Is it normal i think people arent born gay ?

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People say like the color of the hair it is genetics. But the eye and hair color can change from medicine for example. My point is even if genetics make the hair one color it can(even if rarely ) change. I think the same way about being homosexual or not. Sure it isnt something you can "turn on and off" but I was never attracted to women like men. Since I'm 20 Im not attracted to men anymore. only to women. The same happened with broccoli and spinach. I hated it until I was about 20 years. What do you guys think ? is it normal ?do you agree? Did it happen to you too? And what color is your underwear ?

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  • nikkilynn25
    11 years ago

    I just had this conversation with a friend of mine yesterday. He believes people are born gay and I don't. I believe somewhere in your formative years something happened to make a person become attracted to the same sex. I am not a homophobic and I believe in gay rights/marriage, but I really don't think people are born gay.

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    • unalloyed
      11 years ago

      there is no proof people are born straight either. many experts say that it is genetic programming that cant be changed but doesnt fully manifest until puberty. little kids really dont have sexuality at least not to the extent as teens and adults do. but that all doesnt matter because most people are some varying level of bi

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    • BHolt
      11 years ago

      If you don't believe that people are born gay, then it must be a choice right? So then, since this is your position (which is opposition to the accepted position that it's genetic), you have to prove it: go CHOOSE to have sex with another man. Go on. If it's a choice, then make that choice and go do it. What's that? You don't want to? Why not? Because you're straight, right?
      You're straight because you are genetically programmed to be straight, just like gay people are genetically programmed to be gay. They can't help it.

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      • EndlessSuffering
        11 years ago

        Well said.

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      • Halele
        11 years ago

        No, it's nor Choice neither genetically Coded.

        It's about Psychology in your Childhood, like Fetishes are.

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  • mattie_04
    11 years ago

    I think your feelings about the other or same gender can change, i always thought "i cant like girls its wrong, im a girl n girls dont like girls" but im bi .i love tits n dicks so maybe its like taste buds, changes every few years. But no one knows for sure, right?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    It's been proven that sexual development starts around age six. So yes people aren't born gay....but so close to it that you may as well say they are.

    I don't even know why people post such idiotic questions sometimes....did not one person at IIN study sexual development at school?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      idiotic question ? i just wanted to discuss this topic and see what other people think towards my opinion on sexuality. tell me whats idiotic about it? -wambo37

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      • DandyElfman
        10 years ago

        I agree with this. I think sexuality has a lot of different factors. Also one can never be born gay as you are not born with a sexuality. All the hormones are there but they are rarely ever expressed till later years. I dont think we can look at our children being born and say "Well its a gay one"! and "Well its a straight one". We also have many people who are masochistic which I think can develop from a number of different things. I had a slight idea from a young age what I was going to be into sexually but it was I think partly based on this violent streak I always seemed to have. So not so much which gender I would be into just some of the fetishes I would be into.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        I only said it because it's not a thing you can have an "opinion" on, you either learnt and know or you don't know at all. Not really room for opinions when talking about facts. I'm not trying to offend you, it just seems pointless to say something knowing it's not true.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          ok.....i feel offended :(

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          • [Old Memory]
            11 years ago

            :(

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    • BHolt
      11 years ago

      "sexual development starts around age six. So yes people aren't born gay"

      Load of crap. People are born tiny, but their physical height is determined by genetics and is pre-set before birth. Sexual preference is genetic, it has been confirmed that it's not a choice.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        I didn't say it was a choice, infact my comment confirms that it is not. At age six you don't choose do you, it developes internally until it manifests at a later period in life. In some earlier than others, myself for instance as i began thinking about sex at age 9.

        It's fact that below the age of 6 you have no underlying sex drive, but after then you do.

        And there is no proof that genetics play any part although they could, but it isn't really an issue.

        So learn to read before you type, and also learn about the "context" of words.

        What i'm talking about is taught in schools. And What you just said comes from no more than assumption unless ofcourse you are the first human to prove it.

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        • shade_ilmaendu
          11 years ago

          I heard there was a new study proving some sort of genetic difference between gay and straight people, but I haven't actually looked into it myself yet.

          I think it's kind of funny how hung up people get over issues of sexuality. Why does it have to be one thing all your life? Our personalities change, as do our preferences. My taste in men (and women :P) has changed a lot over the course of my life. Why can't sexuality too be a fluid thing?

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          • [Old Memory]
            11 years ago

            "And there is no proof that genetics play any part although they could, but it isn't really an issue."

            I don't disagree with you. Genetics just don't matter as much as a persons entire personality manifests after being born and learning through enviromental factors. Many people are totally different from their parents in personality, meaning genetics play a lesser part. And i hardly think people are born evil!

