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So my bf doesn't ever want to have sex. We can go on vacation and I need to beg him to have sex. When we do have sex it's like a chore for him. I don't understand we've also been together for a year. He says there's no ideal place to do it. Is it normal he doesn't want to have sex?
There's a lot of possibilities, he's not necessarily homosexual and not attracted to you. If he was always like this, there's the possibility that maybe he has a condition - like Phimosis, where sex isn't pleasant for him and downright hurts. Besides sex, do you have a good relationship? Are you intimate in other ways (kissing) a lot?
All anyone can do is *speculate* based on your question.
What you really need to do is talk to HIM about it - not tons of internet users.
We can click "yes, it's normal" or "no, it's not normal"
but in the end no one here can tell you WHY he doesn't want to have sex ... only he can do that.
It'd be nice to be begged to have sex with someone..
I think i'll start using his technique. Smart man he is!
I went through the exact same thing. Turns out the guy was cheating on me the entire 2 years. I'm not saying thats what he must be doing, but theres a big problem and you need to address it
He either doesn't find you attractive, is secretly gay, is an Asian looking man from space that crash landed onto earth and hid in someone else's body or is just retarded.
maybe he's just had a past of child molestation that he hasn't told you about, or homosexuality OR a psychological condition
Satur9 and gerbalracer both have very good points and reasons, you really do have to talk to him about it :)
maybe hes self conscious. afraid of whether or not his perfomance will be good, will he make you orgasm, will he last long etc.
maybe try to make him more comfortable about it ask if theres anything wrong. make him open up about what his deal is cause it isnt normal for a guy to not want to have sex with his girlfriend.... although it does happen
It all depends on why he won't have sex with you. Is his reason for abstaining the portion about no ideal place?
Could be cheating, depression, homosexuality or boredom with the relationship. Or a combination of. "Could" be. Don't accuse him of being a depressed gay dude unless you never, ever want to have sex with him again!
I'm a guy and realistically the only reason for most of my relationships is sex. Girls are seldom any fun to be with. I think I would begin to prepare myself for the possibility of the end of the relationship.
But, I have no idea who you or your boyfriend are. He may be stressed from work. You may have put on some undesired weight. You will not know why unless you ask the person making the decision.
I would say its pretty normal, are you perhaps rather ugly by any chance?
In any event, you should be more concerned with making sure his laundry is done, shirts are ironed, house is cleaned and meals are cooked instead of thinking about sex all the time.
find a new fella if it bothers u that much i'm sure there r fare more laid who will b interrested coz if it's been a year then just jet him go it's prob for the best
He's obviously self concious. Is his Penis clearly small? Or does he have foreskin he may be embarrased to show?
It sounds like the best answer is talk to him, he might be cheating, or he might want something new and like positions, might be bored of the same routine. Or maybe you want it too much, and he doesn't want it as much
There are many potential reasons for this! He could be conscious about his penis, be low on testosterone, want the moment to be perfect, frightened of getting you pregnant or other risks from sexual intercourse or suffering from erectile dysfunction. He may also be paranoid that he isn't pleasing you, that can limit the desire for sexual activity. You have to remember sex IS a BIG DEAL and some people can be sensitive about it. Haven't you talked to him about it?
fuck him he must like it up the ass he is cheating on you with a man!! knock his balls off
He's prob cheating I mean why else would a guy not wanna fuck his gf or he's nervous about having a little dick
Possibility he's asexual, you never know. Google it before rating it down.
Hes either GAY or well Just has a thing for boys... SEX ROCKS... DUMP HIM AND FUCK ME.LOL
There are so many possible reasons for this. You're obviously not happy with how things are. Let him know that you feel like crap having to beg him for sex, which is something that you should both be enjoying. Tell him he needs to be 100% real with you about the reason why he doesn't wanna have sex with you. You can't go on like this.
he may be asexual? they find anything to do with sex a chore and they will mostly not want to do it
Well it sounds to me like its time ro dump him & find some1 else i have obviously never seen or met u but i promise u would never have to beg me to have sex with u if im in a relationship with u i guess we would be attracted to each other i would also be asking u all the time if i can eat your pussy but maybe thats just me
Not to say this will really work, but try treating him like how a woman would like to be treated. You know, kissed, coarted, loved, snuggles, buy presents for him. Make him feel special, it could be a love issue. I know I can't get significantly turned on if i'm being pressured to have sex, if I'm being treated right I'm much more into it. Wouldn't hurt to try, everyone want to feel loved :P
Its not normal there may be some psychological problems or he is an asexual or might be swinging a different way its a complicated situation xxx
I agree with nolaguy. Unfortunately I have done the same thing to other women. Not proud of it. Just lost attraction and scared to break up:(
he might not be sexually attracted to you. try to make yourself look different one night (maybe a wig and slutty makeup), it will grab his attention. thats for sure.
He very well COULD be gay, or.. he has some deep seeded emotional issue that has ruined his sex drive.
Google asexual. Is a serious issue and may answer some questions for you. Good luck
He might just not have a sex drive, quite a few people don't, and it doesn't mean they don't have a relationship drive, or can't love someone. However if you're expecting lots of sex from your relationship, then you should confront him about it and give him two options: you leave him, or he lets you have friends with benefits (Ovid style).
Most likely, he's not into anymore. He's staying with you right now because he doesn't have anything else lined up. Take the initiative, dump him and move on.
Other possibility: nagging. Don't nag at him for it. Nagging is annoying. The second you say, you never wanta, it's not happening. Just some food for thought.
Just talk to him some people just don't like it. I am very sex active but my wife after three years no more kissing hugging and no more sex but down inside she loves me maybe he is like my wife
Wanting the love with no sex.
I Dont buy the molested theory I know that to be almost opposite, maby gay however after 1 year u should really be concernd, can u communicate with each other? Explore in fantasy different sceans and see what works sometimes talking about sex is sexier,discovering what gets each other hot,Depending on your value system it could open a million possabilities.Are you to love struck to move along? If younger thats the only advice of substance.Peace...
Buy something sexy...heels, fishnets, a garter and if he says no then, he's probably gay..
maybe you need to try something new or maybe he not turn on by your or he ma have issue that he doesnt want to talk about
This just screams normal. Why is it weird for somebody not to like Sex? I think it sounds weird to think all boys and girls need to have sex. I don't like the sound of sex but to get a baby I will go with it. Ironic I think babies are not cute.
if a girl has to beg for sex, either you a gross / smelly, he is tired to the point of a medical problem or he is gay. I recently had a friend of mine who had to beg her BF for sex, and she FINALLY dumped his ass.