Is it normal for your fiance to spend a night with a prostitute for

His bachelor's party is going to be in June and for it he invited his closest friends so it's only going to be 5 guys.

He planned it with them and I heard him on the phone and heard him talk about the prostitute that is going to be there for the "entertainment" and how he jokingly said "Should we ask her to do us all at once would you guys mind seeing each other nude or do you want to do it one by one"

I got really upset because I could hear him talking about it in the other room and I pulled the phone out of his hand and hung up and yelled at him saying that's disrespectful to me because I am your partner and you're marrying me and we live together and he said nothing was going to happen and he was kidding.

When he was out I called one of his friends Dave he's our mutual friend and I asked him what my fiance said about the prostitute and he literally told me that my fiance said he planned to DO HER they all plan to except Dave because he's married.

When my fiance got home I was crying and upset and he said I was overreacting and that all men sleep with a prostitute the week before their wedding. Is this true? Is this normal? I'm so upset I'm shaking

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Comments ( 19 )
  • sillygirl77

    Do Not marry this guy. There's someone better out there for you. I'm sorry because I'm sure you loved him and that's why you were going to marry him, but no what he's planning to do is Not okay. You deserve better

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  • SkullsNRoses

    No that’s not normal at all, that’s calculated cheating. He does not respect you or your relationship and a shiny gold ring and a piece of paper will not change that. Your rage, despair and heartbreak are how any sane person would react to this disgusting revelation.

    The one silver lining in this horrible situation is that you saw his true character before you legally bound yourself to him because you should not and I repeat NOT marry this absolute pig.

    Call the wedding off and lean on your family and friends in this hard time. And don’t let him gaslight you into thinking that his planning to stick his dick in another woman was in any way normal bachelor party behaviour because IT WAS NOT and deep down you know that.

    I wish you good luck.

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    • Thanks for saying this because I wasn't sure if this was actually a thing men did but usually didn't tell their fiances or what and I guess you're right it exposed who he really is. It's just so difficult but I know I'll have to leave him

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      • SkullsNRoses

        It will be hard but in two or three years time you will look back on it as the best choice you ever made.

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  • Clunk42

    That is the biggest red flag I have ever seen.

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  • ellnell

    Leave him before it's too late.

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  • Somenormie

    That is super fucked up.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Call off the wedding honey! This bullshit is as good as it gets, and it's only gonna get worse if you marry him. Put on your ASICS, and RUN!!!

    https://youtu.be/b4h1q3cCl2w

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  • jethro

    No it isn't normal. Better get out now while the getting is good.

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  • Tommythecaty

    I think it’s safe to say you are not overreacting.

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  • dude_Jones

    Here is what will probably happen. You will have wishful thinking, then marry him, then find out about his affairs after six months, then become swingers, then leave him, then get counseling, then live miserably ever after. Buckle up; life is tough.

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  • Bloodbrut

    There’s nothing normal it’s just a bullshit excuse... there’s a stereotype image of guys doing this because the patriarchy make it out as if marrying someone is hard and therefore the MAN sleeps with someone before marrying... you never hear about women doing it.

    Fuck this guy. He’s way too disrespectful and he absolutely does not respect you as a person/women from you what you have written hear...

    And if it’s seems like a big jump not to marry him... there really du king are plenty of good guys out there and you have time! Live your life for you, not for him or by any rules!

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    yallre gonna get gonorrhea on your weddin night

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  • Bennybro1

    for starters dave the mutual friend is dangerous evil swine . and id say he bigger motive telling u anything . none of his business . 2nd most guys last parties do be wild and normal but as a woman myself girls last parties are wilder .let him have his fun and u do to . cause when married all the fun stops .

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    • hauntedbysandwiches

      You're a moron

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  • ChrissySnow

    I'm shocked that I'm the only one who admits hooking up with a prostitute at a bachelor party is completely normal. How can you watch movies and tv about bachelor and bachelorette parties and not think that this is normal? What did you all think would happen at a bachelor party? You should know the stuff we did at bachelorette parties I've been to was way naughtier

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    • hauntedbysandwiches

      Then you're a cheater lol

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      • ChrissySnow

        Is it really cheating when you have permission?

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        • That's called an open relationship and that's different

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