Is it normal for an adult to not want to be told they are a child?

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Is it normal for an adult to not want to be called a child. At 18 we are told that we have to get our own house, pay our own bills and even sometimes your parents kick you out. You are told you have to get your own job and cant mooch off your parents. If you are not on your own and got everything together at 18 you are a complete failure. how are you a child if you are given all this responsibility?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    Most 18 year olds I know and even some early-twenties are not expected to be completely independent. In school, working, apprenticed yeah, but independent? No.

    And compared to older people, you're still a child. As an adult, it's basically synonymous with being very young, unless you're acting childishly. Most 18 year olds I know are not independent and many have never even worked. I was independent at 18. Compared to me, most 18 year olds and even adults thought that I was in my mid-twenties at 18, just because I was more independent than most and had more adult knowledge and experience. Most 18 year olds that I know are just a few inches away from being children. It's easy to assume that they all are when so many stand out for it.

    Don't take it personally.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Most 18 year olds I know of including myself were kicked out at 18.<==(yes I know it does not always happen) Since after that age we were no longer required by law to be taken care of. What if the person saying so is legally one. Does it make sense for a 17 year old to be calling a 20 year old a child?

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        That's really extreme. Where are you from, OP?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          How is that Extreme? I thought this was normal.

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          • iEatZombies_
            9 years ago

            No, you just have really crappy parents who feel like they fulfilled their obligations.

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          • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
            9 years ago

            Your right it is normal. My 18th birthday present was a suitcase. True story.

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          • disthing
            9 years ago

            It happens but it's not the norm in a lot of developed countries.

            I had one or two friends who experienced this, being kicked out (one was only 16 when his mum told him to leave), but most of my friends could live at home after 18 if they wanted to - usually as long as they worked and paid rent or were studying.

            Obviously it's reasonable for parents to expect you to get a job and contribute to living costs if you can.

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            It's extreme to me. My folks bought me my first car in high school when I got my license and they paid for my college education. It was like that for the majority of kids I grew up with so being expected to be out of the house and paying my own way would be extreme to me.

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            • disthing
              9 years ago

              Being given a car and having college paid for seem like the opposite end of the spectrum to me, something only the wealthier, priveleged kids would have.

              I would have thought that would also be less common.

              Maybe it's different in the US.

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  • pizzabrowniesushi
    7 years ago

    have a meeting with 4 of your friends who are 18 and are sick of their mom nagging them see if someone's grandma will rent their basement out to you guys. When I was young I lived with 9 other people my age in Brooklyn. The place was butt ugly and smelled like ass. And that one crack ho that no one wanted to bang drove everyone nuts with her antics..but it was ours man.

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  • (.)(.)boobies
    9 years ago

    Adult is as adult does.

    luv,
    (.)(.)boobies

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I was on my own at 15 and damn happy to be there. I had work, went to school and my own place. By 15 I was fishing King Crab in Alaska, making the big bucks. It was great. What exactly is your problem?

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    • iEatZombies_
      9 years ago | pl

      It's damn near impossible for an inexperienced non-collage graduate to get a bill paying job these days. Truly. Every single person I know with a good job in their 20's had help from someone else. Paying through school, family company, financial aide for the few who qualify (which you can't pay back without help), established friends who can get you a good job. You need a degree to wipe your own ass. Without school, no decent job. Without decent job, no decent pay. Without decent pay, no school. This kid's pickins are slim.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        I do not dispute this one bit. However, it is possible to make a decent life for oneself without any help. There are good paying jobs in the oil industry, fishing and the tourist industry, some of which offer room and board, transportation to and from the jobs and a host of other perks.
        For instance, each summer in Skagway Alaska, a small town of 500 people, swells to 2500 or so because (unskilled) seasonal workers are needed to service the cruise ships that arrive. Most hard workers can make between 18 and 25k for a summer's work. Then it's off to the ski resorts for another season of hard work, or for some, school. A few years of this and one can have a nice nest egg to start a business or whatever.
        We've all seen the "deadliest catch" show and know how much money there is in that game.
        Bitching and moaning one's fate online may be all the fashion, but instead, using that time to search for one's future online may be time better spent.
        Nobody ever guarantied us an easy life.

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