Is it normal i think people like my sister is a problem for society?

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I wanna make this as brief as possible but the goal of this is to see what everyone thinks of my personality compared to my sister and if I'm justified in being angry with her. Much of this is religious, so if you don't like these kinds of conversations, then here's your chance to leave. Also note: this can be a bit long but it's an easy read. Shouldn't take longer than 2 minutes ATM.

Sister (note she's currently 16):

- Is a huge religious nut who believes everyone should convert to her version of Christianity
- Has almost no understanding of science at all
- Does not accept evolution, the Earth's real age, etc
- Denies anything that contradicts what her church teaches her or what she wants to believe
- I've heard her beg my parents to make me go to church again
- Seems to not actively seek 'truth' but happiness (respectable to a degree, I imagine, but I also see this as a weakness in someone's character)
- Makes many rude remarks to the things I like
- For things she thinks I shouldn't like, she scolds me for (Men shouldn't like ponies apparently, they gotta like 'Merica, monster trucks, and other 'manly' stuff)
- She also despises gay people and is homophobic
- She is the same kind of Christian that believes everyone who doesn't believe the same as her will go to hell for eternity
- Is afraid of stepping out of social stigmas
- Wants to be treated like a house-wife by her 'future husband' yet still enjoy equal rights (basically wants to be treated like a fucking princess)
- Can be a closed-minded asshat (everything weird is automatically bad)
- Lies to me and my parents, also tells secrets and spreads gossip which hurts her friends (probably why she loses so many)
- Wanted Romney to win (lolol)
- Has no idea what separation of Church & State is
- Wanted the Mexicans kicked out of the country (We live in the US)
- Constantly complains about other girls on her softball team without END (always a complaint about one at dinner)
- Did I mention she's a huge fundie?

My verdict of her: As you can see...I have a lot to hate her for. I find her a very pathetic and sad excuse for a human being. It isn't all her fault though, she was brainwashed by my parents (who I could also blame even more). She's so 'stupid' that one time we got in a religious argument she started herself, she had plugged her ears and literally went lalalala, trying to ignore me while screaming her bullshit. No joke.

You don't have to read this next part (it's optional), but I suggest you do so you understand why I'm such a polar opposite from her in many ways.

Me (currently 18 at the time):

- I'm a male and straight
- Going in the US AirForce, leaving December 18th
- I consider myself an agnostic-atheist, a skeptic, a liberal, and an intellectual
- I'm mostly honest, but I lie to get my way if it benefits me and hurts nobody else
- Sometimes I think I'm a psychopath (not psychotic, two different things) as I favor/feel remorse for villains (some heroes too). At the same time...I don't think I am because I'm sympathetic to people but when they make me lose my edge, they can burn for all I care.
- I have a hatred for believing in things blindly (hence I'm a huge skeptic; everything has to make logical and coherent sense for me to accept it)
- I love science and technology, but I dislike the human race somewhat because of its...emotions
- I believe in justice, but I also believe in the extermination of problematic individuals
- I sometimes find myself wanting to seek and have power so I can 'do good' by putting humanity on the right track (this is a fantasy for me though I don't plan on going for as I hate politics)
- I seek knowledge and understanding of everything in the known universe ('all that exists')
- I'm not homophobic, racist, or sexist; I base my experiences and opinions of people off of their disposition, goals, and personality
- I support religious freedom, separation of church & state, and the advancement of the human race
- I don't believe in suicide as the answer, but sometimes, admittedly, I have fantasized about offing myself
- I'm kinda shy as well, and have never had a 'real' girlfriend nor really wanted one
- I don't care what people think of me or what I like/believe in
- I've supported and comforted people, and I can't stand the thought of bullying others as I've been bullied
- I've gotten homicidal thoughts about my 'bullies' but only fantasized offing their asses
- I try to act as normal as possible, but it's obvious to many I'm a different person
- I'm of slender build, but I have gone to the gym as of the last year

My Verdict on myself: I think I have some sort of mental disorder, but other than that I'm proud of myself. I've tried not to be biased in my approach to this comparison with me and my sister, but the main point of this I wanted to make was to point out how different we are and how/why we don't get along very well.

I'd also love it if you guys could point out 'fixes' to my current personality to help make me a better person. I'm open to 'fixing' myself.

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Based on 32 votes (25 yes)

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BeautyBodyBrains

11 years ago

Dude, I hate people like your sister. She wants to be so holy but look at all the other negative things about her. She is no christian but a poser. Tell her when she gets real with herself then she can tell others how to live.

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alv1592

11 years ago

I'm a Christian/Catholic but I hate when people call themselves "Christians" yet hate groups of people. It doesn't seem Christian-like to me.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Me neither. She lists people's sex (bisexual or gay, for instance) as a reason to dislike someone, for instance.
  
  Cannot stand living with someone like this.
  
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BHolt

11 years ago

Find some chemical sterilisation pills and slip them in her food. We don't need her kind diluting the gene-pool further.. In fact I call this strategy "chlorinating the gene-pool".

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

is she cruel and manipulative to get what she wants, does she physically hurt things weaker than herself, is she sly and cunning laughing to herself about her clever evil that no one sees? no she knows that there are no secrets and everything is seen , thats my advice , the end

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  She can be cruel and manipulative to get what she wants, yes.
  
