Is it normal i'm afraid of sleeping with my bf after a seizure

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My boyfriend had his first seizure while sleeping in bed next to me, I remember being woken up by his arm locking around my chest and his body jumping for what felt like 3 minutes. He ended up pissing himself and puking on the bed, then refusing to get treatment at the hospital. I was screaming and crying and thought he was going to die that night.

It's been a month since the seizure, but I'm absolutely terrified of it happening again. I refuse to sleep with him or be intimate with him until I'm sure everything is under control. Am I wrong? I just really can't watch it happen again.

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    Your boyfriend is not to blame for his medical condition, but he's stupid and irresponsible - to you and to himself - for not doing everything he can to make sure he doesn't have another seizure.

    Your concern for your own safety is entirely reasonable. To be charitable, he doesn't see himself when he has a seizure, so perhaps he doesn't fully understand what it was like for you.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Yes, you are are normal. Some people are going to think I'm heartless for saying this, but I wouldn't want to have to clean up the mess again.

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  • Everette
    6 years ago

    Girl that's fucked up I used to have seziours you need to be there for him not run away from him when he has a seziours is when he needs you most ....I've always blacked out and my gf had to tell me wut was going on when I came to ...but if your there to help him he will grow out of it

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    Understandable. I was dating a woman with multiple health issues, including failed back surgery that left her occasionally immobile, for several months (dating, not the immobility). I'd known sexual activity with her would be touchy sometimes due to her back condition, and one night, we were getting into it, and boom..She froze like a steel beam, completely unable to move. Tried helping her, but she just said leave her alone, it's ok (obviously it wasn't), I'm alright, etc.

    I did help her sit up after the pain and body freeze passed, but have to be honest..From then on, I was super-careful having, or even wanting to have, sex with her, not wanting to hurt her or experience this freeze-up thing again. Her face was wincing, body stiff, and her well-manicured hands clenched. I was powerless to do anything about it. We did resume having sex after that, but I probably held back more often than not.

    When we weren't together anymore, the next woman I was with said to me, after our first experience, "You don't have to be so careful..Not going to break me". Well, with the last woman before her, breaking her body was a genuine concern.

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