Is it normal for me to be so bitter to beautiful women?

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The thing is that, ever since I had many, many, MANY painful experiences with a certain ex of mine throughout highschool, I have noticed that I've become very bitter and hateful towards everything, ESPECIALLY BEAUTIFUL WOMEN. What I have been thinking is that my mind may have formed a hatred and bitterness for any and all beautiful women as a self-defense measure to try to prevent the pain I experienced with the said ex in highschool. Whatever the cause of this behaviour is, it has also caused me to be extremely bitter at EVERYTHING around me. I have to go to college and they work me like a dog where I work. It doesn't help that I'm so poor that I have to take a bike EVERYWHERE. This has instigated the bitterness and combined it into something like envy of everything. I am also constantly paranoid (thinking that anything and everything is out to get me and that they are laughing at me and staring at me). I'll even get envious of anyone driving a car just because they have one and that I can't. It's so bad that my mind constantly analyzes anything that I do and say. Even if I say something as simple as something like "Hi, how are you?", my mind will still constantly go over what I said, how I moved while saying that, the tones I said each syllable at, if I kept eye contact, and a million different other factors without stopping It's a little annoying and tiring living, knowning that I can never get my perfection-seeking mind to stop over-thinking things and to stop being so bitter towards EVERYONE and EVERYTHING. So tell me guys, is all of this normal? Is everyone out there constantly thinking about what they do inexaustably as I do and is everyone else out there as bitter as I am towards everything? Please guys, put this overactive man's mind at ease by answering my questions...

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Sounds like some manic depression going on. With paranoia and everything. Scars like those take time to heal. I was the same way after my high school sweet heart left me. Scornful of the motives and virtues of others. I built up walls so high no one could get over them and convinced myself that if a woman was pretty, then she knew she was pretty, and therefore was a stuck up bitch that thinks she's better than me. Getting that slight sneer when I approached a couple of them didn't help matters either...I still haven't really gotten over it.

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  • TheAnimeFangirl
    12 years ago

    Your Tsundre.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    I'm the same way. So I don't think that you have a problem. I'm am so bitter! Why? Because my life totally sucks and ever since even before I was born it sucked. I'm a girl though. I think everyone would be this way if they didn't mask their emotions. Anyway my best advice to you is to just put yourself first always! Do what it takes to get a car and sit down and make a realistic plan to be the happiest you can be. And then follow through on it. And when it comes to girls here is a good tip- Mostly all attractive girls will not hurt you unless you hurt them first. Then they will destroy you. Trust me. Attractive girls can pretty much date anyone they want lookwise so what they really value is respect. My exes all think I'm evil but what they fail to understand is that were terrible disrespectful boyfriends. I'm not saying that you are like that but what I am saying is that if you are not like that you will really have nothing to worry about. And if you are the best boyfriend that you can be and they still hurt you then they are idiots and you don't want to be with someone like that. So move on. I find that if I keep working on myself it really helps to keep the bitterness at bay. Good luck.

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  • chick756
    12 years ago

    I think you have a problem...it's better to see councler or terapist

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      I do agree with this i think you show get somone to talk to dont think of it like "i need help" but more like "i need to talk to someone" your not crazy or mentally unstable its just letting it out will help. It would also help to start with the"ex" because then you can figure out exactally what the problem is. However its better to talk to somone who it a professtional at this kind of stuff. If your to scared to schedule an apointment talk to a close friend. ask their oppinion . Maybe that will help you find the curage to get this out so taht you can forget the ex and live as yourself

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You may get to a doctor ASAP!!

    It's not your ex's fault that you tolerated her shit - it was yours. Nor is it her problem she was good looking - that's just silly.

    You need to count your blessings. You have an education, a bike AND a job!! Behave yourself! There are people starving and those who have to walk 6 miles each way to get water!

    Reverse your thinking.

    For the life of me I can't work out why you'd overanalyse what way you said hi, what way you moved etc. Who cares? Why do you even care? The moment is over, move on!

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      you realize ppl cant control it right , like seriously you dont have to be like "CHANGE" because with out the right help she cant its not her fualt its not like she asked for this change.

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        This poster obviously has very little to worry about apart from themselves and how they said 'hi' etc. Of course they can change their thinking. I'm 100% sure I've lived twice their lifetime and one of the very easiest thing to do believe it or not - is to start singing a little song to yourself as you walk away. First, this focuses your mind on the words of the song and secondly, providing it's not a hateful song, then it puts you into a better mood. It's really a matter of fooling the brain and learning to ignore the irrelevant crap.

        One night in the pub, this girl was complaining that her future mother in law rang her to say 'move your car from my front door'. I listened to her venon for a few minutes, then she said to me 'why are you smiling?' I didn't realise that I was but I just said to her, 'I'm just thinking that you must be very young (34) if this irritates you. I'm glad this is the worst thing that you have to worry about.'

        My nephew (17) had just been killed on his motorbike about 3 months before :o(
        People really need to get their priorities right!

        BTW why have you no number? ;o)

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  • Tehboss
    12 years ago

    you are too paranoid
    try to make your mind help you achieve better things instead of being bitter it can be a little tricky but you can do it ;)

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