Is it normal for grandmothers to be ungrateful narcissists ?

My patrnal grandmother is the most ungrateful person I've ever known. No matter how much you do to please her she is never happy. She is sent fixed amount of money every month by my father... Which is a generous amount. We always gift her things and visit her but she is never happy. She treats my mother like a rodent and she hates her. She is verbally very abusive. She is quite healthy and strong. No matter what I achieve she always looks down on me and makes me feel inferior.

She has a narcissistic personality. She always plays victim during arguments. I have always helped her bought her gifts from my allowances ( I am not a grown up yet ) but she takes all the love for granted. I hated the way she treated my mother so we had a bad argument and we don't talk anymore.

She told me that she is ashamed to give birth to my father because he didn't follow her commands. She told me that she hates us all and we all are selfish. No matter what we do she just never gets it. My father also gifted her a car but I can't explain you how much of a bitch she was. She acted like she was doing us all a favour accepting the gift.

She is very ungrateful. She even throws everyone else's problems on us. There is this guy who is my cousin and he is a drug addict. He made a girl pregnant and has failed school. He has a pathetic personality but my grandmother favours him over me. She is a chainsmoker herself. This is the reason my father hates lighter , matchsticks and smoke because it triggers his sad childhood memories. So this guy is sent to us because she believes my father's place is a rehabilitation center. I hate her very much. She is the most selfish ungrateful narcissistic mean grandmother ever.

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  • Boojum

    I hope you feel a little better after getting that off your chest.

    Some people are worthless, despicable scumbags, and unfortunately some of them are also parents and grandparents.

    There's nothing you can do to change her, and there's nothing you can do to change the fact that she's part of your family. If your parents allow you to minimise the time you have to spend with her, that's great; some parents are so under the malign spell of their parents that they force their kids to spend time with nasty grandparents or other family members just because they are part of the family.

    You have to deal with the woman in your own way, just as your father has to deal with his mother in his way, and your mother has to deal with the mother-in-law from hell as best she can.

    It seems to me that the one lesson people like your grandmother can teach us is how we _don't_ want to behave towards others.

    Always remember that when she is dismissive or critical of you, that's only her opinion, and nothing more. Opinions can only have an impact on us if we choose to listen them and decide they have value. I suggest you do your best to ignore hers.

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  • Servian

    Then she will perish

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  • TheBlindInquisitor

    My mothers mom yes she is a asshole who seems to think the world revolves around her most people in the family aren't to fond of her she's a racist(she hates whites blacks etc)and she is very very arrogant that it borders as mental disorder.

    My fathers mom is just a over zealous Catholic/born again Christian who believes everything has to be religious or have religious meaning and that she is right no matter what usual it's easy to ignore her.

    I thought grandmothers were supposed to be nice but not mine.

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  • Meowypowers

    Sorry to hear. For some reason I got a mental picture of a less than 5ft woman wielding a rolling pin running around the house screaming profanities in Bulgarian.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Oh God! That sounds awful. My Grandmother has always been the one sending me money, not the other way around. Why doesn't she have her own money? Honestly, your Grandmother should be grateful for your father! When people have to ask their kids for money it always freaks me out. I'm not trying to sound money obsessed, but damn!

    No offense, but your grandmother sounds like an entitled bitch. I don't know where ya'll are from, but your dad is an adult, and he doesn't have to follow commands from his mother. Maybe he ought to quit sending her money for a while. Maybe both of your parents ought to stand up to your grandmother?

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