Is it normal my boyfriend doesn't leave his condo? (glitched)

My boyfriend is 23 and just got out of school. He's an artist so he works at home, and has a very large friends circle, but never goes out to talk to them or anything. We've been together for 2 years and rarely go on dates unless it's hanging out at his place. He's always been a homebody but it's never been this strong.

He gets his groceries, art supplies, and clothes, delivered to him.
Works at home.
Works out in the gym in his building.
And goes days, sometimes weeks without leaving his building unless it's to ship out a piece.

He's not depressed, he actually seems to do really well mentally, and he makes a /lot/ of money with his art so he has no limits with getting things delivered, and always has new games and gadgets in his place to keep him busy. He also is well known through a lot of social media apps and online communities and is always video chatting people.

Never going outside seems to work for him, but I'm still worried that it could be harmful or that he will fall into depression if he keeps isolating himself like he does.

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Based on 17 votes (8 yes)
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Comments ( 13 )
  • herpesfreesince93

    He is boring you because he has all that money and doesn't wanna spend it on you like you hoped he would.

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  • Keepsake

    He's a shut in. Some people are capable and fine with that lifestyle, others are not. From the sounds of it, his life pretty much revolves around the internet.

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  • McBean

    Only a highly introverted personality can do that. Take him out for walks or biking followed by breakfast or coffee at some low priced but trendy bistro along the way. You will have to take the initiative on this, but he should go along with you. Introverts are much more invested in their friends than you would think.

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  • HornyAsian

    Help him.

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  • MangoTango

    Hello? Internet enables everything these days. I have a job that lets me do this too. Gee, maybe I should meet your boyfriend. I like his routine. All great to me.

    When I'm working, I get absorbed in my assignments. I have had plenty of stuff delivered to my door. I won't leave the house for a few days.

    I'm not as stuck on staying home like him though. I like going to an office for meetings, collaborating, and whatever else 2-3 days a week. I do go to a gym 4x/week. I get out of the house to go biking, or other outdoorsy things.

    He's normal for an introvert that's social online. Sounds kind of awesome to me.

    He's not isolating like someone that's seeking seclusion due to depression or anything. He's likely just got a good routine that works for him.

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  • SmokeEverything

    He just doesn't have any real interests, so he does nothing.

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  • He's on the top floor of his building and has a balcony with a great view he says he gets a lot of his inspiration from. But for the main part he's a fantasy artist, paints/carves dragons and trolls and such and does commissions of other people's ideas.

    But you're right, I'll talk with him more about why he gets nervous about leaving the house for dates and all.

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    • MangoTango

      Fantasy art? Even better. Alright, who is he? I like this.

      Actually, if you want him to get out more, tell him he needs to do self-promotion. That might mean exhibits, or whatever else.

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  • this kind of lifestyle is bad for mental health.

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  • benvigil

    he's gonna get gondeas, jondeous, jondeas , hell you know what i mean, damnit!

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  • bubsy

    Art or any creative medium is often a very lonely, solitary pursuit. It can seem like there isn't ever a reason to leave your computer. There's no office banter or small talk with the secretaries involved. You miss it more than you think.

    But no matter how introverted he is, hardly going outside is unhealthy and will hurt him. As his gf you should encourage him to go out, and have dates that involve leaving the house.

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    • Thank you for this.

      He's been offered a chance to do a mural which should get him outside if he takes the opportunity. I'll do what I can to push him towards it

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  • charli.m

    Have you raised your concerns with him?

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