Is it normal i noticed i don't make eye contact anymore?

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I've never had a problem with looking people in the eye but for the past few months, half a year- a year, I notice I don't even look at people when I talk to them. I'm always looking away and I don't do it on purpose it just happens. I don't find it intimidating to look at people because when I do notice what I'm doing I make myself look at them but it's force.

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  • thoughtfulopt29
    11 years ago

    Same here :/ especially when I hold conversations I seem to look down or away so I can focus on what their saying because I find the eyes can be very distracting O.O

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  • mattjay
    11 years ago

    I also find it hard to look strangers or acquaintances in the eye. It's strange how I can look my gf dead in the eye during sex but can't hold my boss's eye when he's talking to me in the office. Sometime's I'll even end conversations that are petering out by turning around and speaking over my shoulder! Which is the height of rudeness and totally in contrast to the rest of my manners.

    I think it's partly down to the fact that I don't like people scrutinising my face and if I'm staring at their eyes then I know they're staring at mine. It's uncomfortable, it breaches some mental buffer that I have established to protect myself from people. I want to keep people at arms length, but I don't want them to realise it..

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  • MilleBornes
    11 years ago

    Being turned on by naked bodies frantically fucking is what is actually happening there. We confuse almost everything we do as humans. I'm 28, sometimes rape videos turn me on if I were to look at them. Try gang bang vids. The same concept of frantic fucking is there and EVERYONE enjoys it. Everything else you explained is crazy. Yup, crazy. 18yo taking meds and never even TRIED to get a girl, which in turn is causing the other problems and confusion. Unfortunately you grew up with the attitude of blame something or someone else for what you do or think. This ranges from simple to complex.

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    • MilleBornes
      11 years ago

      Not your fault but you as a grown man have the mental ability to change it.

      Examples? you were sent to all boys school, why? Parents or guardians couldn't "handle" you so "his attitude" is to blame, not their lack of trying or wanting to. Same with the attitude while there. Now equate that to your shyness that is natural yet your "anxiety" fear of doing something that will result in a traumatic conclusion. To "fix" your attitude, no one taught you, just substituted teaching, learning and trying with something else. You do it now with medications.

      People see people that act awkwardly as awkward. Stop blaming not having friends because of your attitude which you have because of lack of friends because of your attitude ..vicious circle. When my girl had a pimple she hid it, you are metaphorically NOT hiding only your pimple (your past) and still enjoying life. You are acting as if you have to hide ALL parts of you. You don't.

      Again with the rape porn, you're 18 and had NO women. Clean yourself up, go somewhere and enjoy yourself, but talk to EVERYONE that will talk back. You strike coversation first and often, women see you as charismatic. Don't expect to get laid that day...oh yea, do this in a nice setting like day or so. clubs are seriously for losers and people who already have someone....anyway, don't expect anything that day, but people will know and like you better, you'll feel better and get rid of that shyness, with nothing to lose cause different people come and go. You start showing up in the same area with respect and great attitude panties WILL stop for you. Right now EVERYTHING with a naked woman would probably excite you. Result of that part being put on hold for you. AND, BDMS or BDSM....whatever, some people just like that stuff, maybe you're in that group

      CONCLUSION: learn to live without"blaming" someone or something and/or pushing your responsibility as a person onto medications. Realize what caused what and overcome. Humans are great at overcoming obstacles. Therapy are for those that may need guidance on that road to happiness. So check it out if you tried...REALLY TRIED, and just need reassurance. Good luck, crazy

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  • crazy_asiknowit
    11 years ago

    same here...i find it creepy

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    11 years ago

    I find it hard to look anyone I'm not sexually attracted to in the eyes (men,parents,sister,ugly women,old women etc) as I strongly associate this to sexual tension and so with a beautiful girl I have to go easy on the EC otherwise it looks creepy. I just love to look them in the eyes.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    You don't trust us?

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  • thanksforthefreecar
    11 years ago

    How much have you been using the Internet lately?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Your really trying to hide what's inside you. Don't let them look into your eyes or they might see that you don't give a fuck about what they are saying :p

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