Is it normal if i dont want to hang out with my boyfriends friends

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Ok so i have social anxiety and recently me and this guy started going out. Like i started pushing myself tontalk to people and it started working kinda, like i felt wierd but i would get comftrable little by little. we took things a bit fast like we talked for like two weeks before we started dating. hes pretty cool and i didnt feel so shy and akward around him anymore but Everytime i put myself in a situation where i feel extremly akward its like i take i take two steps back. So the other day he asked me tomhang out with him and hisnfriends and i was like ok suck it up you have to do this so i went. Well my anxiety was going crazy the whole time and i couldnt get off my phone. Like i guess them being like his closest friends made me sooooo nervous like i had nasty moths in my stomach before i got to his place and i was like ok breathe in and out in and out . Well after being with his friends for a little me and him wentboff by ourselfs but it was like the akwardness i felt followed me and i started feeling akward around him. Well in the end i felt like the day went horrible and his friends are cool dont get me wrong but i feel like i gave off a wrong impression but i dont know you know ? Its so hard tor me and it just made me feel like shit. Amd henwants me to go with him and his friend to hang out tomorrow and i really dont want to :/ is it normal? Like wtf am I normal ?

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    You need to relax. I know. Easier said than done. But seriously, calm down. Everythings gonna be ok. I get nervous around people sometimes too. Maybe its time you let your boyfriend know about this anxiety you get. He is your boyfriend, so he should be understanding about it. Tell him that you feel really nervous around his friends.

    By the way, why exactly are you nervous/awkward around his friends? Is it because you're worried they won't like you? I'm guessing thats probably the reason. I get that way around new people/strangers sometimes too. So explain that to your boyfriend. And just relax.

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  • Mrar
    8 years ago

    If they're not nice people it could say something about your boyfriend.

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  • Jpoe
    11 years ago

    Like i did i told him like a couple of days before i met his friend and i was allim sorry for being akward and i kept saying that and he would just be like its ok its ok but agh i just wish he wouldnt ask me to hang with his friends and yeah it was the fact that they were his closest friend and i was like omg no what am i gonna say to them and it just made me feel shitty but how should i tell him that i dont wanna hang out with his friends like i feel like its a must idk im dumb

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    • Ldizzy1234
      11 years ago

      You're not dumb. A lot of people feel this way sometimes.

      Just tell him that you don't dislike his friends, but you feel socially awkward around them, and that since you guys are kind of just beginning the relationship, you'd rather spend more time with him, where its just the two of you. Then, slowly work your way into his 'circle', little by little until you're comfortable.

      It might help if he gives his friends a little heads up too. He could tell them that you're a little shy or something like that. They might already be able to tell, so maybe you should ask him to tell them something like that just in case they're wondering.

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  • little_freak
    11 years ago

    Of course it's normal.

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