Is it normal i don't like people who complain about the friendzone?

There are far more nice guys than douchebags out there, the only difference is that the douchebags are noticed more, and yes, even chosen more, despite how you females want to brand your morality levels.

I find the whole "Guys that say they're good guys are actually douchebags" part just BS. You're trying to justify your choice of not picking nice guys over assholes by stating that the nice guys that claim to be nice guys are actually assholes.

I think it is completely acceptable and understandable why a guy will bring up the "friendzone" talk. I for one am sick of seeing so many nice guys interested in a girl, then when the girl that picked the douchebag over the majority of guys that were nice, she sits there screaming "Where are all the good guys? All men are pigs, men don't know how to love a girl. Where are all the good guys"...Well they're in the friendzone where she left them.

If a woman would preffer being friends with a guy, that is understandable, and I can understand that. What I absolutly hate is when a girl will reject someone, then say she's looking for a guy with certain qualities, and all the guys she rejected has all of those qualities, then she goes for a good looking asshole with none of the qualities.

It is actually irritating how the commenters have commented and this whole statement. This is just another fine example of how women can't take resposnibility for something they do wrong and bring on themselves, and it's one of the reasons why I have never tried to enter the whole relationship game.

Ugh. Women, grow up. Just because you pick the asshole, then realize that you picked the asshole when you friendzoned so many nicer guys doesn't make it right for you to use good guys as a scapegoat and say "Oh, well, erm, the good guys are assholes too! Yeah, yeah, that's why I picked the biggest asshole before I picked the good gu...Oops, I mean lesser assholes".

Grow up.

(Yes, I know, you're over emotional and won't accept that this happens, so you'll thumbs it down to the max simply because I won't give in to the idea you wish all men gave in to, that rainbows shine out of your ass)

You're actually wrong. Girls do turn down some really nice guys and go for the douchebags. Ask me; I'm a big douchebag and I get a lot of girls. Girls for some reason dig that shit

Also, it's humor. Laugh don't rage.

Hahaha, I understand completely!

I find it funny too how a lot of those nice guys see their rejection as being because they were "nice guys", but their behavior tends to make me think that they are arrogant dicks that feel that their attitude alone should be why they should have gotten the girl. Because, you know, it has nothing to do with the girl's feelings.

I see why they complain, because more often than not, the girl's friend-zoning them go for men that treat them like shit, but to complain about the friend-zone like it's a form of hell? All it tells me is that you have yet to develop the mental capacity to realize which mistakes you're making and to quit going after the same basic type of girl.

And if you're going after girls constantly, it signifies that you're afraid to be alone. Women don't want a man that will go for just anyone because they want to feel like they're the only one. As a woman, I don't want to be the prize of the desperate.

So, normal.

A guy that I was friends with for about two months asked me out. I declined and said that we were better friends. He fucking stopped talking to me for good. I realized that he never considered me a friend.

Obviously it depends on the situation.

I can see how it must suck to really like someone and have them turn around and say "I'm not going out with you... but I want to be friends so you have to see me every day just so you won't forget about me or get over me, and then I'll show off my next boyfriend to you and make you feel like crap".

But then again, wanting to be with a girl who would make you feel that terrible (either out of ignorance or malice) would make you a bit of an idiot :/

And then there's the other friendzoned guys who everyone else is talking about, who are arrogant, self-absorbed and probably deserve to be just where they are :P

I agree. Instead of complaining, why can't you be grateful you now have a friend? Some people are just so sensitive.

"If a man makes himself into a worm, he mustn't complain when he's trodden upon"

-Some dead guy

What I'm trying to say is that just as the end of a road is a summation of it's beginnings, so do a man's actions now reflect his fate then. So yes, no one should whine about anything.

Not only is it useless but it's also counterproductive.

Complain about friendzone = Arrogant Jerk<BR>Say nothing about friendzone = Doormat<BR>Move on to another girl = Afraid to be Alone<BR>Don't move on to another girl = Desperate<BR><BR>These are basically rules set up by insecure women to construct a situation where the guy can never win (as if relationships are something that you can "win" at). In other words, it's nonsense. <BR><BR>The OP is right about one thing though. Confident guys don't put up with these bullshit games.

Yes. Being friends with a woman isn't a horrible punishment unless you're an asshole.

Wait a minute you just said that if a girl just wants to be friends then she's just not interested. Duh. That's the whole point. Rejection is always painful so of course we don't want to be friends when you just insulted us by silently telling us that we are so unattractive that even if we were the last man on earth you wouldn't date us. We didn't gain a friend. We just got insulted.

Um... I don't get the big deal about the "friendzone"
I liked this guy (a lot) and everybody knew it.. I reached out to him to see if he liked me, but he didn't. He just wanted to be friends (the friendzone) and I was completely ok with that. A couple months later, he asked me to be his girlfriend...
You gotta be friends first to have a relationship. It won't work if you don't. We are now engaged.

How's that for the friendzone? ;)

What do nice guys/douchebags have to do with the friendzone? These are two entirely different stories.

If you think that a guy you're not interested in is a douchebag, you simply reject him. You do not put him in the friendzone.

I completely agree, with everything you said. It's like you took the words right out of my head. Especially the "Guys who say they're nice guys are actually douchebags" part.

I have never complained about the friendzone. What's there to complain about unless you really love the woman? It's great having attractive female friends!