            Genetics probably do play a part, but a small part.

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        • BHolt
          11 years ago

          "And there is no proof that genetics play any part"

          "What you just said comes from no more than assumption"

          Umm, no. There is evidence.

          <a href="http://youtu.be/MHDCAllQgS0" rel="nofollow">http://youtu.be/MHDCAllQgS0</a>
          <a href="http://psychcentral.com/news/2011/07/11/genes-help-determine-womens-sexual-orientation-and-conformity/27619.html" rel="nofollow">http://psychcentral.com/news/2011/07/11/genes-h...</a>
          <a href="http://www.cs.cmu.edu/afs/cs/user/scotts/bulgarians/nih-upi.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.cs.cmu.edu/afs/cs/user/scotts/bulgar...</a>
          <a href="http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4215427.stm" rel="nofollow">http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4215427.stm</a>

          Google "genetic link to sexual orientation" to find it.

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          • [Old Memory]
            11 years ago

            Not proof.

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    I actually think its choice.
    And this is after many years of conversations and so called 'evidence' of the gay gene! I still say choice and life experience.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      :)

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      • Dad
        11 years ago

        I wanted to say something else too (hmm, probably don't need to say that when I'm actually replying! Wait I'm doing it again!!!)

        Anyway, someone said that the a person doesn't have any sexual preferences to about age 6.
        But if you go up to 99.9% of boys aged about 10, and say what do you think about girls? They will most definitely always say YUK, and girls germs etc.

        Generally children (even into teenager) tend to 'play' and stay with the same sex friendships.
        When 'sexual desires' do start playing a part of their lives then I can fully understand that to go from yucky girls to I want to kiss one, may be too much of a leap for some (same may apply to girls).

        Therefore, I continue to stand by my thoughts on this.
        Not genetic
        Not predetermined
        Choice.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          :DD

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  • BHolt
    11 years ago

    It has already been proven to be genetic. For the doubters, Google it. It is not a choice. I am hetero, I am not attracted to men, the sight of a naked man turns me off, I CANNOT choose to have gay sex, I am only aroused by women, and the thought of sex with women. Gay men are attracted to men, some of them find naked women disgusting to look at, as equally disgusting as I find men to look at.

    This sort of thing is definitely not choice. Either you are gay or you are not. There is no decision.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      my point wasnt to "choose". its just in life your sexuality ( hetero or homo ) may change. if its 100% genes it wouldnt be possible

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  • Unimportant
    11 years ago

    I agree, I don't think people are born with a certain sexual orientation, it's not predetermined.
    It is normal.
    I do agree.
    No, it did not happen to me, have never in my life been attracted to a man.
    I'm going commando today, so no colour.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      commando ? congrats :)

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  • penpal21
    11 years ago

    I think it has to do with how nice your mom's pussy is when you're born. Like if it's nice and you're a boy then you turn out straight. If it's not nice then you either turn into a homosexual or a fisherman. (Or both!) If you're a girl it might work differently. I don't know, it's confusing. All I know is that we don't inherit our virginity from our parents.

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  • somebody23
    11 years ago

    ppl arent born gay, u arent born anyways, its just a matter of ur life that changes u

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  • mattie_04
    11 years ago

    I didn't choose to like girls, its hard telling people your bi or lesbian or gay. You never know their reaction, you know? So i dont think its with your genes or whatever

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  • Their-Heaven-is-our-Hell
    11 years ago

    People are either born gay or they had a past experience that altered their way of thinking. I mainly think they're born gay, why I think this is, everyone is different, and for me I have a fetish that I cannot get rid of no matter how hard I try, its ingrained into my brain and I can't avoid not thinking about it. So you accept it and move on. So its sorta the same concept.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I think it isn't important whether it's a choice, genetic or somewhere in between. I'd almost rather not know what causes it.

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  • DreamsVI
    11 years ago

    Personally, I believe people are born gay. The testosterone levels in your body should determine your heter or homosexuality.

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    • EndlessSuffering
      11 years ago

      It's not always about the testosterone levels, I know plenty of men that are loaded with testosterone (mostly bodybuilders) and are gay!

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      • DreamsVI
        11 years ago

        Well yea, but that's what I mean, excessive testosterone could possibly determine it. This is just what I've come to understand.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    I've wondered this before. Its hard to answer because i'm not gay.... To be honest, i'm not so sure i was born straight!

    There were always kids when i was younger, like 4-10, that i could sense were different in some way and later it came to light that they were gay.... But idk, their difference could have caused their parents to question these kids' sexuality, and in turn cause the kids to question their own sexuality.

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