Is it normal for my teacher to tell me he likes lesbians?

25% Normal
19 Comments

I'm a high school student (not a minor) and I'm a lesbian. One of my classmates was bullying me for this so I had to talk to my teacher about it. He told me that he had known many lesbians when he was my age, because he felt attracted to lesbians, "not just sexually, but because I've always found butch women attractive". I was like "WTF". Do you think it's normal for my teacher to say this?

Voting Results
25% Normal
Based on 110 votes (28 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 19 )
  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    He was trying to make you feel better.

    This is exactly what I'm talking about in today's society. If a man comforts a female, he is obviously trying to get in her pants.

    Everyone complains when men aren't kind, nice, and trying to comfort people, then complain when they do. Ugh.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    4
    4
      -
    • Lynxikat
      11 years ago

      It's not the fact that he was trying to "comfort" her- it was what he was saying. If he was comforting her like a normal person, he'd probably say something along the lines of, "There's nothing wrong with you", or "That guy's a jerk, he has no idea what he's talking about"

      Instead, when the student says to the teacher that she's being bullied because she's a lesbian, his first reaction to that is, "You know, I always thought lesbians were attractive. Especially the butch ones."

      You don't think that's pretty weird?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      2
      2
        -
      • foxyk
        11 years ago

        the way he said it wasn't the only thing he could of said...not the most "appropriate" way either

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        1
        1
      • foxyk
        11 years ago

        it is weird lol like you said, he could of said it in a better, more comforting way!

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        No. There are different types of comfort. There is the type to say that the person insulting the person that is needing comforted doesn't know what they're talking about, and then there's the type when you focus positivity towards the person to make them know that others don't think that by stating their opinion.

        Maybe they were calling her an ugly lesbian, and butch women aren't really considered attractive by the majority of heterosexual people. Maybe that's what brought that attractive compliment on, and even if the ugly lesbian part wasn't included, being called attractive usually helps everyone's self esteem.

        When comforting people "There's nothing wrong with you" and "That guy's a real jerk, he has no idea what he is talking about" is pretty bad for comfort. Non of them really comfort, they just say the person saying it is wrong, but doesn't have any real positivity to it. Maybe he is wrong, but she is still considered ugly? By then saying they're attractive, he boosts their self esteem.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • Lynxikat
          11 years ago

          But we don't know if this bully told OP that she was ugly- she didn't say. She just said that she was bullied because of her sexuality. If she didn't mention at all to her teacher that the bully commented on her appearance, then there was no reason for him to say that he thought that he "always thought lesbians were attractive". And even if she did say that this bully called her ugly, then that would be the appropriate time to say "you're pretty". But even if he said that same comment ("I've always been attracted to lesbians, not just sexually, but especially butch lesbians I find attractive") in this situation, it'd still be weird, because he's insinuating that he may be attracted to OP.

          And in this situation, it doesn't matter what the genders are: if any teacher, of either gender, said the same thing to a homosexual student, of either gender, it would still be weird. In fact, it would be even more creepier if it was a female teacher that said "I've always been attracted to butch lesbians", because it would insinuate even more that the teacher herself is a lesbian, was coming on to the student, and might try to do something to the student in the future. Same thing in reverse; if a male student told his male teacher he was being bullied for his sexuality and the teachers response was, "I always found gays attractive", that be a lot creepier than if it was a female teacher who said the exact same thing to a male gay student.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • RomeoDeMontague
            10 years ago

            He probobly assumed that is why she was being bullied and was trying make her feel better. It did sound a bit inappropriate but it might just be the teacher handled it wrong.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
          • Anonymous Post Author
            11 years ago

            The bully had not called me ugly, no ;p haha

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
          • [Old Memory]
            11 years ago

            Yes, and that's why I added the part about even if they didn't call her ugly, complimenting the victim instead of insulting the victimizer helps the victim more than insulting the victimizer.

            Also, she only stated she was bullied, that could mean many things, and the ugly part is something females tend to bully other females on.

            I don't think that definetly means he's attracted to the OP. Yes, by insinuating that she's exually attractive, he's complimentiong her, making her feel better about her self rather than make her feel better because the victimizer is pathetic.

            I was told that I was an attractive lad by my highschool teacher. She thought I was being bullied, and tried to comfort me. I said thanks, and I took the compliment as comfort. Not once did I think "She wants to fuck me".

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
    • RomeoDeMontague
      10 years ago

      I agree with this. I think he was probobly just trying to make you feel better. It might not have come out the right way but I don't think he was trying to be a perv to you. I think he just truly wanted to make you feel better. Though probobly could have worded it better. If he tried to make a move on you are something ok maybe but this no.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    He was trying to make you feel better, but the way he presented the information would be easy to turn into something bad. As long as he doesn't make you feel uncomfortable about it or hit on you, I say appreciate that he is making an effort! (although if he ever crosses a line that is too much for you, you always have the power to fry his ass lolz)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    You were there, so I'm trusting your judgment that this was inappropriate and I'd be keeping my distance if I were you

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • sissycakes
    11 years ago

    your teacher doesn't seem to be very smart. but then again why would you confide in a male teacher? your teacher is attracted to you.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    That sounds odd but if he isnt hitting on you I guess its not a big deal . Also it does sound like he is trying to cheer you up he sounds like he wants you feel better and didnt know how else put it .

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • darthknight
    11 years ago

    Whoever bullies you for this , stab that bastard's eyes until blood comes out ! :D

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    he gonna rape you but i can kill him *showd you my hitlist* whats his name?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • mariahrox153
    11 years ago

    Maybe he was just saying he just liked butch women as friends,just drawn to them and it came out wrong.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Fashion4ever
    11 years ago

    That's creepy bot I guess he was trying to make you feel better.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I think he was trying to make you feel better.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0