Is it normal for my younger sister to be stronger than me?
I'm an 18 year old guy, and my 17 year old sister is a lot stronger than me. She actually has visible muscles that are bigger than mine. I feel like she doesn't respect me because of this.
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RoseIsabella
I appreciate your honesty, but I have a hard time with the gender part, because to me it shouldn't be a big deal. I think the bigger deal you make about not liking the fact that your sister is bigger and stronger than you the less of a sympathetic figure you make yourself. It's not her fault that she's big and strong. I'm there are plenty of 17 year old guys who are stronger than you.
If you can get over your insecurity, and bring yourself to actually feel proud of her you will look better, and be more respectable, especially in the eyes of your younger sister. Please keep in mind that a one your age difference is very small, and that it's certainly not enough to give you any authority with regard to her. You and your sister ought to have equal respect for one another regardless of who is physically stronger. The more insecure you are, the less masculine you appear.
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Boojum
You say you feel like your sister doesn't respect you because you're not as physically strong as her. Interesting how you say you "feel" this, and don't cite any concrete examples of this perceived disrespect.
It's possible that what you feel is wrong. It's possible that she actually doesn't like or respect you much, but only because you behave like a typically dickish 18 year-old guy. It's possible that she doesn't respect you because you've got a huge inferiority complex based on the ridiculous idea that you, as a male, must be stronger than any mere woman, and you deal with this by disrespecting her.
From what you've said in the OP and comments, it sounds like you believe your sister should bow down to you because you have have been blessed with a penis and she hasn't. If you can't see how absurd, childish, and just plain stupid that idea is, then having a strong little sister is the least of your problems.
Physical strength can be useful, but what's going on between your ears is far more important in the long run.
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Anonymous Post Author
I'm sorry if that's how you interpreted it. That wasn't my intention. As for concrete examples, she sometimes sarcastically asks if I'm eating enough and she jokingly said that she's actually my big sister. I know these things aren't a big deal but still that's where my perception is coming from.
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RoseIsabella
Well, you can hit her with a comeback like, " you may think I'm your little brother, but you'll always be my baby sister". My younger sister is quite obnoxious, and she was always trying to prove that she was better at stuff than me, but I just acted like I didn't care. She also told our cousin who is two years older than her that she will always be ahead of him when they were in high school and college, but the joke is on her, because he's the successful one with the six figure income, not her.
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Anonymous Post Author
Ok thanks guys. I'm not very good at trash talk or comebacks and I'll probably get destroyed so I guess I'll take the other option and wait for her to grow out of it.
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ohno
That's a terrible comeback that you should definitely not use. Don't get on her nerves or she will beat you up. The best advice I can give you is to just accept the fact that she is the house alpha and suck up to her like crazy. Become the younger sibling and give her the power. She has earned it. Just follow her orders and she will treat you nicely. Anything that she has asked of you in the past, just get it done.
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RoseIsabella
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Boojum
I grew up in a large family, and this sounds like normal sibling shit.
Brothers and sisters usually tease and goad each other, and in their teens, this gets even worse than when they were younger.
She knows you're sensitive about your relative sizes, so she picks away at it, looking for a reaction. It's pretty childish really, like a small kid doing something naughty just to get some attention. As I'm sure you know, the best way of dealing with teasing is to simply ignore it. Hopefully, she'll grow out of it.
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RoseIsabella
Is she bigger than you, does she workout? Respect should be about more than physical dominance. However, if your little sister is taller, bigger boned than you, more muscular, works out and is more athletic than you what do you expect? Please understand I am just speculating, and I have no idea about any of the variables I listed above.
I certainly hope that you're not just upset, because a female who happens to be your sister is stronger than you. I'm sure there are plenty of guys out there with younger brothers who are bigger and stronger than them. If your insecurities are based on gender then you need you just get over it! A one year difference isn't much at all.
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RoseIsabella
I appreciate your honesty, but I have a hard time with the gender part, because to me it shouldn't be a big deal. I think the bigger deal you make about not liking the fact that your sister is bigger and stronger than you the less of a sympathetic figure you make yourself. It's not her fault that she's big and strong. I'm there are plenty of 17 year old guys who are stronger than you.
If you can get over your insecurity, and bring yourself to actually feel proud of her you will look better, and be more respectable, especially in the eyes of your younger sister. Please keep in mind that a one your age difference is very small, and that it's certainly not enough to give you any authority with regard to her. You and your sister ought to have equal respect for one another regardless of who is physically stronger. The more insecure you are, the less masculine you appear. The more secure you are in your masculinity the more respect you will receive from others. Your physical strength does not define your masculinity.
Try to think of your sister as being fitter stronger than the average person rather than thinking of yourself as less than.
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JellyBeanBandit
Who gives a fuck? If she ever says anything just tell that you couldn't give a fuck.
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McBean
Yes girls are strong, but they are under-endowed with biceps. Try arm wrestling, and pull her arm toward you.
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johnathanfatsie
Of course not! As a male you should be more superior woman are weak, that's why they stay at home and cook meals and look after the children. while the man goes out and works for a living to put meat on the family table. I suggest you get yourself into shape work out at the gym, And perhaps you sister should lay of the steroids she's obviously taking.
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Pumpurrnickel
It doesn't really matter. If it really bothers you, then go hit the gym.
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