Is it normal i attend church for nostalgia and to please my parents?

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I basically lost my faith and became a skeptic since I began attending college. It's just that I harbor no ill feelings toward this church; they're not collectively hypocritical, judgmental or anything like that. I basically attend to appease my parents, see a girl I like on a regular basis, and somewhat for nostalgia, because I do have good memories associated with this church. When my parents ask me about my faith now, I either halfheartedly agree or I completely shut up about it. Is it normal? I mean some weeks I don't mind attending, with other's it's a chore. Even though I'm living a lie or at least I'm being a tad hypocritical, am I doing the right thing?

Yes, I've been there 14
No, and it's a bad idea 11
Well, I can't say one way or the other 9
No 5
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  • Paradiddle
    10 years ago

    Nothing is wrong with going so on one hand, its plenty normal to go to church. However, I have had people my age and a few elderly people to basically use the fact that I don't go to church as me not living the way I should or as if I'm missing something in my life. I find this incredibly judgmental since I am quite the nice person but according to them, that isn't good enough if I'm not going to church and joining in their daily customs and beliefs. I do have my own beliefs, its just that I don't show them so openly like other church-goers do. Even worse, there are people who go to church just to give the illusion that they are good when they are hateful outside of it which negates every single Sunday of effort.

    But back to your situation, I do feel a little saddened that you have to pretend to be into going to church for your parents even though I know you do it for fear of how they would react to the truth. If you just decided not to go anymore, you would be within your right and no one should be able to force your choices. Still, you said you have no ill-feelings for them and you get to see a female of choice there so yes, it isn't hurting much aside from a quiet inner voice.

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  • dybex
    10 years ago

    Wasting your time is a sin. Stop it.

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  • LovelyMay
    10 years ago

    It's a good thing. Keep going to church. It can't hurt anything.

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    • sweetwisteria
      10 years ago

      Going to church exposes you to religous propaganda. I can understand wanting to please your parents but grow a backbone, and stick up for your own pov.

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      • LovelyMay
        10 years ago

        I was just trying to help. Not trying to get into any arguments or anything. What does pov. mean?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Point of view. aka perspective. How you view things

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          • LovelyMay
            10 years ago

            Thank you. I will try and remember that :)

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    Meh, you're fine. I'm not a churchgoer but churches are some of the most beautiful structures, architecturally speaking.

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  • Tommythecat.
    10 years ago

    I found faith recently, god is real. He loves you and would love for you to reconnect with him through church. I know it's hard to believe sometimes but have faith in him, give it a real chance.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Seems normal to me. **rubs one out in chuch bathroom.**

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