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Yesterday I accidentally stumbled into my son as he was taking a shower. I had to take a towel. I busted him panting his fingernails and toenails pink with his mother's paint acting real gay while doing so.My wife said it's just a temporary obsession of his and he will eventually grow tired of it.
Is it normal and should I ground him?
"acting real gay"?
Well you certainly sound judgemental!
What's wrong with him painting his nails?
Just because a boy like to paint his nails doesn't mean he's gay. Regardless of what he is, you should love him no matter what. At least your wife is understanding enough to let him indulge in what he loves!!!!
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Grammar Nazi does not approve of the title of this post. "Is it normal My underage 6yo son paints his nails pink?"
Why is "My" capitalized?
Can you tell me the difference between an underage 6yo, and a non-underage 6yo?
"Yesterday I accidentally stumbled into my son..." If you did stumble into your son, I think some authorities need to be called.
"I busted him panting..." So you've banned him from doing it, so by "busting" him you imply he was doing something you've told him not to do previously...
"...acting real gay while..." Irrelevant. How we act cannot possibly determine our sexual orientation. If it does, then 98% of all sport athletes would be considered gay. They shower with men all the time.
"doing so.My wife..." Spacebar fail - this implies this story was written quickly.
"Is it normal..." Yes.
"...should I ground him?" Only after you go back to school.
Okay, asshole, I'll get in on this too.
"Grammar Nazi does not approve of the title of this post."
Why is the 'Grammar Nazi' talking in third person? Last time I checked whilst writing a formal (I believe this constitutes because of the harsh and hypocritical criticism) statement one shouldn't utilize the third person point of view unless it serves some purpose to the overall message, which it doesn't.
...you've told him not to do previously..."
Might I point out to you that this is an improper use of a ellipses. It could be viewed as correct if you would have ended all previous statements with an ellipses; however, seeing as that is not the case, it's wrong.
"Irrelevant. How we act..."
'Irrelevant' does not contain a subject or verb, which makes it a fragment. Unfortunately you set this so eloquently that it cannot be viewed as anything less than formal. I'm so sorry, but your sentence should read: "Irrelevant, how we act cannot..."
While I'm on that thought, "Actions speak louder than words."
I'm sure you've heard that, and I'll leave it at that.
"...98% of all sport athletes would be considered gay."
Would you mind sharing the source of that statistic with me? I'd love to see who spends their time calculating the percentages of athletes who shower together.
"Spacebar fail - ..."
In hindsight you should have used a semi-colon there, let me correct you.
"Spacebar fail; this implies this story was written quickly."
"Only after you go back to school."
I would have to say it is you, Gelmurag, who should attend school again, or at least pay a little bit more attention in school.
Karma's a bitch, eh, Gelmurag?
Prove to me how internet "forums" are considered formal? This is a reply to an answer, not a cover letter to a business. This is also not written in any particular format. That means MLA, APA, and Chicago style rules do not apply.
Third person can be used as a stylistic approach to a topic where the author is taking an outside stance. In this case I am not a part of the action, because I did not witness the events described in the story. Third person is also acceptable in the use of informal e-mail, blogs, and forum postings. In this particular context, it was used for attention, and only in the introduction.
I did look it up, and you are correct. Ellipses should be used to imply portions of content left out. They should not be used to start the quotation. For this I admit I was wrong. However, it is based on an implied meaning of the sentence before hand. Basically they are redundant at the start of the passage. According to The Bedford Handbook by Diana Hacker. Pages 438 and 439.
Single word sentences are legal. The most common single word sentences answer in the affirmative, and/or the negative. Yes. No. Wrong. Verbs are also able to be used as single word sentences. Jump! If the sentence has an implied subject or object. In this case, Irrelevant implies the son as the object, and the way he is acting as the subject. 'Henry Sweet described them as "a variety of words which have the peculiarity of always forming a sentence by themselves".' The popular television series Star Trek: The Next Generation popularized the single word sentence, "Irrelevent."
I did a simple search, "do sport teams shower together?" The results came back 19 out of 20 (averaged down) that sport teams do shower after a game or practice. I think the context of this one is the problem. I should have mentioned that by showering together I mean within the same room.
As far as my dash is concerned, it is able to be used in place of a semicolon, colon, or coma. <a href="http://oxforddictionaries.com/words/dash" rel="nofollow">http://oxforddictionaries.com/words/dash</a> Note the informal mention.
Karma is indeed a bitch. I would also love to attend school again. It would give me something better to do than read IIN.
I was thinking how unnecessary it was for him to put "underage 6yo". A 6 year old is already underage. If anything, just say my 6 year old.
"ground him"
You sir are lower then low and should be ashamed of yourself!
Let him do what he wants, he's just young! If he does turn out to be gay, do the right thing and love your child for who he is, not what you deem to be correct!
