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in my group of friends, it's completely normal for a girl to sit on a guy friend of her. It's not sexual more than a hug in my opinion, in one they can feel my butt and in the other my boobs. yesterday I was chatting with someone on the internet (I don't know her) and she told me it's weird. So... is it?
The person you were chatting with online apparently has different boundaries than you. She has the right to decide she doesn't want to sit on guys' laps, and you have the right to do it if you want.
However, while you may not consider it sexual, you should bear in mind that almost all young men are steaming piles of hormones, and it's usually difficult for them to not consider any bodily contact with a woman as a sexual thing.
It's normal in high school and maybe college when everyone is experimenting with flirtation and figuring out their boundaries. Just be careful that no one thinks it means anything it doesn't and that everyone - you and the other person involved - are comfortable with it and on the same page.
It'a all about conext.... Some guys would take you sitting on their lap, as a flirtation.
Brothers, sisters, family, relatives, is a different 'meaning'.
Also, whether its in a group, or 1-on-1 in "private".
Everyone drinking alcohol?.... another context.
Stranger? or long time friend?
Is seating limited?
Sitting on someone's lap, with your back to them, is different than sitting on their lap 'side-saddle'.
Like I said, depends on the situation, and the context.
P.S. Sitting on Santa's lap is perfectly acceptable, unless he's a drunk pervert... LOL !
It's always in a group but just because we don't really have 1 on 1 situations like that.
We normally don't drink when we are together, but usually when we do it's in a bar where we don't sit on each other.
We all know each other for at least four years.
I don't really understand what you mean by "Is seating limited?".
Usually it's with the back to them.
Also, something that seems important for a lot of people here, we're all about 18 to 19 years old.
I only voted normal because I'm under the assumption that you're in high school or college aged. After that it starts to become awkward.
I don't think that randomly sitting on other people's laps is normal for anyone except small children, but it is more common amongst high school, and college aged people. It's also rather common if the people in question are riding in a car together, and there's not enough room for everyone.
I've actually had other women, especially drunk women sit on my lap, and even act flirtatious towards me. I'm not really comfortable with this behavior unless the person doing is someone I know really well, and is preferably a gay man.
Also I prefer than people not not sit on my lap if they've been eating a lot of beans.
you're pushing the line of the friend zone when you do this. The dudes may start thinking of you as more. I made this mistake in my youth. It's not totally horrible, but the more you let them do, the more they might start liking you as more.
If you and your friends are agreeable to it, then it's not weird. Maybe the internet friend doesn't do it because she's pudgy and doesn't want to break the guy.