Is it normal that he texts/messages me constantly?

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So I met this guy at work, he's a nice kid, and he helped me out, showed me around and all that. But when I got home the one night and went on facebook, I saw I had a friend request from him, which is fine.. so I added him, and that was that. But a few days later, I got a text from an unknown number, I asked who it was... and of course. It was him.

I didn't ask how he got my number, but now he won't stop messaging me on facebook and texting me, I don't know what to do. Is it normal for a guy to act like this when I hardly even know him? It's fucking creepy.

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  • GuessWho
    10 years ago

    Send him a link to this page. He'll get the idea.

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  • dinz
    10 years ago

    I would just lay the rules out to him as early as possible.

    Tell him that you appreciate his friendship but please refrain from excessive texts and facebook messages.

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  • ygrowup
    10 years ago

    Just chat with him, and tell him straight up you don't like all the attention and your not interested in him, be the adult here

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  • Matter_and_Energy
    10 years ago

    Some people are just not used to having a friend and haven't quite learned boundaries.

    However getting your number without your permission is another thing entirely. You just don't do that.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    Sorry, I meant to put "block" instead of deleting his number.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    Block him on Facebook and delete his number. If you still work with him make a complaint to the head of your company. If he still insists on bothering you call the police and get a restraining order.

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  • Unlockedone
    10 years ago

    personaly I would let him know that you are unhappy with the amount of mesgs that he is sending you and ask him to dial it down abit

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    When you meet him, tell him (nicely) that you don't like it that much and you want him to text you less. Overall, I think he likes you alot (as a friend). He might be feeling bored and he has no-one to chat to so he just has to chat to you.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Leave poo deposits in his draws.

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  • Johnnytherat
    10 years ago

    just date him & act like a total bi*** he'll go away then

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  • ProseAthlete
    10 years ago

    Nope, not normal. Yep, completely creepy.

    As for what to do, I'm kind of Facebook-stupid, but you should be able to delete him or block him, I think, right? That's a must. Have you told him not to contact you and to stop texting you? Don't worry about being rude or whether you'll offend him; be firm and direct. He had no right to get your number unless you gave it to him, so he's essentially trespassing; you are under no obligation to be polite to a virtual interloper.

    Does he still work with you? If telling him firmly to back off and blocking him from your FB, Twitter and so forth doesn't work, involve your HR department. Dealing with that kind of thing is one of the things they're there for.

    If he just messaged you on Facebook after you added him, that's not creepy; getting your number from unknown means, though, is stalkerish and weird. I'd feel creeped out too. I'm sorry that happened to you.

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