Is it normal people dont understand consideration?

I always tried to be considerate of other people feelings. My mother especially always telling me why I am a bad person, and I hate her and how I need to consider her feelings, and smile more since when I dont smile she wants to beat me. So she says I am being rude. People dont always understand why I ASK before I do stuff. Most of the time I am trying to make sure I am not upsetting everyone else. Like if there is only so much meat left over I ask if anyone cares if I can finish it. People ask why I bother asking since I should "Do what I want to do" but considerate people give a shit about someone besides themselves.