Is it normal i haven’t shown my bf of almost a year my boobs?

Okay let’s just cut to the chase, i have an alright figure i’m 5’2 and like 106lbs, my boobs are 32B so pretty small, but my nipples are large and they are puffy. The overall shape of my boob is kinda cone shape but not really, it’s just an ugly shape, they aren’t round. So because my nipples are puffy AND my breast are cone-ish shaped it makes them even more protruding. Like if i don’t wear a bra you can see the outline of my puffy ass nipples perfectly. I basically have puffy pepperoni nips. When my nips are hard they look small and perky tho, but unfortunately my nips don’t get hard from being turned on.

I’m 19 now and have had 3 long term serious relationships with a couple random hook ups in between. Each of the 3 relationships lasted more then a year almost 2 years. None of them have seen my boobs before, not even my current boyfriend that I live with has seen them.

I normally tell them i’m just insecure about them and they drop it at that, most don’t try to “find out” why i’m insecure I guess, so normally they’d let me keep a shirt on or bra without complaint. Or they’d ask but id just say no each time, some have BEGGED to see them honestly but nothing will make me budge and it feels like I never will. I’m gonna die and no one will have seen my boobs
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My current boyfriend tells me he thinks they are “sexy” and stuff to try to make me feel better even though he’s never actually seen them bare before, he just says all that cause he knows i’m insecure about them so of course he’ll try to make me feel better you know? but it’s almost like the compliments make it worse cause it feels like pitty. I tell him how I feel and he swears he’s being genuine but I just can’t believe it, ugh i have a cry lump in my throat writing this.

I wanna show him them so badly I just can’t bring myself too, it’s been years of hiding myself I feel like i’ll literally never show them and it’s like I’m okay with that but i’m also not. I’m just so conflicted with myself over something that feels so stupid but to me it’s really affected my life in a negative way. I don’t even wear certain swimsuits or dresses that you can’t wear a bra with.

He’ll ask during sex to suck on them and i’ll want to but I always panic and stop him before my nipple comes out my bra, I feel horrible because I love him so deeply, he treats me so good and I just wanna be able to show my body to him without wanting to crawl into a hole.

I keep going to social medias like reddit and now here to come to people for advice over it but no matter what people say I still haven’t been able to overcome this insecurity of mine.

So, has anyone else experienced this?? is this normal??

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  • unfortunately_Ms-Puffy

    UPDATE!!! Thank you all for the comments, last night we had sex and i did it!!! i took everything off!!! it wasn’t that bad and i stopped thinking about it like immediately, im so proud of myself

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  • MonteMetcalfe

    Breasts of many shapes and sizes are attractive to me and many guys. There isn't just one ideal type. From your description it sounds like you have a standard of what you think they should look like rather than accepting that alot of guys would love your titties for what they are.
    There is nothing wrong with your breasts. If a guy doesn't like you because of them then he isn't worth your time. Move along and find someone else.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Your chest is normal. Mine not so much. I used to be fat and when I lost the weight my tits got saggy. Every part of my body is toned but my boobs. On dating sites I mentioned it on my profile and men and women didn't see saggy tits as a problem, yet I'd love to have the chest I had at 19. Chest exercises only lifted them so much. Next step is surgery. That being said, you're lucky yours are normal and that you don't have to heavily rely on a pushup bra. XD

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  • DADNSCAL

    I'm wondering why he hasn't gotten to 1st base in a year. If I didn't get to see a girl's titties by the 3 rd date there weren't any more.

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  • newnormal

    Boobs aren't sexy, only ass is.

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  • Tinybird

    Well what has a boyfriend got to do with your boobs, right? Having boyfriends isn't sexual!!!! (this is sarcasm.)

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  • SkullsNRoses

    Your nipples probably aren’t that large in the grand scheme of things, as you have a slim build they just look bigger in comparison. It’s also completely normal for smaller breasts to noticeably change shape depending on the temperature, becoming more cone-shaped when warm.

    As your boyfriend has been with you for a year without seeing them I highly doubt your proportionally large nipples are going to scare him off at this stage.

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  • bigbudchonger

    I'm sorry to hear this, op. Honestly this is kind of a hard one. On one hand you don't want to go through life feeling that insecure about something, but on the other hand if you genuinely know that they're unattractive then you show someone, and they say it, or show it on their face, then it's going to really effect you.

    Writing this though, I would show him your boobs and take the risk because it can't be healthy to be this insecure over something.

    I've got a lot of stretch marks on my stomach and that makes me very insecure, and let's not bullshit eachother, some things are unattractive to most normal people even if you get sympathy from people saying they like it, but you've just got to deal with in a way that's conducive to having a healthy sex life/ relationship.

    One last thing, on the plus side a lot of guys just like tits, so even if yours are weird then unless they're really off I think a lot of guys would be happy just to actually be able to play with them during sex.

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