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- [Old Memory]
  
  11 years ago
  
  devilla is this worth reading? I'm about to start Chapter 1.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    11 years ago
    
    valkeer , you are subtle so i dont understand , please explain
    
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    - [Old Memory]
      
      11 years ago
      
      And you have a gift greater than that of an ordinary poster: Kindness.
      
      I'm very flattered that you'd think I have some commonality with my hero, the god of mischief, but I fear subtlety isn't one of them. :)
      
      Lol I'm about as subtle as a hand grenade.
      
      "Please explain"
      
      I'd be happy to explain. I was implying that the OP's post was the length of a novel and that I was beginning Chapter 1.
      
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Terence_the_viking

11 years ago

You siad it would take 2 minutes it took me 5 i want my 3 minutes back.

If she was a proper christian she should be humble and accept people for what they are. No one should force their religion on anyone. It's ok talk about it but never force it as it is their choice to make and not yours.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Depends how fast you read, took me about 2 minutes. Oh and, I agree she should be a lot nicer and humble if she's a "true" Christian as Christians like to call it.
  
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NotStrangeBird

11 years ago

What's the problem?

In less than a month you'll be gone anyway.

Say good riddance and be done with her.

Live your own life.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Seems a bit pointless from that end I understand, but at the same time I was looking for other's opinions.
  
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  - NotStrangeBird
    
    11 years ago
    
    Ok then, my opinion is that she sounds like the kind of person that makes the rest of the world hate America.
    
    If i were you, i'd break off all contact ASAP.
    
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KnightNigelWellingtonXXI

11 years ago

Why are you listing all those traits about yourself? This isn't some dating site. I understand you're willing to change yourself, but it's easier said than done.
Your sister is quite radical but she's only 16. College will probably straighten her up.
I can't fathom why you mentioned her wanting Romney to win though, it wasn't relevant.

Signed,
Knight Nigel Wellington XXI

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Romney part was a joke hence the 'lol' in parentheses. I just thought of another reason I disagreed with her and went "LOL". TBH, I hate politics and didn't want either candidate to win.
  
  I listed my traits because this was a comparison. It was like going, "Am I fucked up or is she fucked up?" That was the question I ultimately posed. When I said I was willing to change myself is that I'm open to debate on my beliefs/experiences, which is why I listed them in the first place.
  
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elenaki

11 years ago

I get the feeling that you're a bit of a control freak? In the sense that you try to put a label on everything and orderly stock it in some part of your brain? Maybe you should try to embrace the chaos for a change :P Idk maybe I'm wrong.

When it comes to your sister, you're probably right. Close-minded people are the worst. You're right she is a problem to society, trying to force her beliefs down other people's throats like that. She sounds way too judgmental. But, you did sound a bit too judgemental too. I'm not trying to be offensive! I get it's probably cause she really pissed you off, but since you asked for comments on what could make you better, I'd suggest you tried to tone that down a bit.

Otherwise, good luck living with a downright irritating creature like your sister.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I am a control freak in a way. I imagine wanting to have power over all the stupid people since they can't seem to control their own minds. It's a fantasy I've wanted to live ever since growing up with this retarded family.
  
  My sister is just a product of two religious nut parents (they are the exact same).
  
  And about the chaos...
  
  I stand against chaos when it comes to a lot of things. If it was down to utter chaos vs. me having tyrannical and evil control over all of humanity, I'd choose the 2nd option because I like having ORDER.
  
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writersblock

11 years ago

Well no wonder you don't like her! Not only does she sound extremely annoying...but your pretty much total opposites!

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fullhouse

11 years ago

How sad that people are bashing the sister.. She's 16!! I was way worse than this then but college life chsnged me. I wasn't a religious nut though.
But her brother seems to have problems way more serious than her's. Tyrannical saviour? Does that even fit to be together? But I HAVE an open mind and hope you will take therapy before you go into depression..

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  11 years ago
  
  Those are fantasies I've had all my life from being bullied + my personality. I've never taken them further than that, but I really don't see what's so bad about them?
  
  What you don't seem to be taking into consideration is my sister is one of those people who is considered 'normal' by American standards and that is scary. Not to mention, she also wants to act on those impulses and openly expresses that opinion to everyone around her.
  
  When faced with contradicting evidence for her claims, she looks for an excuse, and if she can't, ignores it. Her situation, judging from the stuff I presented, makes her far more of a threat than I could even be to someone like you.
  
  > Wants to force everyone to believe like her
  > Viewed as normal in American society
  > Not scary to you?
  > Me - doesn't care what you believe in honestly
  > Viewed as abnormal for harboring a dissent towards humanity (or at least the backwards humanity in society)
  > This is SCARY to you?
  
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  - fullhouse
    
    11 years ago
    
    I guess she just needs to to get laid (Sorry for offending) and I really believe that such people will exist in the society and sane people will just ignore them.
    But I do know examples of people who wanted to 'Change Society' and be 'tyrannical' and it didn't end well. But I am glad you know it's just a fantasy and you won't act on it.
    Your sister is a nutjob, but I think she'll change over time as I did.
    
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