Is it normal i am so afraid of what people think of me

I am terrified that all people think I am stupid. When I say things in work meetings, when I talk socially, when I interact with my boss... all I can think of is that the person listening must think I am a complete moron. Then lo and behold, I do sound like a moron because I am only focused on that. Is it normal that I am so focused on that feeling that it just about paralyzes me?

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  • Avant-Garde

    I do this too. Being in situations with allot of people scares me, even if it's a casual setting.

    I often am too panicked to talk so, I wonder what people think of me. Do they think I'm dumb because of my inability to talk around them?

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    • rin

      Sometimes I don't talk at work and I believe I come off as a B because I appear to not want to converse but really I'm just to anxious/depressed. -.-

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      • Yeah. I used to think that many people I've met over the years were stuck up....but the longer I live and socialize, the more I've come to realize they're usually just shy.

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  • naturefortheworld

    dont care what peope think of you. just dont think about them and youll be fine.

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  • Bob_Hoskins

    What a stupid question.

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  • MissClaire

    Its normal - part of growing up and becomming more confident in your skills and knowledge. There is a whole host of social phycology and age demographic topics within the workplace to explore.

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  • rin

    What I have to do is just say what is on my mind and not think about anything else. I mean obviously I watch what I say but I don't dwell on it. I know when I do over think I end up sounding like an idiot b/c Im anxious. XD

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  • InvadingPotatoLeader

    If you don't think about it too much and relax a bit you're less likely to look like a "complete moron" I think.

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  • Anime7

    Social anxiety is a common behavior. However, I don't think this is healthy for your self esteem. I think that, if you believe you sound dumb try to sound more intelligent. Plan out your thoughts before they escape your mind and then speak professionally. I think that you are putting too much thought into what others believe. At the end of the day, if you're happy with yourself, then that's the only approval that you need.

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  • turnoff2012

    In my opinion NO...But i do this as well and try not to think about people judging me... they are out there. Try not to judge others....just accept and you might have a better time with this self judgement.

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  • Tehboss

    that sucks :S just go wild man if you are gonna sound like a moron anyway why not have fun?

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  • psm45

    lucky you have a job

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  • Bernardsbook

    Self consciousness is a normal state of human awareness. It is perfectly natural to be worried about what others think of you, especially when you aren't blessed with being particularly attractive or intelligent, which I believe is true in your case. There are many ways to deal with this, firstly you could become a crazy hermit lady who does 'art' and wears a large poncho, this is of course the most common way ugly people deal with failure. Another more suitable way is to plot to bring the down any who have mocked you, this is also known as a vendetta and is a well pursued career option, often it involves a slow progression to power and then a spate of murders other high profile crimes, this usually culminates in one final act of aggression which is then foiled by a cunning hero, this usually results in you being sent to prison to serve a lengthy sentence, this of course is a brilliant option for anyone self conscious as in prison they're all friends and everyone likes everyone, it's more of a love-in than punishment.
    I prescribe this to you as the best option, though you could also just do some paltry attention seeking act like becoming a whore for the media with no discernible talent, such as Paris Hilton, Jessie J, Adele or Coldplay.
    The options are varied.
    I hope this has been helpful.

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