Is it normal for someone to hate their mother?

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I love my mother, and i hate anything bad happens to her..

But sometimes, and this can last for days, she just wouldnt stop doing some weird shit, especially when she gets nervous about something or just sad. NOTE that this happens a lot -she is very paranoid about everything.

She is very selfish, she is a lair, she hates most people, she loved to embarrass me, when i was much younger, in front of any random person or any family member whenever she got the chance..

when i got older. there was this one time when we had a fight because of her attitude with me.. and that took place after she was VERY VERBALLY ABUSIVE for a whole 30 minutes while i was eating launch (i was 18 or 19).. i shouted at her at the top of my lungs and later she cried saying " i dodnt do anything wrong".. when she cried i felt very guilty and apologized to her 2 days later. so she tells me right after the apology "dont talk to any one son, people hate you".

i read a lot about psychology, even psychotherapists dont know what to say about her (the few ones i went to),
So it turned about to be, and this sounds true to me for i know my mother was abused (not physically) through her entire life, that my mother is a narcissistic woman, who believes that she is very important because she suffered greatly when she was younger..

ANYWAY.. despite the fact that i know that she is just a victim, the fact that she chooses to hurt me to make herself feel better just drives me crazy.. i should be her son .. the problem is . is that she constantly trying to prove to everyone that she is a good mother by giving tons of random food to me after she pulls one of her weird shit..

she isnt self aware, she is pretty stupid and ignorant to everything.. she is religious, t least she believes she is ...

but sometimes i still hate her guts... what do you think?

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Sounds normal for you to hate her. The best thing to do is to get out of that toxic environmemt asap. The damage she does to you can be permanent. You can fight, but you'll still take this damage. Just try to get a job as early as you can to live alone and interrupt the contact with her. She is obviously damaging you intentionally so she is your enemy.

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  • wigz
    5 years ago

    That sounds exactly like my mom. I figured out she must have OCPD (not OCD, but OCPD) and is a narcissist, after doing much research into it. Possibly BPD, but the things you mention really scream OCPD and narcissism primarily. Check those disorders, I bet your mom has those too. Distance yourself from her and get therapy for yourself. I barely talk to my mom anymore and it was hard at first because of the hold that she had over me because of her manipulation all my life (picture when you kick a dog but he comes back with his tail between his legs because he wants to please you) but once I broke free of that and realized how messed up my mom was, now it's a breeze.

    https://lonerwolf.com/narcissistic-mother-father/

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      i just looked at the thing on wikipedia.. it is pretty weird i didnt find that thing before .. you are correct my mother is probably like yours ....

      and that article on loner wolf.. everything is so accurate too

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  • HellsAngel88
    5 years ago

    I went to prison for trying to kill my parents especially my mother if that's any constellation. We talk now but it was not easy reconciling and forgiving the past!!!

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    • [Old Memory]
      5 years ago

      Hell no. I always phantasize about killing my father with bare hands, but that won't give me back my childhood or my health. Let's stop this madness, the only good thing to do is to provide a better life for our offspring.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      what was your motive? if you dont mind sharing

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      • DanielBlizzard
        5 years ago

        i have masturbated so much thinking of my mother after having a fight with her but then later i realised that she is mum
        but still the habbit of masturbation is not gone

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