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My cousin lost her mom a few days ago she didn't laugh first two days now she is laughing a lot making jokes about anything everything laughing hard going out with friends laughing. Does she not care her mom died?
New photos her friends took of her on Instagram she's smiling wide in them...
I found out one of my very close friends died suddenly of bacterial meningitis out of nowhere when I was quite young (I think like 15), and immediately laughed even though I was shocked and devastated. I had no idea at the time why I had that response & immediately felt awful. But apparently it's a common response to sudden trauma & albeiet insensitive, it's more of a coping reaction than a deliberate action aimed at disrespecting the situation. A lot of people do weird shit when they are grieving and in shock. Just try to be understanding.
If she does it again, punch her in the vag.
Sorry for your loss. Losing people sucks cocks.
It's most likely a side effect of a stress reaction to the death of her mom.
This will likely change in time. Not sure if that will be days, weeks, months, or years.... as she works the loss out in her head.
Maybe it's just part of the grieving process.
When my mother lost her baby, she was acting normal. Like nothing had happened. Then she told me after leaving the hospital, was when it finally hit her. Some people do that when they're in shock. But it doesn't matter if your cousin doesn't care that her mom died anyways. Eventually, people move on and will forget about you, some faster than others.
When I was a senior in high school, a really cool and well liked server at the restaurant I bussed tables at was murdered. When I went to school and told my friend who worked there also, we both started laughing about the news, and we're standing there telling each other like "dude, idk why I'm laughing right now, this is horrible news, but I can't help it."
I have no clue what caused us to involuntarily chuckle in that moment despite being saddened by the news. My mom said I did that when she told me about my dad dying when I was 5 also.
I guess it's just a function of not knowing how to properly process death, and at the time, I hadn't experienced a lot of loss.
Idk mourning is weird it hits you in spots. She may have forgotten in this brief moments then remembered again and got sad again. When my grandaddy died I didnt cry until years later.
It may be her way of coping with things. When I lost my step-dad I was close to and had already cried for a few days or so, I got into a giggly mood one day and made jokes and laughed because it seemed I just couldn't stand to be sad anymore. I don't know how else to explain it. I think it was kind of my mind's way of trying to cope with the stress of the situation. Of course, it came in waves after that, and it didn't really seem like he was gone for a long time, just on a vacation or something.
I've always had a nervous laughter problem as well, especially when I was younger. If there was a lot of pressure not to laugh, I would really struggle not to. I'd nervously laugh while getting scolded (which, of course, infuriated the adults scolding me because they thought I was being intentionally disrespectful), and even during a very serious situation that I absolutely hated having that reaction towards. I'm much better about it these days, but it was horrible as a kid/teen.
Laughing might be a coping mechanism for stress and major life changes. It is not normal she might suffer from mental health issues I suggest seeking a therapist
I was like that after my grandma died (we were pretty close) but I was just 10 years old and likely in denial to some extent. People deal with things differently. I was really sad but couldnt cry at the funeral and I was playing with my cousin after the funeral, laughing and having fun but I wasnt happy inside. I dont remember much of that time in my life likely because i've surpressed the entire grieving period (since I have very clear memory of my entire childhood otherwise) but its very likely that to outsiders I appeared fine.
Laughter can be a coping mechanism for some. It helps to lighten the mood when if you didn't laugh you'd cry. It doesn't necessarily indicate a feeling of indifference.
If the relationship said person had with their mother was good while she was still alive, the chances are they very much care, but don't want to cry in front of people they know.
Do you expect her to cry and weep and mourn for the remainder of her life? People have to get over these things eventually