Is it normal for my boyfriend to play video games so often?

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First off, my boyfriend is turning 21 in July. And I know for a fact he is the type of guy who would do anything for me. Technically, we are engaged, but since I'm only 18, I haven't gotten used to calling him my fiance. So, I will stick with calling him boyfriend until I get used to it. Point is, he is a great guy; very nice, friendly, and funny, and his love for me is endless.
I really have no problem with video games. In fact, I play them often myself. And sometimes my boyfriend and I play them together. And I understand his love for gaming, but I play no where near as often as he does.
He'll spend hours upon hours playing Playstation 3, Xbox 360, and occasionally Wii or online flash games. I am typing this at 3:00 in the morning as he plays on his Playstation 3, and he'll probably continue to play until 3:30 or 4:00. Not to mention, he has been playing since around 3:00 in the afternoon, only stopping to scarf down a sandwich, or some chicken nuggets I made for him, or use the restroom.
Honestly, I am kind of jealous that he ignores me so long to play video games. I feel like it's a little selfish of me, especially when he is playing online with friends, but I'll occasionally ask him to spend time with me, and it always goes the same way:
Him: "Well, what do you want to do?"
Me: "We could watch a movie, or go outside. Can you think of anything?"
Him: "I really don't feel like watching a movie, and I don't want to go outside. I can't think of anything, either."
Me: "Okay.."
And that's how the conversation ends. Then later, he will get upset with me and say, "If you wanted to spend time with me, you should have said something." It's like he doesn't remember anything that relates to me while he is gaming.
But whenever he says he wants to spend time with me while I am gaming, I drop everything to suit his needs. I'll save my game and stop as soon as he asks, then we'll spend two hours or so together, and then HE will hop right onto a game system as if he was only trying to get me to stop so he could play! As a matter of fact, I rarely get to play video games lately because he is so excessive about it.
Is this extreme addiction normal? Does anyone else have a problem with their boyfriend's excessive gaming habits? And does anyone know any ways I can avert his attention, things we could do together for fun that aren't sexual and that don't cost money? (I'd rather not have to use my body to get his attention, thought it wouldn't be the first time, and we are poor at the moment.) Thanks, guys.

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  • spankrocket
    8 years ago

    i agree with Lynxikat, he is addicted to it, we have all been there, he should focus on you more!

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago

    I say not normal.

    It's normal to play video games, like maybe two-three hours at a time, but not for 12 hours straight. If he's playing video games so much you can't even get a chance to play, then there's a problem.

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  • canada87
    11 years ago

    It normal all guys play video games now days. It was thing for all of us. It the way how people get raise. I can't think one of my friend(guys friends who dose not like play video games. And I am 24. Just make a plan before the day. You know he going play the game. So why don't you tell " hey so I wanna go to a movie tonight with you, it start at 7." he will probly say yeah for sure.

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  • gutta269
    11 years ago

    Then you could make a set time like let's say in between 1pm to 4 pm on a sat and Sunday it's you and him time and you could just cuddle and talk go for a walk or entertainment get creative or y'all can get a game y'all can play together give ecothers massages etc... Just some suggestions

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  • MRmr
    11 years ago

    Him: "Well, what do you want to do?"

    After this part you should already know what to say and do and I can gurantee he will drop the game controllers instantly.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I said preferably something not sexual. And sometimes, bribing him with sex doesn't even work.

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      • Lynxikat
        11 years ago

        I think what he means is that when your bf says "Well, what do you want to do?", you probably should have had something already in mind that you want the two of you to do- like maybe see a specific movie, or go to the mall, or something.

        Maybe if you say something like "Let's go see this movie at this time", and not leave it so open ("We can watch a movie or go outside. Can you think of anything?"), maybe he'll think about putting down the controller and go hang out with you.

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      • MRmr
        11 years ago

        Sexual? What are you talking about...I never said to bribe him with sex...geez get your mind out of the gutter.

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  • AssBurgers
    11 years ago

    Not sure what to vote.

    Part of me thinks it's ok, because he has a girlfriend, which proves he isn't a complete hermit.

    However, while I do spend an awful amount of time gaming, I don't believe I've ever had a 12 hour session and that does sound quite extreme =/

    He might need to go cold turkey, take a holiday for a week or two.

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