Is it normal i`m anxious about turning 20?

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It probably sounds really, really dumb, but I`m anxious and apprehensive about becoming twenty.
I`m a guy, and I only recently came out as gay.

I`ve never done anything that teenagers are expected to do. Like get drunk, party, fool around, get in trouble, all the usual things you expect. I`m really quiet and shy and I prefer to stay inside with a close clique of friends rather than out in a loud place with a collection of acquaintances.

I stay in and play on my games, and get texts or see things on my Facebook from my friends about their crazy weekends.

I used to think they were stupid but now I think I`ve really missed out? My birthday is in January so it isn`t that far away. I just feel a little down about all the things I could have done - I know I can still do it, but I won`t be a stupid teenager anymore. :P I`ll be a responsible 20 - something.

Is this normal or?

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    Well its not too late yet dude. Go do some stuff!

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      He's only turning 20 i wonder how much he will freak when he is turning 30.

      Kids these days :P

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      • dirtybirdy
        11 years ago

        Haha I know. Silly whipper snappers!

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Normal I'm in same position. Never got to be an immature teenager. think of it like a new start, because it is. :)

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  • Angel13
    11 years ago

    Don't force yourself to do anything you don't want to just because it's the "norm" or because you feel left out. I'm turning 21 this year and I don't regret doing anything crazy when I was a teenager. Unlike many of my friends, I don't enjoy drinking, going out clubbing every weekend, fooling around with strangers and other stuff like that. If you never got to do those things, but don't particularly enjoy them anyway, then you're not really missing out. Spend your time doing what you love and not what people expect you do.

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  • Sailor_Cosmos
    11 years ago

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHA!

    Forgive me for laughing at you! I'm in my late 20's and I wish I could be your age again! And so what if you never did those crazy teenage things! You're only 20! You can still do them but what's better is that you're a bit older and can probably do those things with more freedom!

    You're 20 be excited not scared!

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  • AwkwardlyMe
    11 years ago

    I know how you feel, after moving in with my older sister i was unable to do anything fun. I always feel like i've missed the good part of my life, you know the part where you can get away with things easier... When i turned 20 this year i cried... i didn't even celebrate it, had no one to celebrate wit, and no one that really cared. It was a horrible birthday so i'm gonna try and have a really good birthday next year. I'm a little socially awkward and a germophobe, but i'm gonna try work myself up to trying out a few of the thing teens get up to, and see how i like it...

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I felt really weird about turning twenty. It's like some weird threshold where you go from being a teen, who is expected to be lazy and irresponsible, to someone in their twenties, who is now expected to be more mature.

    I remember back to when I was 15 and if someone were to have told me that they're 20, I would have automatically seen them as an adult but when I look in the mirror now, I see the same 15 year old girl. Granted, most people mistake me for 23-27 so I don't think about it. I want to feel like an adult but it hasn't happened yet and I'm married, work full time, have health/life/car insurance etc...

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    • Sailor_Cosmos
      11 years ago

      LMFAO

      You're 20 and I'm going to let you in on a little secret:

      No one really expects mature behaviour and decisions from a 20 year old with zero life experiences. You've grown up wayyy , wayyy to fast in my opinion to be that age and be married etc when you're life is just beginning. I really sincerely hope you dont regret the decision you have made later on in your life. Sadly many people who grew up too fast do.

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        Yeah, I probably did, but it was necessary. I was expected to behave as an adult from a younger age because my parents didn't know how to deal with kids, my Father was 21 when I was born and was basically a kid himself =/ Personally, I don't know the difference, only when I see how other 20 year olds act.

        My family members have tried to tell me the same thing you did, they told me after I wrecked my first car and was beating myself up about it because "I should have been more mature than that, so just slam the breaks when I knew the car would skid" and my Aunt literally laughed in my face, I was 19 at the time XD

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I never was allowed to have the same sort of fun as the other kids when I was child. I don't know what to call it, but I was expected to be serious and I guess in a sense, not to be myself. Then, as I got older my family wanted to know why I was so serious. I suppose there's still time for me t be a "immature teenager", but I don't want that. Just because you are turning twenty doesn't mean you can't still have fun and be responsible in the process.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    The party scene is over rated. Just a bunch of dumbass high school kids bragging about drinking and doing drugs. Apparently only cool kids know how to drink lolz.

    Doing stupid shit as a teenager though, that's fun as shit. Egg'n people, throwing paint on cars, trashing class rooms, breaking car windows, shooting houses with Airsoft guns...

    Don't do that last one. {*_*}

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  • Caps90
    11 years ago

    I felt the same exact way when I was 19 almost 20. Now I am glad I stuck to my guns and didn't/ don't party much.

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