Is it normal i cant tell my friends and family about my problems?

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My whole life I can have good relationships with people as long as everything in my life is fine. However, when I get in trouble, fail an exam, face injustice, or something bad happens to me, I find I cannot talk about this with anyone. I hate it when people see me crying, and I hate it even more when they start asking whats wrong. I even go as far as lying to my family and boyfriend and ignoring my friends so that I won't have to talk about it.
I wouldn't be too embarrassed if someone saw me naked, and I don't mind people laughing and making fun of me as long as they mean no harm. But I end up in insincere relationships and telling stupid lies because of this.
Is it normal???

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83% Normal
Based on 92 votes (76 yes)
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  • Orthanc
    11 years ago

    I had the same problem, I absolutely hated talking about my own life and problems to anyone. I refused to seek help from my family and friends and then I eventually snapped and opened up. It felt great.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    That's why we have counsellors and clergy etc. - people don't necessarily want to share their problems with people they know. But on the daily bumps and knocks-type issues you really should be able to talk to friends - that's what friendship is about. So either try not to not be so up-tight about sharing and being supported with friends - or - if they are untrustworthy - get some better ones.

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  • babydoll7777
    11 years ago

    it's scary at first when you try to get the words out. but once you start you can't stop just try it with something small

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  • Antir0b0t
    11 years ago

    I'm like that too. I got so depressed I had to force myself to open up. It felt so damn good.

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  • thoughtfulopt29
    11 years ago

    It'll feel good once you open up.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    That's why we have counsellors and clergy etc. - people don't necessarily want to share their problems with people they know.

    But on the daily bumps and knocks-type issues you really should be able to talk to friends - that's what friendship is about. So either try not to not be so up-tight about sharing and being supported with friends - or - if they are untrustworthy - get some better ones.

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  • thanksforthefreecar
    11 years ago

    Normal, but not good. You have to get it all away from you

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    There are many just like you

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    If it wasn't normal then this site wouldn't have lasted as long as it has. You need to learn to be kore trusting but also accept that you simply don't want others to see you as weak or flawed. There's nothing abnormal about that.

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