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If I liked someone I'd just be direct, it reduces confusion. I often can't recognize flirting on tv, I don't think I've ever been flirted with or witnessed it in real life but it could be that I didn't pick up on it. The concept is completely alien to me, is this weird?
Flirting is a mess, there was a study a few years ago where people watched couples interact in a “flirtatious” or “non-flirtatious” manner and there was no consensus between participants on who was or wasn’t flirting. What some consider flirting others just consider making a joke or basic human niceness.
No-one has a foolproof flirt detector in their head and most people find it just as baffling as you do. You’re normal OP.
I'm glad to hear there have been studies into this because I've always felt this way.
I consider myself to be reasonably intelligent but I'll be fucked if I can tell for sure if someone is flirting. I've gotten it wrong so many times before, and other people have misinterpreted me just as often.
One thing that immediately drew me to my now husband is that straight after our first date he sent a message saying that he had a really good time, he was into me and he was looking forward to seeing me again soon for another date. It was so refreshing to have someone be straightforward.
I dont flirt. I only use a cheesy pick up line and then go on to talk about normal things. If it goes really well then the conversation shifts to a more sexual one.
I'm actually not much of a flirt, because I don't want to get other people confused about me, and what sort of person I am.
You're not flirting it simply because you're not psychologically mature enough for it maybe. If this is the case and you're young like maybe younger than 16?
then it's normal
I don’t really flirt either but I can recognise when guys are trying it on with me and I can smooth talk them into buying my drinks.
I don't get flirting either. Sometimes I can tell someone is trying to flirt with me but even if i'm interested I don't flirt back because i'm unsure of how it's done and I don't wanna look stupid. I rather ask someone to be direct with how they feel if I notice an interest and I have one too.