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I have no one around me who likes me or is supportive of me. Everyone around me is mean and judgmental. Am I just around the wrong people or am I a horrible person?
I'm going to answer this question as if it's not just a mental health issue. As that's not always the case and people are likely to treat it that way here.
If people genuinely are being rude to you, one of several scenarios could be to blame.
The first of which is that the people you're associated with are simply assholes. This is the most likely candidate, especially if it's the same people on a consistent basis. Get rid of them. Even if it's family. I was mistreated by my family for years until I finally had enough of it and left. I saved up money for months and then just left to a new state. Your mental well being is more important than whatever people you're around that's causing this.
The second option, and one you likely don't want to hear, is that you're annoying those around you. This can be combined with the first and often leads to drastic outcomes. It's not necessarily something anyone wants to hear. Sometimes it just happens. Don't let it make you feel like you're worthless. You'll need to make new contacts in this scenario as well and potentially work towards improving your communications skills.
Regardless, it sounds as if you need new contacts. Chances are that tbe relationships that ARE there are already strained if they truly are annoyed with you and it's not just in your head.
None of us know you and there's not enough information provided here to be able to tell why the people around you tend to be mean and judgmental, but the good news is that you can control both who you choose to surround yourself with (as well as who you allow to be in your life), and how you behave towards others.
Just do the best you can to be the best person you can be, be considerate of others and treat them the way you would like to be treated, and be honest with yourself about your flaws (but don't beat up on yourself; just acknowledge them and do what you can to work towards fixing them).
Also, don't be afraid to be more choosy about the people you allow in your life. Do not tolerate disrespect or cruelty, and don't be afraid to distance yourself from people who are not good for you.
Remember as well, we teach people how to treat us. Your problem could very well be that you have allowed people to treat you poorly, and they behave the way they do towards you because they know you'll allow it and keep hanging around them. Teach these people that poor treatment will not be accepted, and that you will distance yourself from them if they don't treat you with respect.
I've felt like you do before, and I think it was a combination of being young and most of my peers being young as well (and young people can have a tendency to be more self absorbed and unkind, even if it's unintentional; it's usually a byproduct of insecurity, a lack of life experience, and not fully realizing the impact their words and actions have on others yet), and being a timid person who allowed people to treat me worse than I should have. I earned a reputation for being a pushover and someone who would give multiple undeserved chances. It's completely okay to be forgiving and have a good heart (and don't lose your good qualities and go too far in the other direction), but do not allow people to take advantage of you.
No matter how you look at it your best move is to adapt.
If everyone around you deliberately gives you hell then you can learn to read the signs and see it coming and hopefully avoid something serious. You could reserve yourself around others to minimize your social impact. You could set standards for what your trust is worth. You could learn how to control your emotions, how to reassert your composure. You wouldn't want to make mistakes and put yourself in a bad situation if there really are people out there who seem to enjoy fucking with you.
If you're at fault for things you would want to be cognizant of it, right? That would help you avoid things you know would lead to someone behaving dangerously. It also helps you define what truly is evil and bad behavior, which would nurture a healthy shadow and a keen eye. It also gives your opinion on who to trust more credence since you'd have practical experience. It's also something other people who have developed similarly can notice and recognize in you, which could be mutually beneficial.
hook up with this person. You have things in common.
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