What if he was painting his fingernails black? You would think he is emo or punkrock. Am I right or am I right? You are judging the kid's sexuality based on a color.
Im a school teacher. Trust me, its normal. ALL children like glitter and pink and rainbows when they are little. Its only when they become aware of social standards does that change, and even then, it only changes in kids who are under pressure. Gayness isnt measured in the clothes he wears, the colors he likes or the way he acts, gayness is measures in how many dudes he's slept with, and since he's only 6, the appropriate number is zero. Neither you or he will know for sure what his sexuality is until adolescence, and no amount of pestering or worrying on your behalf will change it then either. Would you stop loving him if he turns out gay? If your answer is yes, then you need examine why your love is so conditional.
God damn, PINK! Is just a fucking color!! Who said blue is for boys and pink is for girls only?!. Really your stupid, and if he turns out to be gay, then he is. Be proud and love your son
Well he's a bit young to know what "acting gay" is, maybe he needs to be around more guys?
Does he have a father role model?
He's your son. Even if he is gay, then you should accept him. It's just who he is. Don't ground him for it-- you can't punish someone for the way they naturally are.
Not to mention the fact that he's SIX YEARS OLD. He was probably just playing!
Yeah, it's normal. The kid is screwing around and having fun. Imitating what he saw Mommy doing as a way to feel out his world and his life and what's fun and what isn't etc.
Don't worry about it until he is 13+.
It seems like you are getting a lot of hateful advice here, so I think I'll take the opposite approach.
There is nothing wrong with you not wanting your son to paint his fingernails or act gay. I think it's your right as a parent to encourage what you think is best for your son or discourage what you don't.
I think you just need to explain to him that boys usually don't paint their fingernails. Simple as that. Maybe you should spend some time together with him and do some guy stuff like going fishing or working on cars or something. Just make sure he's having fun spending time with his dad you know? Encourage him to do stuff that boys like to do. If he realizes that it's making you disappointed in him, he'll probably get the message and stop doing it. Grounding him might be a bit excessive, but you probably know what is best for your son.
All that being said, I am sure that he is just being a normal kid. I'm sure I painted my nails before when I was really little, and I know my older sister probably did some experiments to me and my older brother too lol. She was evil as a child! Oh, and if it helps I'm 20 years old, straight, and although I don't have any kids currently, I like to think I will certainly make a very good parent some day.
Good luck :)
I don't think hes being gay. Hes just fuckin around having fun. Kids do this stuff. He will very likely grow out of it as he ages. You should not ground him for it. Thats rediculous and will teach him that he gets grounded for things when he doesnt understand what he did. A few weeks ago I took those little wiggly eye things that kids use for arts and crafts and super glued them to my fingernails for fun. They were stuck there for a week and I'm 27 and straight. Its just fun to fuck around with stuff sometimes. I even got a pair of steal toed boots with pink hello kitty shoelaces on them. I find it funny to do these things and don't see it as gay.
Hey,a gay guy that I know...he showed signs of being a gay guy. Watch out!
No he isn't "Gay" he is 6. Also what do you mean by "underage"? If you ignore the incident it probably won't happen again.
this is dumb, when I was 6, my brother put on a dress and makeup. when my parents saw it, they started laughing and even took a picture! hes just a kid, and kids like to imitate. Don't worry about it, just let him be, and he will grow out of it.
Ignore what the others say, this is totally normal and natral for his age
most children 4 - 8 then 12 - 15 ( i think its those ages) natrully " explore " thenselfs and all that jazz
Don't ground him this will give him more chance to rebel. Tell him it is wrong once. Then you can ground him because you told him once he and should listen to you. If he does it again tell him to listen to or he will get a worse punishment (whatever you choose as a dad to be a correct punishment) use kind and untoned voices this is a way to make him think your not too mad.
Don't assume over a color! That dosent make him gay.. straight guys like pink ,straight guys don't. It doesn't matter, its the person that chooses to like the color or not. anyone can like any color..and they shouldn't be jugde for liking a certain color
Yeah ground him that'll teach him not to act like one of them thar' queers!
But seriously, if he grows out of it you have nothing to worry about. If he actually ends up gay and you have a problem with it, you are a terrible person.
It's normal for boys of his age to play with things. My son is 8 and he still colors in his nails and by no way does that make him gay and quite frankly I wouldn't care if he was! All children do weird and wonderful things that todays society would deem unacceptable for adults to do and that doesn't make then gay. He is only 6 years old and I agree with an above comment that if he was painting them black would he be classed at emo or goth? No! Don't ground him, wait until he does something actually naughty
If you ground him athleast dont ground him for painting his nails and there is nothing wrong with being gay also hes just 6 hes probadly just fooling around i often made odd things when i was 6 not paint my nails but other odd things...
Let him be teh gay lord he wishes to be!!! You closet fagot it's because of your repressed gayness that dropped into your balls and made him to be the gay lord you are too afraid to be...
Go die now please :D