me a lot of problems, this being one of them). I was becoming frustrated because she kept dismissing all of my problems and not listening to me. I don't know what the hell her problem was, but I remember telling her to go to hell, getting up and slamming the door to her office and hearing a bunch of shit fall off of the wall, and leaving. She was "highly recommended", too. My life became so much better without her "help", and once I ditched the SSRIs (but that's another story).

Unfortunately, I've known a lot of crazy and assholish people who went into the psychology field, and had my own run-ins with a couple, including the one I mentioned. I have a feeling some of them such as the one you ran into get a bit full of themselves and let their degree/profession get to their heads, and start to think they're better than others, know the answers to everything, and that everyone but them is "crazy" or has issues (and ironically enough, some of the people I've met in that industry tend to be the type of people who should receive psychological help rather than offer it to others; I won't say all of them are like that at all, but I've noticed that industry seems to attract people with mental health issues, themselves).

I would say the fact that he believes "all women are crazy" and is so quick to dismiss them as so are probably a result of his obviously unsuccessful dating life, which comes as no surprise considering his awful, childish, and insecure personality. Ironic how someone who is supposed to be a psychology professional fails to realize that he is projecting blame of his own actions onto others rather than taking a good look at himself.

No way he's normal, he sounds like an asshole.

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He could have been stretching the truth, lying, or a just plain jerk. I think the two quotes you mentioned in the end of post are quite tell telltale.

"I'm not in my office right now I'm on me time not professional time"

You're crazy too. All women are"

I think it's very possible for a person to be a trained therapist with degrees, and certifications, but still be a real jerk. Also a lot of people will deliberately plan to break up with someone in a public place like a restaurant, because they're trying to avoid a scene, or avoid having the breakup escalate to a domestic situation. Don't get me wrong, I'm certainly not trying to defend this guy at all, but we're also not privy to what the relationship was like with this woman, it could have been a very dramatic relationship. It's also possible that he may have been a narcissist, and actually chosen to date one of his clients/patients, and she may have even been a someone with Borderline personality disorder. Of course this is all just speculation on my part, and unlike yourself, I wasn't there to witness the event.

It's possible that he thought she'd be too embarrassed to cause a scene in public. The fact that she was literally begging him not to break up with her after just three weeks is also a red flag, because three weeks isn't that much time. Regardless, I think if someone said said something to me like, "you can leave now bye you're making this awkward for both of us", or, "stop crying everyone is looking at us now you're embarrassing me please just leave", I would have to cause an epic scene, the kind of scene that could only be properly described by terrorists. For instance, "it was the mother of all scenes, she was a mad woman, she was a scorpion... all praise be to Allah"! Yes, I would probably feel compelled to cause a scene from the moment he said he was embarrassed, because I really don't give two shits about whether, or not a person who hurts my feelings enough to make me cry feels embarrassed, and maybe... just maybe HE DESERVES TO BE EMBARRASSED for the way he treated her, because if he is in fact a therapist, and wasn't lying, he SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER!!!

Like I said before, I wasn't there, but the thought of her just walking off crying after he told her to "please just leave", really rubs me thing wrong way, because it sounds like an order, and I generally don't take orders from someone who isn't an employer who pays me money to take orders. I certainly don't take orders from guys like the dude you described.

I must confess, however, that I wish I had been there with you, because I would have loved to have asked him, "was she your patient, or client", immediately after he said he was a therapist! It would highly unethical, and a conflict of interest for a therapist to date a patient/client.

Anyway, if the guy's actually a therapist he's probably not a very good therapist, and he's certainly a jerk in my less than humble opinion.

ha ha.

And?

Therapists have terrible home lives. I'm trained as a therapist, but never got my license. Most of the therapists I studied with are divorced.