Is it normal for honeymoon period in a relationship to only last a month?

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Seriously, only a month? Hey guys so I was seriously in love with this guy, we were doing so well at the beginning of the relationship. But after about a month & a half, my boyfriend already got comfortable & stopped trying, acted like we'd been dating forever. He still texts everyday, checks in, we just never do any of the same stuff. He doesn't get excited to see me, we don't plan anything, & he can go long periods of time w/out seeing me. He still checks in everyday. I would get this after like 3-6 months, but it's only been like a month? Feel like things have just stopped. He's just already comfortable & doesn't need the same.

I mean, I'm a very chill person, but I still feel like I needed more time? I've brought this up, saying "you think we moved too fast?" "you sure this is good?" and "everything good? can't always read you/ tell if you like me". to which nope, he's all good & fine, & happy. I guess some guys are just like this?

I know he loves me (still texts every day, etc.) just wondering if this is normal. Sorry ya'll, maybe I'm too immature. Maybe I need to stop overthinking! I just needed just a bit more time to get comfortable w/this guy...

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  • [Old Memory]
    2 years ago

    I wouldn't imagine it's normal but we can't know the full deal here. Have you considered maybe putting the work in to make the plans? There's only so much you can expect of him when it comes to planning to do things given the whole Covid-19 crap.

    Try to make some plans and invite him on them, maybe he's done his part and thinks you're not trying as much as he is and is waiting for you to play your part.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Thanks!! This was such a good perspective!

      I’ve invited him a couple times now but looks like he’s a homebody & doesn’t want to come. I’ll keep trying tho, this was great advice thanks!

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      • [Old Memory]
        2 years ago

        Hmm. If you've tried to invite him and he's not budging then at most I would say make sure you're inviting him to things both of you enjoy and not just yourself and if you've already done that then he seems pretty romantically immature.

        If you want some meta you could show him the posts here or screenshot the post and the comments (if you want to keep anonymous) and show him how the outside world is viewing him and see if that gives him a kick up the backside about it.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches
    2 years ago

    Not normal!! All my honeymoon periods lasted months or a year or two!!

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  • litelander8
    2 years ago

    Love?? After a month? It’s 2021 and y’all need to chill. Cheers!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Hahah thanks, it was more a figure of speech I get it tho😂thanks!!! Cheers

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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    I don't think it's normal. Well, whatever you do don't marry him, cause it will probably only get worse.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Ugh, thanks!! I thought I was crazy! Thanks, I’m gonna keep an eye out, I completely agree with ya, sheesh

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