Is it normal my tuition teacher treated me this way?

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It's been bugging me for years. When I was 8 years old, my dad got me a tuition teacher. (at home, private tuition) I remember I cried at almost all of her lessons because she scolded me often (a long lecture following afterwards), as I was too shy to tell her 'I've finished my work' and ask questions. I was a shy kid.

She ALWAYS told me that 'if I continued to be like this (shy kid) I would be a failure in life/job/ect'. Pretty much mocked me at every lesson, so I started to dislike her.

There was one thing she said that was extremely insulting. At that time, my parents bought whatever I needed for me, so I didn't have to buy it myself. The tuition teacher just happily assumed that I didn't know how to buy things and mocked me by saying her daughter (who was younger than me) already knew how to buy things from the supermarket, while me, a hopeless case.

In addition she also said I won't be able to count money in future and would die a hobo ._.

I thought that was bad enough, but I still can't believe she also told her other students that she had a student (aka me) who didn't know how to buy things, and told me that her other students couldn't believe it and some even laughed. Needless to say, I cried.

Then at one lesson, she said she 'wanted to help me with my issues'. I found myself at the 'child therapy' center about a week later. (I didn't know I actually got sent for therapy back then, but when I thought about it, it made sense so I came to that conclusion.)She had somehow convinced my mother to actually send me to therapy, but ha, I didn't go there again after the first time. The tuition teacher thought I had a 'mental illness', seriously.

All these events happened when I was age 8 to 10. My life was absolute hell back then during that period, with her constant mocking. To think she sent me for fucking THERAPY at age 9! I don't have mental issues, ok, nor is there anything wrong with being shy.

I was jumping for joy when my father finally fired her from teaching me any longer. It turned out he found out about how she insulted me frequently, so...YES! (I was too reluctant to complain, because I thought my studies would worsen if tuition was axed, but I'm actually doing better without tuition now.)I extremely dislike/hate this tuition teacher even now.

So, is it normal for her to have treated me this way, because I was a shy kid back then?

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  • moomus
    13 years ago

    She sounds like an insecure bitch who picks on people younger than her because she can't stand up to people her own age. More than likely she needs the therapy. She's a bully. Karma will get her.

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    • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
      12 years ago

      This.

      You really should talk about your fears with your parents.

      Your father fired her over how she treated you - that alone should tell you that they disagreed with her abusive methods.... which means they will be open to discussing it with you and helping you recover from the abuse.

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  • mumbum
    13 years ago

    Sadistic bitch!! Fuck, I would be pissed off with the memory of that kind of treatment! Hunt her down and corner her now as an adult... Tell her what a worthless piece of shit she is for mistreating a child. Far out! I feel so sorry for you that you had to go through that ... Tender years too! Parents always need to watch who their kids are with. I bet she was as nice as pie to your parents' faces! Get revenge then let it go...

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  • Tobi-Uciha
    12 years ago

    She needs to go fuck a tree, and then streak through the wight house wearing a fake bomb and get tortured by the police to find the master mind of the plan

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You are not mental,or dumb.She was an insecure moron who somehow got into teaching.Its normal she treated you like this,but thats only because people act like it all the time.Only difference is,it doesnt make it right just because its normal.

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  • MooImAFish
    12 years ago

    Some people in this world are like slinkies, completely useless but still bring a smile to your face when you push them down the stairs.

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  • Tobi-Uciha
    12 years ago

    God she must have been a bitch

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  • -WhySoSerious-
    13 years ago

    Wow, of course it wasn't right for her to treat you like that. you were a kid, but you know you can't change the past. If you think something is still bothering you from that period in your life, then get in contact with her.

    Let her know how she made you feel, and that you have turned out fine. Tell her that you think she was a coward, and that she was reflecting her own insecurities at an 8 year old kid. If you don't want to meet her, you can always send her an email too.

    Or you could just forget about it, and treat it as a period in your life and know that you are completely okay. If you'll do that, just make sure you won't think about it too much. Treat it as a closed case that won't reopen.

    She's a bitch...

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  • PoisonFlowers
    13 years ago

    No. She was an insecure sack of shit who picked on you as a kid to make her feel better about herself. Therapy? Pfft, after her treatment, any child would need it!

    Unfortunately, this sort of verbal and psychological abuse is quite common. Not just with teachers, but just other people in general, even parents. I'm glad that your dad realised what was going on and stuck up for you.

    I once had a tutor who made me feel stupid. She was no where near as bad as yours, but she was not very patient and could be condescending. Ugh.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    She's a cunt. She sounds jealous that you had a nice and comfortable lifestyle while she was a tutor. She's disgusting.

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  • Holly^_^
    8 years ago

    OMG I totally feel you! I was a shy kid as well and I was so stressed except it was a group tuition. I had no time for any hobbies.
    She used to insult my parents and despite knowing the fact I was depressed , raised her hands on me :(

    I understand your hatred , she seems like a total sadistic bitch and just doing it for the sake of money. :) I'm so glad you got outta the hellhole and teachers like this are getting quite common.

    However a one that sends a child to THERAPY is fucking insane. That bitch deserved it.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    If ur a grown ass adult and this is still bothering you this much, its probably not normal. I mean, yeahtthat's a really messed up thing to say to a child and if it still is having an impact on u, uight wanna seek professional help

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  • GarlicOlive
    10 years ago

    I take horse riding lessons with my two other sisters every Thursday and there's this really harsh tempered lady named Ms Betty. Anyway, one day she was talking to my 11 year old sister, saying how she was dumber than the horse!! And we were all thinkin in our heads like, come on lady, was wrong with you?! Anyway, we going another horse riding stable place after that one!

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  • momoboo
    12 years ago

    She is weird! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being shy. If I was a teacher, I would rather a child who was quiet and shy than a child who is out there and noisy! How could your parents send you to therapy though? Them living and knowing you way better than the tutor should know you are a perfectly, sweet and normal child. :s

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