Is it normal if i hate my twenties?

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I'm 22 and I know your twenties is supposed to be like the best time of your life. Not only cause you're young and fresh, but that's when the opportunities come in. However, I'm living it and I'm not enjoying it so much. I'm lost, confused, depressed, and stressed out. I feel like the years have gone by too fast. I still feel like 19 and wish I was still that age so I can have some sort of excuse for the way I am. I'm not immature just not experienced enough to be 22. Yet, at the same time, I wish I was already 30 something and have my life somewhat figured out already and settled down. I wanna do a lot of things but then I don't wanna do anything. I think part of this depression is that I hang out with older people like 26+ including the guy I'm dating. So everyone looks like they know what they want, or know enough to know what they want. My dude already has his own place, his own money, knows how to manage it, has like 4 jobs, done with school, he's basically independent already and I would like to be that already. But damn I am just starting and it's so hard and irritating. It's my life and you have the power to cultivate your life the way you want it to be. But then reality comes in and gets in your way of pursuing your dreams like paying bills, insurance, etc. Blah...I think I just have to grow patience but its so freaken hard. I just want time to fly by already. I have a hard time with persistence and motivation. I'll get motivation and then it disappears and that's when I lose the ability to stay persistent. Idk what to do in order to make my twenties and overall my life right now to go by smoother and faster...

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green_boogers

9 years ago

My twenties were NOT a pleasant decade. It was demanding, tiring, but I had the energy and perseverance to play at the top of my game. I graduated from college, married, had a baby and bought a house all by age 23. That same year I started 100% business travel, graduate studies, and 55 hour work weeks.

The good news was that by age 30, I had a 5 bedroom house and 3 years salary in the stock market. Life's experiences were much kinder and enriching in the decades to follow.

The moral to the story is get off your ass, and remember that the best defense is a good offense. Drifters go nowhere.

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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

I made one of the biggest mistakes of my life in my twenties.

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KeddersPrincess

9 years ago

Well, you're only 22. You have 8 more years of your 20's to go. You've barely experienced them yet.

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TheHallway

9 years ago

I am in the exact situation with you dear ! I literally want to kill myself ! If you dont mind I really wish we can be friends ! Please send me an inbox message and we can talk about our feelings or please simply reply this msg because I am not sure if its a good idea to expose my e-mail on here.

I REALLY WANT TO TALK TO YOU! YOU typed out every-single-thoughts-and-worries deep inside my heart !

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- daydreamer394
  
  9 years ago
  
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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

You are kidding, right? "I wish I was already 30 something and have my life somewhat figured out already". There are plenty 40, 50 and older folks who don't have shit "somewhat figured out".
As a woman, you'd best get off your ass and enjoy your 20's 'cause I guaranty you, you aren't going to be looking forward in time with any pleasure, soon. If this life doesn't suit you, then change it. Go adventuring, get a job you enjoy, volunteer your time at a homeless or animal shelter. There are a thousand ways to change your life, but letting it slide by waiting for some mythical, better future, isn't one of them.
If that doesn't appeal to you, I'll trade you for ten of yours. You can become 32 and I'll become 58, OK?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  That's why I said SOMEWHAT figured out. I know people older than me don't have it together yet but they have enough experiences to understand where they stand in life you annoying f*ck. You always comment jumping to conclusions, your opinions don't matter in that case.
  and its *guarantee not guaranty tha f*ckk...? never saw it spelled that way
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    9 years ago
    
    I was actually trying to be nice and suggest a few things, but you got so fucking UGLY for no reason I can understand, so;
    You know what, you ignorant fuck; guar·an·ty garənˌtē/
    noun: guaranty; plural noun: guaranties
    variant of guarantee
    Really, are you that fucking stupid not to look it up in the dictionary before you blindly attack my spelling? Honey, that is just plain STUPID!
    A child like you need not think herself to be so damn superior when she's crying her eyes out like a little baby, about her crappy fucking life at 22, on IIN.
    You are going to get old and undesirable soon enough. Why push it?
    
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Nokiot9

9 years ago

Don't worry about it. No one lives a care free life. Even in their 20s. I'm halfway thru and I still feel like I'm about to run the bulls or something. I think being 20 and anxiety go hand in hand now a days. Especially if you are paying ypur way thru school and digging yourself into debt at the same time and knowing all the money u put into SS isn't gonna be there by the time you are old enough to use it. And that's just trying to establish yourself. Not counting (hypothetical) social drama, health problems, some people have kids too. Everyone has BS to deal with, some people just have a bigger shovel.

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Stickypudding

9 years ago

See if you can get some Adderall, that will fix you.

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GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

9 years ago

Whether you loved them or hated them your high school years are the best years of your life. You will never again have no other worry in the world other then does so and so think Im cute. Life is survival, us late 20 peeps may look like we know what were doing but half the time we're just along for the ride. ;-)

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  It's not high school years, more like college years. High school years are a joke. I'm talking about twenties, not teens. So you and me are in the same boat.
  
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thr

9 years ago

I thought it wasn't until 25 that your age started being a bad thing.

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