Is it normal i hate helping people move?

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My husband and I have moved 3 times in 5 years and have NEVER asked anyone to help us move. Mainly because we both hate helping people move and don't want to ask for help with something we hate to do ourselves.
There have been too many instances where people ask and change the date after you skipped work to help them. Then they get butt hurt when you tell them you can't miss work again.
Or they act like they're ready and you get there and they aren't packed and they want you to put stuff in boxes for them!
The one I hate the most...if my husband and I go help another couple move, I get stuck with the wife who wants me to help clean...because we're women and I guess we're not capable of moving boxes. I didn't dirty your toilet so I'm not cleaning it! Same with your shower! It's rude and gross!
The final straw? A friend texted my husband asked if we could help him move today. No notice or warning. We couldn't help him move today, but we told him we can tomorrow. He texted back and said, "whatev"....ooookay...don't ask for our help again.
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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    Sounds like your friend is kind of a jerk!

    I have helped several friends move, because I am a rather physical guy and can carry the big things. All I ask is that they provide the food and beer and ill provide the labor!

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    • drumandpickchick
      11 years ago

      A glass of water! Something! I need new friends lol!

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        11 years ago

        Ya, I would say so!

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    I don't mind helping people move. I've done it a million times. But I don't want or need help when I move. I like the exercise personally. And I get my rhythm going and don't want any slow asses in my damn way. I can handle it myself, thanks.

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    • drumandpickchick
      11 years ago

      Exactly!

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  • Stazy1378
    11 years ago

    I hate it. I have noticed the ppl actually moving putt around with random task while the helpers do all the work...

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    I agree with you 100%. I get asked to help a lot because I'm a bit of a workhorse. Just because I'm strong, though, doesn't mean I want to spend every day off carrying people's accumulated crap.

    I can't remember how it started but my friends and I gradually came up with a better way of doing it. The people moving ask about 15-20 people to help. It cuts down the work massively and you get to meet some new people. Then, at the end of it, the movers order about ten pizzas, and the first crate of beer is cracked open. The whole thing is like a party which just begins with a bit of physical labour. We almost look forward to it.

    And my friends always move on a Saturday. :)

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  • ttaylor135
    7 years ago

    I wrote about how I feel about moving. It might actually change how you feel!

    https://www.theodysseyonline.com/love-the-little-things-moving

    I totally understand if you still dislike moving after reading it!

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  • gman23
    7 years ago

    My personal take, if you have the money to move, you should never be asking anyone to help you move...ever. It's easy to find out how much money someone makes by their job title and company, so there's really no mystery with the internet.

    For instance, my brother and his shall we say, "queen syndromeish" wife, are both 39 years old, make GREAT money, have no kids, and they're asking the family to help them move.

    This situation is RIDICULOUS. You have the means to hire movers. Don't inconvenience people with this bullshit.

    You aren't 22 years old needing to move out of an apartment. You're mature, wealthy for the average population, and have the means.

    In my opinion, it's beyond rude to ask people, when this is the situation. I mean, moving is not easy, and it comes with many possible injury risks. That's why professionals should be doing this.

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  • mystery7
    9 years ago

    Yeah don't get me started....I've done it too many times for so-called friends who never returned the favour. I once helped a real friend move her stuff, who happens to be a super hoarder. It took 2 days and 13 separate trips with a hired truck. Never again.

    These days I'll only help super best friends move. I moved recently and I actually hired PROFESSIONAL PEOPLE to do the job properly rather than impose ridiculously back breaking work on my friends! Wasn't very expensive either.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    The more people there is the easier it is for everyone and the quicker it goes. I had 20 people help move me once (long weird story) and it was done in an hour, if I'd done it myself or with another person, it would have taken the day.

    It's not a pleasant chore for anyone, but having the help of friends makes it a lot easier. And you can make it enjoyable for them too by doing a BBQ or having a flat of beer ready at the end of it.

    But, if you're the type that doesn't like to help then it would seem normal that you don't ask others for help. You're normal.

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  • howaminotmyself
    11 years ago

    Your experience is much different than mine. I usually offer to help before they ask. I really don't mind physical labor and have never been asked to clean. Last time I moved I didn't ask for help, but friends came over and helped regardless. I paid them in beer and kisses.

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