Is it normal my teacher told me he likes my body?

Ok so I've been kind confused the past day cause I saw my teacher at the store yesterday (I'm 17) and he is about 40ish or late thirties and he said hi to me and I talked to him for like half an hour in the bookstore and we had a cup of coffee together and he kept looking at my boobs but I get that a lot so I just ignored it but he started asking me personal questions and he stroked my thighs a lot making me really uncomfortable... So I told him I have to leave and he is like all sympathetic and he said "aw alright. Hey by the way, I don't mean to be a creeper on you but I think your body looks magnificent in that." And he gave me a hug.
It made me pretty uncomfortable but it kind of felt like I was letting him do that cause I kind of wanted him to but then I felt disgusting. This isn't fake guys. I just want some advice.

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  • Avant-Garde

    You need to avoid him and try not to get in situations where you will have to be alone with him. You are a minor (I assume) and you're his student. Therefore, his behaviour towards you is extremely inappropriate. If he tries anything else with you, don't hesitate to report him.

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    • Littlebadgirl

      Yes, she said she's 17.

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      • Avant-Garde

        True, but in some countries the legal age is younger than 18. Therefore, I wasn't sure.

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        • thinkingaboutit

          Yeah, she's in high school. Even if she was 18, he'd lose his job in a heartbeat.

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          • Avant-Garde

            I know that why I stated that since she was still his student (age aside), that his behaviour was highly inappropriate.

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  • Hippie

    Yiick. I'd say just avoid him outside of school and just act normally in class if you can still stand to be there.
    Further advances from him would probably call for you to notify your parents and the principle if not already.

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  • twinklesstar

    If you have a close relationship to your parent tell them about what happen, having other people that knows is better just in case, if you can't confide in your parents confide with people close to you that are not at your school (avoids unwanted rumours spreading). Since in situation like that he is the teacher so he has the upper hand, you never know if he makes another move or force you with is autority into something you don't want. Since you already confide in someone about the previous advances it will be easier psychologicaly for you to go back to them if needed to confide and eventually tell on him if he tries anything wrong. Also pay attention to where you are at schools and all no staying alone with him , going in isolated corridors, leaving late and alone.Also, do not talk tohim outside of school , show him clearly that you do not approve of this and he will be to scared to risk it.

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  • Vanguard

    I'd avoid him at all costs, that sort of behavior is disgusting.

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  • Chut

    Yes I am sure he want to eat ur body. If u want thn allow him or just avoid him

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  • Moneybagschest

    NO he was being a creep and coming on to you. This is grossly inappropriate. I think he was looking to have sex with you. He should know better and should control himself. You should report him first to the school board and after to the police. You are not safe around this man if he does not know how to keep his filthy hands to himself. Report it before he thinks he can get away with this shit. This is absolutely disgusting.

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  • Imsupernormal

    Fuck his brains out :)

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  • *stripedcandy*

    I definitely agree that you should avoid him, but why not report him as well? If it's happened to you--who's to say it won't happen to another classmate of yours? Don't let him think it's okay to speak and interact with someone like that in public. Tell your parents now. If you felt disgusted then you felt disgusted. No ifs ands or buts. Nip it in the bud.

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  • thinkingaboutit

    You can complain and he can get in pretty substantial shit. He can however deny it ever happened, especially if it happened outside of school.

    I suggest you are assertive about this. Start recording with your phone, get him alone after class, and say "What you did and said made me feel extremely uncomfortable and violated. If you do it again, I will report you". If he starts treating you unfairly, you have proof. I don't think you should let him get away with this by avoiding him. it's not okay, he's using his authority and your fear to get off.

    anywho, just be positive.

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  • CaramelChrissy

    Like everyone else said. Avoid, avoid, avoid. When you get back to school and he is still acting this way or looking at you the same way just tell your parents and report him.

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  • prasatko

    As you wrote: "it kind of felt like I was letting him do that cause I kind of wanted him to ". And now you are accusing him of responsing to your behaviour....
    Of course he should have ignored you - probably he is quite naive in spite of his age, so I do not think that he has done the right thing but I would not make him a criminal because of his inappropriate reactions to your provoking behaviour.
    Let it be and do not trap him into situations like this in future and everything will be OK, for you and for him too.

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  • question1522

    tell some one

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  • Alyssajade143

    You don't wanna get raped stay away from him.

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  • Naamah

    To be honest, I think it was kind of silly of you to let him do that cause you kind of WANTED him to and then feel disgusted by that. Such behaviour is quite mean. You should realize that you are the source of confusion because you yourself have had mixed feelings about the issue. OK, he should have been aware that many women of your age are as silly as you are in these matters and not follow your signals which may have encouraged him to behave that way to you. You can avoid such uncomfortable situations to a great extend if you don't have a coffee with him or anyone else in a private setting, show off and let the guy touch you as long as there is a danger you might be disgusted by it later.

