Is it normal i find socialising so hard?

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I have always been awkward around people, and in social situations I have no idea how to act or say!
If someone is upset and crying, I just stand there and awkwardly pat them on the shoulder.
When I was 13, I used to think of every excuse I could to not go out with my friends. I seriously feel out of place everywhere I go, I never talk to people I don't know unless I have to, I seriously don't know if this is normal or not.
Sometimes in conversations I just completely stop talking because my mind is completely blank in what to say and we just stand there in complete awkward silence, the other person trying to make small talk and me answering in one word answers. Also for some reason I secretly am terrified of people noticing me. I have had the exact same hairstyle
(Ponytail) for 3 years every day because I know if I change it people will notice, and I NEVER cry in public.
I only wear dark clothing, nothing too revealing or anything.So, do you guys get this? Is this normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Sounds like social anxiety but I am no professional.

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  • Yuppo
    8 years ago

    I was really scared to socialize with people in high school. I'd always tense up whenever I had to talk to someone, and I found that even walking down the halls would make me feel pretty anxious.

    In my last year though, everything changed, and I started to feel a lot better about myself due to dressing better, and keeping myself clean.

    If you feel good about yourself, chances are your social anxiety will decrease, and continue to increase until it is non-existent.

    This worked for me, so try it out if you haven't already.

    Best of luck.

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  • Cliche1234
    8 years ago

    I am like that too. It's normal. Besides, patting them in shoulder when they're crying or upset is a sweet move to do. I think that's sweet for you to do that. At least, you try to comfort them. If it was me, I would just stand there, panic and don't know how to react. Don't feel bad about it.

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago

    You are a one-on-one kinda person. Bond with one person at a time. Hang out with one person at a time... then work from there.
    Just try to learn how to express your emotions to one person. It's just give and take. Just give more than what you take :)

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