Is it normal i actlike this if i cant get hold of a person?

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When I was younger my mom used to go out with her friends and party and drink ,while me and my little brother were home alone.I am 7 years older than him so him being a baby i was scared out of my mind being home alone,so I wouold call her probly by the hour and she would never answer so I would have mini panic attacks and fall asleep crying also painful feeling in my chest area near my heart ,like a really heavy feeling.But as I got older if people didnt answer theyre phones or didnt call me to tell me they got home safely I would freak out butnever showed it.I have a hard enough time answering phones or even answering doors so it was really hard for me to call people.I just can't help but think of the worst possible scenerios of what could of happened to them,and thought it would be better to pretend I didnt care worried they wouldnt wanna be friends with someone as clingy as me especially when babysitters would come home later then they said like mayby 10 minutes later then what they said.
I just feel that they are being selfish and not thinking of my feelings or how worried I am.Luckily im good at hiding my true emotions infront of people and I apologize for any mispelled words.

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  • Nomster!
    12 years ago

    Ya, I feel for you. A past experience if not handled asap can turn horrible.

    You should try some exposure. That is the best advice I can give.

    This is very normal, but not right. Learn some relaxing techniques, something that can take your mind off of it.

    Wouldent want to be friends with you?? You seem like a good person. That's hard to imagine :)

    Best of luck, I wish for the best for you!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I almost never anwser my phone. I find it unacceptable when people call me multiple time or get upset that I didnt anwser it. It should not be my burden to anwser my phone when Im busy and be on call for other people.

    I find it selfish of others to expect me to be on call for them and not minding their own fucking buisness.

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  • Milenajonijon
    12 years ago

    Omg this is so me! My dad passed away when I was little out of the blue he was killed, and ever since then I freak out when people I care about go MIA. My ex used to torment my fucking soul by "disappearing" all the time, out late, phone going to voicemail, no way to get in touch with him. My heart would be racing and I would have to go for a fast drive just to calm myself down, these weren't "mini" panic attacks lol. Needless to say when he'd finally show up I think he was secretly happy to see me still awake, eyes red from crying from thinking he was dead in a car accident (or at a brothel, lol) still holding my phone dialing his number over and over and when I finally broke up with him it's really made my life less stressful.

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  • awerfgaerg
    12 years ago

    A lot of the women I know do this constantly. To some extent, I think it's perfectly acceptable. But frankly, from what you're describing, I think you ought to calm down a little bit. My mother is awful about this, and my grandmothers are even worse.

    We all have our moments (I remember a few times off the top of my head where I had something I wouldn't be afraid to call an anxiety attack, chest pains included), but I think you should try to remind yourself how rarely the things you worry about actually happen. Sure, it's possible your loved one isn't calling because he/she got into a car accident, but a) the odds are incredibly low, and perhaps more importantly, b) worrying will solve absolutely nothing. Again, anxiety is a normal human emotion, and it serves its purpose here and there, but you shouldn't let it dominate your life.

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  • Idris
    12 years ago

    I'm feeling this way right now. I HATE that feeling. Usually it's with romantic partners, and I start getting scared that they've gotten into a car crash.

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  • nowimsureimsane
    12 years ago

    Yeah they arent caring of your feelings when they do that.i love clingy btw.

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