Is it normal for my husband to be friends with someone who ignores me?

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My husband and I work at the same place. There was a co worker who is in a diff dept that I think flirts with him, however, he denies that. When she sees me with my husband, she says hi to him and ignores me. I tell my husband that he should not encourage her but he says that he was just being polite. One time I overheard her telling one of the clients to tell my husband that she looks young. My husband asked her before about places to camp ( her husband and her
camps a lot). Anyway, one time she followed /
looked for my husband in our lounge( we have
our own department lounge) to asked if there
was a fee in the camping ground that she had
been talking about ( she had gone to this
camping ground several times). We thought that
it was so weird of her to ask that and even to go
to our lounge. She picks my husbands' clients to prep them ( their job is to prepare the client before we comes in). If I happen to go in the dept without their knowledge, most of the time I see them joking around. One time when she saw
me and my husband together in the dept where she works, someone called for my husband and she pretended she doesn't know who that was.
She saw both me and my husband at the
cafeteria and she said hi to my husband and completely ignored me. I don't really care how she treats me but I DO care how my husband responds to her "friendliness". I think that my husband can be polite but not joke around with
her whenever I'm not around. I told my husband
that a normal person when they see a "friend"
with their spouse, they say hello to both even if
they do not like the other partner. So i find her
actions weird. I feel that my husband should
support me.

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  • wreckd
    13 years ago

    He may just find her as a fun person to be around or be flattered by her. However, when she disrespects you, that should be a red flag to your husband to stop joking around with this girl. She obviously has mal-intent for your relationship and your marriage. If your husband would like to stay married, he should listen to you.

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  • howaminotmyself
    13 years ago

    So say hi to her, I'm sure you know her name. Introduce yourself. Mention how awesome that camping spot is, invite her to drinks after work. Yeah she is totally disrespecting you but be the better person. You can easily take the power from her in this situation.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    she sounds like a schemer and your husband sounds like he loves the flattery, if it was you doinig the same thing he'd hit the roof i bet

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    He needs to stop joking around with this chick if she is purposefully ignoring you.

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  • kamilion
    13 years ago

    no its not normal. it sucks to have to tell someone from the internet that their spouse is being a jerk. she obviously is being very strange; shes basically all over him and "ignoring" you. even though by ignoring you shes making an even bigger scene. i totally agree that her husband should not encourage her. she sounds like a but because shes clearly going to do whatever she wants. the whole thing sounds really strange and confusing to me as well. i dont know why she pretended not to know who your husband was. i would be suspicious that they are cheating. maybe you should hire a pi to trail him.

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  • HSVWHO
    13 years ago

    Find a new job because partners working in the same place never end well. Then quit your current job and as you walk out. Punch her in the fukin face. :)

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  • dreamer101
    10 years ago

    it sounds like he likes the attention my husband is the same way, an attention whore. i would tell him to nip it in the bud if he wants to remain friendly with her he needs to set boundaries and disrespecting you is a line she can not continue to cross. My husband has plenty of friends who don't like me and female friends but when we got married he established boundaries with right off the back and we haven't had problems yet.

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    All this can't be good.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    yes i agree with you. she should be polite and say hello to you out of respect for your husband. maybe your husband likes the attention which is why he hasnt told her to back off. but either way, he should respect how you feel more importantly than this other lady. but some men can be pretty naive and not even know when a women is flirting. does she know that you are his wife?

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  • rayst
    13 years ago

    Hahaha lol the only thing you got on her is that she didn't salute you twice.. So you expect your husband to fuck his work atmosphere just because YOU are jealous. I had an ex who used to be like you, she argued with me because i said hi and bye to another female coworker she didn't like. It only appear to me that you are overwhelmingly jealous.

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    • LadyT.
      12 years ago

      I'd be willing to bet top dollar that if your ex had a man who went out of his way to follow her around, and came upon the two of you together, and ignored you, you wouldn't find that to be funny at all! As a matter of fact, you'd find it just as insulting as the poster does! I know how she feels, as I'm going through the same thing with an old friend of my husbands, who constantly calls, texts, and e-mails him on a regular basis! She even goes so far as to scope my husband out in a social situation, run up to him, throw her arms around him, give him a huge hug, say hello to him, turn in the opposite direction, and walk off without as much as a nod to me! And if I don't approach her to say hello when my husband isn't around, there'd be no greeting whatsoever! And the greeting I do get comes across as, "the pleasure is all yours"! I really wouldn't be so bothered by all the attention she lavishes on my husband, but, when she treats me as if I took something away from her, than that brings up a big red flag in my book! My suggestion, get your husband into counseling, if he refuses to support you in this matter! If he doesn't than give him a taste of what you're being fed, and see how much of it he will swallow!

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