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    • *stripedcandy*

      He should have been aware that he is a middle aged school teacher coming onto a 17 year old girl. He should have also been aware that it's highly inappropriate and unprofessional. He should have also been aware that he is in a position where students can look up to him and feel safe--not uncomfortable and disgusted. Such behavior is wrong and completely uncalled for. He's a grown man who's had enough experience to know how to interpret signals--especially those coming from one of his students. You need to reread the post and understand that this is a violation of trust and personal space.

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      • Naamah

        I don't need to reread the original post. I didn't say that he hadn't done any mistake, nor did I say that his behaviour was appropriate. I agree with you that he should have been aware of his position and he should have used experience to interpret the signals in non-sexual way.
        I just think that both of them are to blame for what happened. As I wasn´t writing to the teacher but to the OP, I focused on her possible mistakes which might have lead to that situation. Moreover, the teacher's mistakes were the subject of other posts in this thread. However, if the OP was the teacher, I would have focused more on his contribution to what had happened.

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  • Zucchinipod

    Oh "not to be a total creeper or anything" pshhhh. It's so lame and disgusting. Doesn't matter what age difference, etc, bottom line is: if he's comfortable enough to do this, what kind of pervy desperate stuff does he actually hide? Really unprofessional and losery.

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  • BlueRose13

    So illegal it isn't even funny. Tell your parents, the principal, and of course the POLICE! NOW! WHY ARE YOU READING? THAT IS SO AGAINST THE LAW!!!!!

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  • YourHairsOnFire

    You should tell him about how it makes you uncomfortable. If he won't stop then contact the school board.

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  • DADNSCAL

    Report this. He's probably done this to other girls, and must e stopped.

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  • sweetcheeks21

    1 of my maths teachers in high school got done 4 kerb crawling :/ he was all over the papers the pervert

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  • ButterflyXxx

    OMG! :O you poor girl ... I'd say that if you told on him now he'd probably deny it so I know it sounds risky but if you could don't go out without someone you trust and a video camera and a voice recorder I'd say to try to get into that situation again and try to get whatever it is a friend or relative to video it and you use the voice recorder it might'nt happen very soon so maybe go with accusing him after class and recording his reaction to show to the cops/police/gardaí/principal/headmaster or whatever it is !!! Hope This Helps Xxx

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  • birdmany

    In the end it is your call.

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  • musiciswithinmysoul

    freak

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  • Justsomejerk

    Do yo have a school councillor you can talk to?

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    • dude_Jones

      Don't keep this stress bottled up inside you. If you fear a reprisal, tell the counselor that. Say that it is a teacher, but you don't want to say his name.

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  • lufa

    Obviously he's sexually attracted to you and this is completely inappropriate in his situation-as your teacher. If he ever tries to make a pass at you again, tell him very clearly that you don't appreciate it and that if he tries anything again you will report him.

    Also let a close friend or family member know in case you need backup or support. Sometimes students are attracted to their teachers in which case they can get away with it. But of course if you aren't then you need to draw a line with him that he cannot cross unless he wants to face serious consequences.

    Nowadays even allegations of pedophilia can utterly destroy a person's life, so you have this weapon-use it carefully and wisely. I should add, you should consider changing classes (so he's not your teacher anymore) and if this escalate, speak to the school's guidance counsellor.

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  • SuperBenzid

    Teachers shouldn't be attempting relationships with their students and that is definitely what he is doing. I think the best thing for you to get it strongly in your head that you do not want to be with him in any way and meet any further advances with firm refusal. The best way to handle these things is to be up front and clearly show your disinterest.

    I think you weren't as clear as you could of been, which is not your fault, but it would be better to be clear in future.

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  • lotsofstuff

    Oh my gosh. Stay away from him. Even in class try to stay away from him. You need to tell your parents or an adult you trust. I had a teacher almost like that. Whenever a boy got in trouble he'd send them in the hall. Whenever a girl got in trouble he sat them by his desk and stared at her body. He got fired but you should really tell someone.

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  • CptBallbag

    Unless you want to fuck him, stay away from him or report him.

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  • boehawk

    It would have been inappropriate for any man that age to touch a girl your age like that and make a comment like that but for a teacher to do that , even off school grounds , crosses even more lines that should never be crossed. Talk to your parents and some one at school, the dean of girls , a Counsler , a female teacher you trust , keep telling adults till some one listens and believes you . You can even go to the police , they have cops that work with kids in cases like this . I doubt this is the first time he flirted with a student and if he's not stopped it won't be the last . And very likely it's went farther than a stroke on the thigh before .

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