Is it normal my sister does this? what can i do?

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My 47 year old sister-in-law has been married and divorced three times now and in all likelihood she'll do it again. She has many irritating flaws but the one I hate the most is when I hear her giving people relationship advice. It's like listening to an obese woman give people tips on weight loss. When I hear her dish out guidance on how to manage a relationship I nearly lose it. I want to scream, "Shut the fuck up!" But I can't because she's my husband's sister.

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    I'm sure others are thinking the same thing. There's nothing you can do for people that are in denial.

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  • ilovetoiletrolls
    9 years ago

    Hey now, I actually got some tips for weight loss once from an obese woman because she used to be a fitness coach before hypothyroidism and PCOS took over her life so she had loads of great tips. But this is in a completely different ballpark so I definitely hear ya! That's rough, man. I'd hate to be stuck with a sister-in-law like that. I'm sure if the others are aware of her multiple divorces, they aren't taking her advice seriously so it's probably just to be polite. Maybe? Why don't you actually ask her why she does that in the most polite way possible?

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    • qld37
      9 years ago

      before she started stuffing her face*

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      • ilovetoiletrolls
        9 years ago

        Nah man she has hypo and pcos as I stated so she gained it while she was still active as a coach. She worked out every day and coached lots/ate healthy.

        She's one of those fitness/health addicts so she doesn't eat garbage or over 1200 calories a day but she noticed she was gaining weight for no reason..went to the doc and her hormones/thyroid were horribly off. She's been on meds but doesn't help much as she kept gaining and can't ever keep the weight off even when she loses it. It's sad but she had to quit.

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        • perfectxsilence
          9 years ago

          I have pcos and hypo too and it sucks. I always ate healthy and remember when I was working out every other day at the gym and boom, I started gaining. I thought it was muscle so I was kinda proud but then I realized it wasn't and I was beyond confused. It's tough and I went crazy once and exercised nearly 4 hours a day but only managed one pound. Talk about stuck in a rut. I feel for your friend! Can't lose weight no matter what I try or eat.

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        • qld37
          9 years ago

          I don't know. In this instance, all that I can do is relate my own experience.

          I managed to stuff my face quite well, until I was 120Kg. Doctors were calling me morbidly obese. To be honest, I didn't much appreciate that term. I decided, soon after that, that I needed to change.

          I know what caused it. I had no excuses. I was shoveling food in to my face faster than my body could use it. I had to accept my self inflicted situation and make the choice. I did not want to be fat and ugly.

          I am really close to my goal weight, now. Losing 10's of Kilo's initially was easy. It does get harder and harder. I just finally hit 78Kg. I want to just lose 2Kg more. It has been 17 years since I last weighed 78Kg.

          I see fat people, everywhere. Your friend may well have a medical condition. But, I suspect most fat people don't. Most simply need to want to be thinner, healthier and sexier. Not necessarily in that order.

          Unless you're with your friend 24/7, you really don't and can't know that she's not stuffing her face.

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    1 year ago

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  • charli.m
    9 years ago

    It is possible to learn from the mistakes we and others make, you know. What we learn from our mistakes, we can pass on as advice.

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  • thr
    9 years ago

    You can let her. If you think she is potentially harming with bad advice, then, perhaps, state your disagreement and offer your own.

    If the person receiving advice knows her history, then they can choose to take the advice with a grain of salt.

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  • perfectxsilence
    9 years ago

    I'd definitely find that highly annoying. Can't you just ask her about it/joke with her about it?

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  • PrincessEmeraldii
    9 years ago

    Kindly ask her why she is trying to give relationship advice when she can not keep a man herself. Then watch her crumble ;-)

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